Speaking is instinct, and shutting up is practice. People learn to speak from birth and learn to shut up when they grow up. From learning to speak to learning to shut up, this is a person's lifelong homework and practice.
The strong don't talk, only the weak talk. Most strong people have no time to complain and talk. Life will not be bright just because you complain a few more words. And it won't be unimpeded just because of a few more words of blame. A real strong man knows how to rush and endure. Guang Jin, a friend of writer Li Xiao, applied for a loan from the bank and became a contractor. Because of inexperience, the lent money was quickly cheated out. Running around all day paying debts.
By chance, they met in the street and ate and chatted together. After chatting for an afternoon, Guang Jin said nothing about his predicament. Li Xiaolai was confused at first, but later he understood. So what if he said it? What's the use of complaining to everyone? Others can't help. Instead of increasing others' talk, it is better to keep it in your heart, digest it yourself and bear it yourself. Wait until these things are digested, then stand up. You really understand that the strong have no nonsense, and actions are better than all complaints.
Smart people don't argue. In the Song Dynasty, Nantang acceded to the throne and sent a person with a particularly good eloquence-Xu Xuan. At that time, everyone in the court was puzzled. Xu Xuan's eloquence is unparalleled, and no one wants to make a fool of himself with him. The Prime Minister could not choose anyone, so he asked the Emperor Zhao Kuangyin to make up his mind. Zhao Kuangyin said, "All right," and sent an illiterate bodyguard. Xu Xuan originally wanted to kill the prestige of the scholars in the Song Dynasty. But he talked for a long time, and the guard didn't answer him a word. Xu Xuan didn't notice, still yelling. The guard can only say two words: mm-hmm, hey. A few days later, Xu Xuan committed suicide and shut up. Zhao Kuangyin knew the best way was to shut up.
When people are over middle age, everyone is stereotyped. It is very difficult to make a person change, so the world of adults is only screening, not education. It's tiring to argue all the time, and silence is the best response.
Good people don't judge Young writer Jiang experienced one thing. One year, the selection result of Lu Xun's literature prize caused controversy. A reporter called Jiang and asked her to evaluate the work of one of the winners as the deputy editor of the magazine. Jiang Zhoufang politely refused, saying that he had not read each other's works and could not evaluate them. The reporter was resolute and immediately read an award-winning poem and asked questions. Jiang had no choice but to respond: "I really don't know what to think of this poem." Commenting on others casually is a kind of harm to others and a kind of connivance to yourself. Han Han once scolded: Some people don't even know what the cover of my book looks like, so they judge my works. No comments, no right and wrong, is a person's cultivation. Everyone has his own lifestyle and style. Learning to respect and shut up is a person's greatest kindness.
? Benevolent people do not blame. Cao Sujie, Cao Cao's great grandfather, is famous for being generous to others. Once, a neighbor's pig ran away. This pig looks exactly like Cao Jie's. Neighbors found the Cao family and said it was his pig. Cao Jie gave the pig to his neighbor without arguing with him. Later, the neighbor's pig was found, and the neighbor knew that he had done something wrong and apologized again and again. Cao Jie just smiled and didn't blame the neighbors. To err is human. Everyone is not a saint, who can guarantee not to make mistakes all his life? If a mistake can be corrected, that is good. Blaming others blindly is often because you are too angry.
? Learn to shut up and wait patiently. The truth will always surface and misunderstandings will always be dispelled. This is a kind of restraint, but also a kind of cultivation.
? Once there was a small country that paid tribute to three identical gold people, which made the emperor very happy. But this small country also has a question: who is the most valuable of these three gold people? The emperor thought of many ways to ask the jeweler to check, weigh and watch the work, all of which were exactly the same. What are we doing? The messenger is still waiting for a return. A great country doesn't even understand this little thing, does it? Finally, an old minister who abdicated said that he had an idea.
? The emperor invited the emissary to the main hall, and the old minister confidently took three straws and inserted them into the ear of the first gold man. The straw came out of the other ear. The straw of the second gold man fell out directly from his mouth, and the straw of the third gold man fell into his stomach without a sound. The old minister said: the third gold man is the most valuable! The messenger was silent and the answer was correct. I ching said, "Sir, be careful." A real gentleman knows how to keep silent and shut up.
? People who complain less, comment less, argue less and blame less are the most valuable.