A bosom friend is the one who knows himself best. Generally speaking, it refers to mutual understanding and profound friendship, commonly known as friends and bosom friends, not ordinary friends.
Same-sex people want to know themselves, all in one word "sincerity". We should be honest with each other, get along with each other honestly, and match words with deeds. As for whether the interests and hobbies are consistent, whether the educational level and personality characteristics are consistent is secondary. If people of the same sex want to get to know each other, the premise is that they don't need to guard against each other at all times, and they don't need to guard against themselves at all times. If you have the heart to guard against each other and the intention to be guarded by each other, you will never know yourself.
If the opposite sex wants to become a bosom friend, it is on the word "degree". It is impossible for a person to live in the world without knowing one or more opposite sex. In a sense, knowing the opposite sex can fill some emotional gaps between husband and wife or lovers, for example, quarreling between husband and wife, quarreling between lovers, talking to the opposite sex, telling the opposite sex, persuading and even blaming.
Will play a very important role. If you only associate with the opposite sex, you must grasp the word "degree". If you know more than the degree, it will become a burden of feelings, and it is difficult to become a true confidant.
But the next person I want to mention is amazing. He has three confidants. He is the great poet Meng Haoran. Now, let's look at the story of him and his three confidants.
1. A close friend is someone who appreciates you.
Li Bai is a very proud person. Du Fu worships him very much, but he never takes any notice. It's different for Meng Haoran. He sang for Meng Haoran: "Master, I cheer you from my heart, and your reputation has risen to the sky." Such a beautiful sentence. It serves to show that he really appreciates Lao Meng.
Li Bai was twelve years younger than Meng Haoran, and was already a world-famous big coffee. Meng Haoran visited Yangzhou, and Li Bai made a special trip to the Yellow Crane Tower to bid farewell to Lao Meng. At that time, Lao Meng had already left by boat. Li Bai was inspired to write a farewell poem: an old friend left the Yellow Crane Tower in the west, and fireworks went down to Yangzhou in March. My friend's sail shadow faded away and disappeared at the end of the blue sky, only seeing the first line of the Yangtze River and heading for the distant horizon. As soon as this poem came out, Li Bai became famous. Later, the two became old irons.
On the road of life, we really need someone who understands and appreciates us. With such people, positive energy is bursting, and mutual assistance can go further and further.
2. A bosom friend is someone who sincerely wishes you well.
Meng Haoran, a middle-aged man, went to Beijing to take an exam and met Wang Wei. They became friends. Later, Meng Haoran dropped out of the list, but Wang Wei had just been demoted. He invited Meng Haoran to dinner every day, encouraged Lao Meng not to give up, gave him psychological counseling, and let him stay in Chang 'an to find opportunities. The opportunity has finally come. One day, Lao Meng went to Wang Wei's office and just arrived at Wang Wei's office. Unexpectedly, Meng Haoran hid under Wang Wei's bed when he greeted the inspection of Emperor Xuanzong of Tang Dynasty.
Wang Wei had a brainwave and deliberately made a little gesture, so that Xuanzong found someone hiding under the bed. Wang Wei said that this is my friend. He just asked me to write a poem. Ask the emperor for advice? In this way, Meng Haoran got the opportunity to recite poems in front of the emperor. As a friend, Wang Wei really has good intentions. Who would have thought that Meng Haoran's emotional intelligence was not good? I sang "I was exiled by a wise ruler because I made a big mistake. I have been ill for so long that I can't see a friend of mine". As a result, I told the truth and made Tang Xuanzong unhappy. Fortunately, Wang Wei saved his life by saying a good word. I finally couldn't stay in Beijing, so I had to go back to my hometown in Hubei.
Before he left, Wang Wei told him to drink Tian She wine and laugh at ancient books. Just to comfort him, unemployment is nothing to be afraid of, and life is still very beautiful.
A few years later, Wang Wei worked with Prime Minister Zhang Jiuling. He quickly used flying pigeons to spread books and let Meng Haoran show his face in front of the teacher. Meng Haoran's EQ went online this time. He wrote a personal letter from Dongting Lake to Premier Zhang and Zhang Jiuling:
The autumn water rises and almost blends with the shore, mixing water and sky with the sky.
Ozawa's water vapor transpiration on the cloud soil is white, and the waves seem to shake the whole Yueyang.
I'm going to cross the water to find a boat and paddle. It's a shame to return home in the sacred age.
Sitting around watching other people's hard river fishing can only envy the fish caught in the fish.
Zhang Jiuling, read between the lines that Meng Haoran is really talented and always remembers this person. Later, when Zhang Jiuling was transferred to Hubei as an official, he gave Meng Haoran a job as an aide. This is Meng Haoran's life and the only job.
Therefore, a true confidant will help you, push you and enlighten you when you are frustrated. They really want you to have a better life than them.
It is most comfortable to get along with friends.
Meng Haoran got a disease called toxic sore. The doctor told him: you can't eat meat and fish for this disease, and you must stay away from fish. At first, he was particularly taboo and his body was gradually recovering.
One day, his good friend Wang Changling was demoted and passed Xiangyang, so he turned a corner to visit Lao Meng. Lao Meng was moved to tears, asked his daughter-in-law to cook and looked at Wang Changling from a distance. After three rounds of wine, Wang Changling said, Lao Meng, I heard that your specialty tea-headed bream is delicious and I have long wanted to try it. I wonder if I can eat today.
Lao Meng said: Lao Wang, this is no problem. I'll let your sister-in-law arrange it later. Meng Haoran likes this meal very much. When he sent Lao Wang away, he suddenly felt a sharp pain in his back. It turned out that he accidentally ate fish when he was happy on the wine table, which led to a relapse.
When his wife found out, she scolded him for not keeping his mouth shut, but he said, "Friends are hard to find, and intimate friends are even harder to find; Give your life to accompany a gentleman, even if you die, you have no regrets! " After that, he gave his poem to his wife and died.
Wang Changling met Li Bai on the road and heard that Lao Meng had passed away. Both of them cried bitterly. If Meng Haoran knew that the two friends were so sad at this time, he might have died laughing. The allusion of "laying down one's life to accompany a gentleman" in later generations came from this.
A true confidant, a soul mate, can show the truest side in front of each other and get along with each other without being tired at all.
Friends are hard to make, but confidants are even harder to find. When you meet such a confidant, you must cherish it.