Mark? Twain once said, "When you can't make up your mind, tell the truth. It will embarrass your opponent and make your friends feel relieved. " So the psychologist's point of view is: don't lie easily, even if it is a white lie.
Please note that even a white lie, as a lie itself, is a violation of honesty. Therefore, whether a lie is for a good purpose or not, as a lie itself will inevitably hinder honesty. So, I want to speak out here, let's reject white lies and build an honest society together.
Please note that there is a big omission in your defense. We think we should start with the definition to distinguish things and synthesize the interpretation of Kangxi Dictionary. A white lie is not seeking truth from facts, telling lies, exaggerating, covering up and distorting the facts. From the structural analysis of white lie phrases, it is a partial phrase and the head word is a lie, so white lie is a lie in essence. It is an indisputable fact that white lies are often used by some "professional liars" because of their uncertainty. A "lie" itself is dark, and the likes and dislikes of things are not measured by the purpose of things. A white lie itself is a lie. Although he has shed his beggar's clothes and put on his cheongsam, he still can't get rid of the essence of lies, which means cheating and hinders honesty. White lies have a good starting point, but once they are exposed, they will do more harm to each other. As a lie itself, it is already a violation of good faith.
Among the 20-character moral standards put forward in the Implementation Outline of Citizen Moral Construction promulgated by the Central Committee of the Communist Party of China, "sincerity" is a very important criterion, which means seeking truth and justice. The ancients said that "true self" was sincere. Not refined and sincere, not moving.
As General Secretary Hu Jintao said in his speech: "The socialist harmonious society we want to build should be a society with democracy and the rule of law, fairness and justice, honesty and friendship, vitality, stability and order, and harmony between man and nature."
From the above analysis, we believe that no matter whether a lie has a good purpose or not, being a lie will inevitably hinder honesty.
Asking the other party to argue that it is a lie? How can you have a good impression? ! It's goodwill! Why lie? !
Although a lie is well-intentioned, as a lie itself, it is a violation of good faith. Therefore, whether a lie is for a good purpose or not, making a lie will inevitably hinder honesty.
Looking back suddenly with the national spirit, it turns out that honesty is in the dim light. Thousands of years later, it can still be clearly heard that honesty is the virtue of the Chinese nation, just as the Great Wall is a symbol of the Chinese nation. If a person loses integrity, he will leave hypocrisy: if an enterprise loses integrity, it will face bankruptcy; And if a nation loses its integrity, it will degenerate and perish!
Keeping faith is the pure land of keeping faith, keeping faith is the success of keeping faith, and keeping faith is that the Chinese nation can last forever.
Here I want to ask other students, when a person loses integrity, is his starting point still good?
It's not necessary. Why are we sitting here arguing?
So-called white lies can also lead to unpredictable consequences. Give an example: someone is terminally ill. In order to let him spend the rest of his life safely, his relatives and friends have kept him in the dark. There is no malice or selfishness in this, but it is often unsatisfactory and deception cannot last long. On the contrary, patients lose the rationality of cooperating with treatment and the opportunity to deal with personal affairs. Sisera, a female philosopher? Polk warned that such a lie would put people on the verge of a great decline in personality. In the book "Lying, Moral Choice in Public Affairs and Private Life", she wrote: "Psychological barriers are gone, the ability to distinguish between true and false is more vague, and the concept that lies will not be detected may tend to be paranoid." Some psychologists who study lying suggest that anyone who wants to tell a "white lie" to his friends, relatives and colleagues had better think of a question involving psychological reaction.
A white lie is an excuse!
Anyone who uses an excuse wants to use it to protect himself or others. Help us save face and let us endure setbacks.
Gasmel said: "It is quite common to think that you are better than yourself." The excuses people come up with are sometimes unexpected. Why should people deceive themselves? American humorist Ryder pointed out: "Most people don't live in reality, but in fantasy, especially their own fantasy." On the other hand, it is sometimes cruel to know the truth about yourself and your friends. Better not know.
However, most excuses are destructive. If you use excuses unconsciously, you will fool yourself even if you don't fool others. So I ask the other party to realize that more honesty and less excuses! At the same time, I want to ask each other, if everyone has this view, how can we build an honest society and make our country develop further in honesty?
I think that even if a lie is well-intentioned, its negative effects can be seen everywhere. No need for examples. This negative influence on honesty is often hidden and chronic poisoning. Ignoring this poison is undoubtedly a cover-up Ask another debater, you always said that white lies and honesty are two categories. Would you please give an accurate definition of a white lie?
