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When I was young, I read the poem "I love you, it has nothing to do with you", and I was once moved.
"I love you, it has nothing to do with you.
Even endless thoughts at night
It belongs only to myself. ...
Really?
It belongs only to my heart.
As long as you can be happy
My sadness, you don't tube "
Humility of love, forbearance of love, selflessness of love, and deep love.
However, people are not old, and I don't know when the feeling of "I love you, it has nothing to do with you" has completely changed.
"I love you, I just want to love you and get you, which has nothing to do with you."
The former is selfless and awe-inspiring, while the latter is selfish and arrogant.
The same is for love, the same is for people's hearts, but there is a world of difference in meaning, which is outrageous.
On Tik Tok, I saw such a short video that a young woman showed off her marriage certificate and divorce certificate, and then she fell in love with a man with the caption "I love you, it's none of your business, I'm divorced, do whatever you want".
Many people commented in the message:
It's none of his business that you love him, so what are you doing at Art's house? Then why did you go public? In case the whole world doesn't know your mind? ……
Young women are obviously a third party, interfering in other people's feelings and oppressing each other openly and secretly under the banner of true love "I love you and have nothing to do with you".
I feel very brave and generous, but the end is just touching myself. Si Mazhao's heart is well known, but he wears a noble coat.
Very funny and shameless.
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I don't know if the third party graduated from the same college, but the routines are mostly the same.
"I love you has nothing to do with you", "I love you is my own business, and you don't have to bear it", "I love you willingly, and it has nothing to do with you" and so on.
At first sight, I was moved by a burst of blood boiling: how brave and selfless!
But the fact is, the third party is just stepping on other people's happiness and deceiving their love with the aura of "true love".
Lingling is the most typical example in my first half life.
Married, she fell in love with married Chen. Instead of taking tough measures to force Chen to divorce, she skillfully used a sentence "I love you, it has nothing to do with you" to win Chen's sympathy.
Then put emotional pressure on Chen step by step. Play hard to get, step by step, and finally divorce him.
After she first met Chen's wife Luo Zijun, she gave Chen a big trick:
"Never mind, I like you myself, and I don't blame you."
"Sheng Jun, liking you is my own business, not your business."
"Whether I say it or not will not affect my love for you anyway."
This kind of tenderness, this kind of understanding, is a man in crazy love, it is no wonder that Chen.
But Chen was indecisive, and at that time he couldn't bear to let Luo Zijun down. Then Lingling played a real trick.
Give Chen stomach medicine in the middle of the night; Pretend to tell Chen that he is tired and wants to resign; Also hacked Chen, euphemistically called "no longer disturb" ......
Delicate, soft and hard, stimulating Chen's guilt, protective desire and self-esteem everywhere, saying "I love you has nothing to do with you"?
What a pure and innocent Bai Lianhua!
What a big lie "I love you, it has nothing to do with you"!
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What's more, I "love" each other to a dead end in my life-my career was ruined and my family turned against me.
For example, Yuan Zidan, the third party in the TV series "Number One Ex-wife".
She was deeply in love with her boss Han Bin, but Han Bin was a close friend of her late brother and always regarded her as her sister.
Han Bin didn't want to hurt her, and explained it to her several times, but she always had a "I love you, it's nothing to do with you" attitude.
At work, she has outstanding ability, and is Han Bin's right-hand man, but she is also deep-minded, and she will do whatever it takes to achieve her goal. Han Bin and his wife, Lin Duoyu, urged him to divorce many times during the Cold War.
I also found Lin Duoyu to persuade her to let go, wearing a ring that I don't know where it came from and lied to Lin Duoyu that it was sent by Han Bin.
Lin Duo was so angry that he sent Han Bin a divorce agreement directly. Han Bin didn't know why, so he signed it in a rage.
In fact, he doesn't want to leave. After he calmed down, he locked up the divorce agreement and put it away, but in the end it was secretly sent by Yuan Zidan.
Later, Han Bin's mother came to see a doctor.
She didn't know that her son and daughter-in-law even signed a divorce agreement at the moment of the Cold War. Han Bin and his wife didn't intend to divorce, fearing that their mother was in poor health and would avoid her.
Yuan Zidan kept pestering Han Bin and even told Han Mu that Han Bin had divorced.
Han's mother likes her daughter-in-law very much. When she learned about it, she fainted and was taken to the hospital. She also threatened to sever the mother-child relationship with Han Bin.
In the company, Yuan Zidan "helped" Han Bin to lay off many employees, and also "helped" him to come up with an idea of betraying his old club. Han Bin didn't agree, but she plausibly said:
I'm doing this for your own good and for your future.
It is also because of her love for you that she finally cooperated with others behind Han Bin's back, using Han Bin's company as collateral and operating with his identity information.
She wants to give Han Bin a surprise by mortgaging one company in exchange for the success of two companies.
Then Han Bin will thank her and accept her.
At the beginning, I said, "I want to love you myself, which has nothing to do with you." "As long as you are happy, I won't get in your way." ......
It turns out that this is just a cover, and behind the touching love words is her selfish, dark and daring lust.
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If you really love someone, you will want to have it first (unless you can't have it).
As long as the emotion is horizontal in the heart, it will lead the action involuntarily. If you really love someone, the power of love will drive him to show something.
So, I love you, why is it none of your business?
It's just that the third party is a shady identity after all.
Since feelings can't be aboveboard, we have to use high-sounding excuses to impress ourselves and deceive others.
Unfortunately, everyone who has loved it knows that "true love" is not a light word, but a kind of affectionate weight.
Most people don't say it easily. If they can walk freely in their mouths, they must be prepared and purposeful-"OK".
The purpose is inseparable from possession, or use, or even crash and burn, but which one of them will be "nothing to do with you"?
Love is beautiful because it is consensual.
Or like that poem, silence and single-mindedness, pure love, is worthy of respect.
But when your feelings hurt others and ruin their happiness,
Please don't brazenly give yourself lust, and put on the top hat of "true love".
Please don't flaunt your bravery in love. That's not love.
As a third party in the relationship between men and women, if the other party is willing, you have already hurt the other party, and if the other party is unwilling, you have hurt two people at the same time.
Ignore others, grab feelings, love so selfish and dirty, but boast that "I love you has nothing to do with you". What a thick pigskin!
The real "I love you has nothing to do with you" is that your feelings have not caused any persecution or burden to each other.
Is to give you freedom and see your happiness; Is willing, silently waiting.
Just like gold versus forest.