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[1] Magpie: Magpie. Have a nest: Bixing people have established a family.
[2] Pigeon: Turtledove, now called cuckoo, does not build its own nest and lives in the nest of magpies.
[3] Hundred: an imaginary number refers to a large number. Two: the same "car". Yu (yà): Same as "Yao", welcome.
[4] Party: occupation.
[5] Will (jiāng): escort.
[6] surplus: surplus.
[7] Cheng: Wedding ceremony.
This poem is actually a story about magpie and turtledove. Magpies build nests. Turtledoves never build nests, but they live in magpies' nests. There is an idiom "Pigeons occupy a magpie's nest", which we now understand in a derogatory sense as a metaphor for grabbing other people's things. But that's not what the Book of Songs means. Magpies welcome turtledoves to stay.
This poem uses magpies and turtledoves to describe the relationship between men and women. The man has grown up and built a good house. Now he wants to send the married woman in with a gift and is willing to give her the house to live in. Behind the poem, I fantasize about the love between husband and wife after marriage and the happy life of having many children and grandchildren.
It turns out that since ancient times, men have always prepared houses first and then married women to live together. Perhaps, in ancient times, this problem was not complicated at all. Men are willing to give their houses to women and there is no prenuptial agreement.
Today, this problem has evolved into a very complicated one. It doesn't seem too much for a man to have a house before marriage. After all, two people have to have a place to live. But some women ask to sign their names on the house after marriage, which is really a bit bad. If this is the property of one party, the other party can enjoy it but can't possess it.
Now women and men have equal status and enjoy the same rights, which means they need to fulfill the same obligations. Both men and women should contribute to the family. If the contribution gap is too big, we can only say that this marriage is "inappropriate", and such a marriage will have many hidden dangers. Excellent men find excellent women, which has been the case since ancient times.
Ancient women were mostly attached to men, although they didn't have to work outside, but their status at home was extremely low. Nowadays, women can educate their husbands and children at home and support their families outside, so naturally they have more right to speak and men have changed. They also cook and do housework when they go home, which was originally caused by social development.
Only in an equal position can we get along well, and a happy marriage can make both people feel at ease. One party doesn't resent it, and the other party doesn't feel wronged, but if one party feels uncomfortable, it is difficult to be happy in marriage. If one party's career development is blocked, the other party should try to help him tide over the difficulties and not let him fall behind.
Supporting each other's marriage can keep vitality forever. It really means that you can be good to me and the whole family can be good!