There is a joke: in ancient times, the man went to the woman's house to propose marriage. I
There is a joke: in ancient times, the man went to the woman's house to propose marriage. If the man is handsome, the woman will say shyly that lifelong events depend on her parents; If the man looks embarrassed, the woman will say sadly that the child still wants to honor his parents for a few years. When the hero has a chance to save the girl, the girl should commit herself to the other side. If the girl is beautiful, the hero will ask excitedly, is the girl serious? If the girl looks like Zhong Lichun, the hero will politely say that the girl can't get married. Haha, this passage tells us that people are lewd and valuable. This has always been the case. This is regardless of gender, national boundaries and race. That's why. My Fair Lady, Gentleman? Fairy poem, Pan An? Throw fruit at the car? A good story, lust for beauty and imprisonment, is a common scandal or tragedy in today's society. Believe it or not, when several men are together, the topic will definitely involve beautiful women; Several women get together and there is no handsome guy to talk to. Therefore, lewdness is human nature, sex and animal instinct.
It is the lust instinct that urges people to constantly chase, find and have their own partners (spouses). In ancient times, everyone wanted to be an emperor. In addition to the utilitarian heart of ruling the world and moving the ruling and opposition parties, it must be said that sitting on the endless beauty of the world is also one of the driving forces. As a result, although ordinary men and women can't do this, they have their own pursuits. They meet in the vast sea of people, they are eager to know and understand each other, and then peel them off layer by layer, thinking that this is different. In the long years, they were peeled off one by one, and they were all the same in the end.
On the other hand, there are essential differences between humans and animals. People are not only controlled by hormones, but also controlled and restrained by society, environment, system, morality, emotion, public opinion and family. This determines that people can't pursue the so-called lust instinct, shame and consequences without scruple like animals. Thus, in human society, there has been a unique and exclusive love and a mandatory and binding marriage system.
With the above explanation, the next topic is not difficult to understand. In my memory, once love was sacred, marriage was solemn, and it was hooliganism not to love for the purpose of marriage. After decades of dazzling, look at the present, although I dare not say that the world is getting worse, I can only sigh. If nothing else, love and marriage, after my generation of 60 and 70, some people only regard it as a means of curiosity and sensory stimulation. Watching an entertainment news, either the star is cheating or the artist is breaking up and divorcing, or? Little three? Superior or messy? One night stand. ? Looking around again, similar things abound and are commonplace. Falling in love now is cohabitation, which is sex. It is no longer as simple as people thought before, and love and marriage are so clearly divided. I'm not feudal and uncivilized, and I'm young, but I just can't get used to thinking with my lower body. Think about when you were in love, touching your hand, hugging your waist, playing with the fear when the night is hazy at most, hiding and having fun for half a day. That kind of pure excitement and expectation is so beautiful and unforgettable. As for sex, I dare not even think about it. There is no way. Let's talk about it after marriage. As for eating a bowl and stepping on more than two boats in a pot, that is moral corruption and hooliganism, and everyone will be punished. Life as the ancients said? Three exultations? One, leave the most precious and pure things in? Wedding night? Is this not good? You know, the harder it is to get something, the more you will know how to cherish it. On the contrary, you can get it anytime, anywhere. Why should we cherish it? Just like eating delicacies, eating a meal once in a while is delicious and cherished; If you eat every day and every meal, you will be tired in a few days. Will you cherish it?
Some people say, my feelings, my body, I'm in charge, what's it to you? Good question. In today's pursuit of freedom and self-improvement, your dance academy indulges in debauchery and pursues sensory stimulation. To tell the truth, as long as it doesn't interfere with me, it really has nothing to do with me. Just a lifetime, everything has a destiny. What you plant today will surely be harvested tomorrow. This is not what Buddhism calls karma, but the inevitable law of the development of things. In real life, more and more sexually transmitted diseases, AIDS and infertility are caused by disorderly private life and not caring for your body. This topic is not the focus of this article, so stop here. Want to know more can go to Baidu. In addition, from a man's point of view, a woman who doesn't value and cherish her body, a woman who casually rolls sheets with others, is at most a so-called sexual partner, just for fun, not worthy of communication and respect, and not worth paying for love and marriage. A normal man will not push himself into a green dye house and let a green grassland grow on his head.
