Some people will die of old age, hate their teeth, and some people choose to laugh it off.
Seeing that person again after many years, you don't hate him, but his words and deeds have taken root in your heart and will sting you from time to time.
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One day, I took my colleague girl B to tell her love story with her husband.
With a sigh, she said that her and her husband's stories were all bitter and there was nothing to talk about.
When I pestered her, she told me the love story between her and him.
"The first time we met was on the basketball court, and then there was a contradiction. He is very cheap and always talks about me. "
"A few days later, we met again at the class reunion."
"I was surprised when I saw him, and I didn't say angrily to my classmate, how did the dead man come over?"
"The students immediately defended him, saying that he is a very easy-going person, but his mouth is damaged."
"He also told me in front of me, why is this fat man here?"
"We met several times and broke up in discord. My impression of him is not good at all."
Coincidentally, in the next contact, feelings gradually developed.
When I was madly in love, he was very kind to me, and I enjoyed this love happily. Even if I got pregnant later, even though I knew he had both sides, I chose him.
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In this way, we got married naturally, without the blessing of our parents, and just got the certificate hastily.
I didn't go to his house when I met him.
When I got to his house, I cried. The conditions in his family are very difficult, which I have never seen before.
As soon as I got married there, I had to learn to adapt to many things because of different speech and customs. His family is also dissatisfied with me by all means. They let me do everything they see, whether I'm pregnant or not.
You know, I am the oldest in my family, not to mention farm work, and I haven't done much housework. So, I learned a lot when I went to their home.
It doesn't matter. Life will pass, and so will the bullets.
It's just, it's just. . . . . She paused.
He treats me badly. After he got married, he was completely different. He likes playing cards. He will take it out on me and hit me when he is in a bad mood.
A man started hitting a woman. I think in the future, this is a shadow that she can't erase no matter how hard she tries.
I think she was helpless and hated her.
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Over the years, the children have grown up, know sympathy for me, and no longer dare to hit me. Think about the suffering at that time, it's not worth mentioning.
I said, "Do you still love him?"
"It is impossible to talk about love now. When we are madly in love, we really love each other. After that, there is only an ordinary life. "
"I don't hate him, but I still feel sad when I think of those behaviors. Our relationship will never return to the past."
No matter how close the relationship is, once the other party breaks through the bottom line and does something out of line, even if he turns over a new leaf, this shadow will never go away.
You are timid, you are afraid, and you are worried that he will make the same mistake one day.
The female guest No.2 who has seen the first issue of China Blind Date is a sweet and lovely girl. In the VCR, she loves to laugh, lively and lovely, and is regarded as "silly and sweet" by everyone.
It is such a lovely girl that her childhood is dark.
At the age of 9, because my father was addicted to gambling, he was often in debt and grumpy, and he ignored his children. He also writes swearing words on the wall every day, which is extremely vicious and his behavior is also a combination of fists and feet.
Let this young heart tremble every time it faces its father.
Later, she escaped from her father's clutches and saw him again. When she saw him smiling at herself, her back bones were cold.
Really, a person used to be bad to you, and suddenly getting better will make you afraid to approach and accept his kindness.
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Some time ago, Dong Qing's poems were recited, and her talents were unobstructed, which was praised by the audience.
No one knows the sadness of her growing up, as Sa Beining said; "Every time you see her leaving the stage hosting a program, you see that her back is lonely and helpless, but she can't get close.
Dong Qing was born in a scholarly family, and his parents both graduated from prestigious schools. Naturally, his father is very demanding of him.
So when she was young, she had to endure hardships, study hard and do things she didn't like very much. Her father controls everything.
Watching every interview with her, you will be surprised to find that every time she talks about her family, she never talks about her father. More is her mother, sometimes inadvertently talking about her father, she is also in tears, choking.
"My father has always been a serious and unsmiling image in my mind. As a child, but now, he can't get close, just like the unreachable sky, unreachable. I long for the fatherly love of other children. I know these are extremely extravagant, because I was taught to be independent and strong from an early age. All this has led to my current personality-I am very depressed, very depressed, and no one talks about it. "
Many behaviors, in your opinion, are just insignificant, or just venting emotions. In this way, you have hurt others deeply and invisibly. Although you won't hold grudges, these words are understandable and will run through her.
Sometimes, you will wake up from a nightmare, and everything you say and do is so real. You are so scared that you want to run away, but you can't find an exit. Struggling and chasing all the way, finally, you woke up, but like a child, you cried helplessly.
You are surprised to find that you don't hate him, but your relationship can never go back.