Therefore, in love and marriage, there must be awe, responsibility and restraint. In other words, you must be loyal to love and marriage. With my limited knowledge, why do most countries and regions in the world, regardless of race, practice monogamy and formulate marriage laws with roughly the same theme? Because of advocating and practicing loyalty to love and marriage. It is precisely because of the desire for loyalty to love and marriage that Shakespeare's masterpiece romeo and Juliet, the sadness in Zweig's Letter to an Unknown Woman, the sadness in Peacock Flying Southeast in Han Yuefu, the evil immortality in Han Yuefu folk songs, and the swan song in Liang Zhu's become a butterfly are born. These masterpieces handed down from generation to generation are full of emotion, blood and tears, and they all express their loyalty to love and marriage. In real life, couples in almost every family have the same attitude towards love and marriage. No one doesn't want the other person to be unfaithful to himself and always be worthy of himself (except for a few special circumstances). In other words, he (she) is required to be loyal to love, and loyalty to marriage can be achieved by being loyal to love.
In my opinion, loyalty to love is respect for one's lover and observance of social public order and good customs; Loyalty to marriage is a compliance with the marriage law and a respect for one's choice. Loyalty is the foundation and bottom line of love and marriage. Once the foundation is lost and the bottom line is broken, love becomes a sharp arrow that hurts people, and the boat of marriage turns over. I really want to see it. When you know that the person you love is having sex with someone else, that kind of injury, that kind of heartache, that kind of madness will definitely make you deeply grieved, lose your reason and lose your love. Maybe, no, I'm sure, no one wants to be involved in this deadly shit.
Generally speaking, women pay more attention to emotion and love and have a more thorough understanding of loyalty. Loyalty is the basic principle of their life, and most women are loyal to love and marriage. As long as a woman really falls in love with a man, there are few cases of betraying love after marriage. As partners, loyalty should be mutual, not unilateral. Only by being loyal to each other can work and life be at ease, marriage and love be happy, and families be harmonious and peaceful. Loyalty can effectively prevent people from philandering, having improper extramarital affairs and cheating, and falling into the trap of promiscuity or lewdness. Without loyalty, love and marriage are like fresh food without preservatives, which will soon deteriorate and stink; Without loyalty, love and marriage are like walking dead, empty in appearance and soulless. Loyalty is like a kite string in the hand, which always leads to the love and marriage life of countless people and families.
Of course, loyalty to love and marriage is not die hard. If your love is gone and your marriage is dead, let go and stop torturing each other. Then love what you love generously. You don't have to hang yourself on a rotten tree, you will be scarred and die ugly.
A person can fall in love n times in his life, but it is best to have only one marriage in his life. I once wrote a passage to the effect that my wife gave me her best years and youth. She struggled to get out of shape, her face was dying, and she risked her life to have a baby for me. I really appreciate her. I have seen many beautiful women and many temptations, but my wife is definitely the best for me. Since you have chosen her, you must be loyal to her, which is the observance and awe of the marriage law and the minimum moral bottom line for being a man. My greatest wish is a family reunion, a plain and healthy life, and a few happy smiles when I get home. As for betrayal and disloyalty, I don't even bother to think about it. Of course, it is still possible to get excited when you see a beautiful woman daydreaming occasionally. What I want to express through this passage is that if you miss a place, the scenery of that place will no longer belong to you, even though it is picturesque and beautiful; If you miss someone, that person's love and marriage will never have anything to do with you, even if he or she once made you feel so excited and emotional. Stick to loyalty and be unmoved by all kinds of temptations. From the moment we are destined to grow old together, should we all? Hold your hand and grow old with your son? Facing difficulties and hardships, facing rain, snow, wind and frost, stepping on rough and muddy, relying on each other until the end of life.
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