They fell in love, promised never to change their minds, and then broke up. This was a white lie at that time, and later the injured party was severely hit. Whether we need people in this field to continue to talk about the truth is a very simple question. Just as a white lie is an excuse for this view, Japan ignores historical facts and distorts history, and gets most of it. When the German President sincerely repented the victims of World War II, he won not only the Nobel Peace Prize, but also the understanding and tolerance of people all over the world.
If a country or a nation can always treat and evaluate objective things with a fair heart, it will certainly create an atmosphere of honesty and integrity, rather than a vicious circle of intrigue.
Zhu? In the government work report made at the Fifth Session of the Ninth National People's Congress, Premier F pointed out that it is necessary to "strengthen the construction of social credit and gradually form a good fashion of honesty and morality in the whole society". Making friends in good faith is an important content of Chinese traditional morality, and it is also a fundamental move to maintain the normal operation of the economy, promote institutional innovation, and rectify and standardize the market economic order at present and in the future. At present, with the rapid development of economy and society and the evolution of people's values, the lack of credit in some fields and individuals has increasingly become a distressing social hazard, which must be highly valued. As the other side argues, a lie can't be white, because it hinders honesty. What is honesty, my friend? What is lacking in our society?
We believe that so-called white lies are harmful to integrity. Of course, the lies here are not what people usually call shocking scams, but lies that pretend to affirm or support (actually disapprove) the practices, opinions or opinions of spouses, relatives and friends.
Take Tom, the company manager in Southern California, for example. Tom spends Thanksgiving with his wife and son at his mother-in-law's house every year. In fact, he didn't like the "special" pumpkin pie made by his mother-in-law, but he told her how delicious her pie was so as not to hurt her feelings. "Is it wrong to do so?" Tom asked when consulting a psychiatrist. This is a question that many people will ask. The psychiatrist asked him to look at the lie from his mother-in-law's point of view. Suppose one day, Tom's son confided the truth in front of his grandmother, and her mother-in-law discovered Tom's true feelings. She will tell Tom, "Thank you for your kindness?" I also felt emotionally hurt and said, "How could you mislead me like this for so many years? What else are you hiding from me? " Besides, what questions will Tom's mother-in-law have about herself? Is Tom's son going to imitate his father's lies, too? What would he think of his father's character? Will he still believe what his father said?
A novelist once wrote this sentence: "When we first tried to lie, we fell into a web of chaos that we woven."
We believe that there are fundamental mistakes in the other party's understanding and understanding of some concepts. Honesty is based on the frankness of the other party. Any deception, even a so-called "white-hearted" lie, can be said to be completely sad and relaxed with frankness. I don't think the concept of "honesty" needs to be demonstrated here, and it has been analyzed clearly.
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Honesty has been advocated since ancient times. The history can be traced back to 359 BC, and Shang Yang's legislation in Qin Dynasty enriched Qiang Bing with honesty. The story of "South Gate Standing" was staged. Shang Yang has been engaged in legal work for ten years. "Everyone in Qin is happy. If the road is not left behind, there will be no thieves in the mountains, and the family will give enough to others." Today, with China's entry into the WTO and the growing market economy, it will do great harm to economic life and bring disastrous consequences to social life if fake and shoddy products are allowed to run rampant and lose their credibility. The turbidity current of dishonesty will erode the trust between people like a plague and hinder the pace of socialist market economy. It is urgent to advocate honesty, punish dishonesty and improve credit ethics and credit legal system.
Excuse me, how can a lie be good to a friend? If it is a lie, it will hinder honesty. Excuse me, what is honesty? What does our society need?
We should reject lies and stick to honesty. How can we avoid the embarrassment encountered by the other party in work and life? We want to:
If you refuse at the beginning, there will be no embarrassing situation later. We are now living in an open and unpopular era.
"Don't say that the hat worn by the aunt next door is ugly, do you hear?"
"You have to say to the new class teacher,' I'm glad you are our class teacher'!"
We don't say similar words from the heart, but choose nice words that don't make people sad. This is because we believe that there can be no shortage of white lies in life.
Shall we look at the problem from the opposite angle? Someone wears an ugly hat, and we can tell him realistically that it's really bad. This is because always telling white lies will also bring you trouble. So we should learn when to tell the truth and when to tell a white lie, otherwise it will lead to the result of not knowing the truth from the false.
For example, suppose you receive a birthday invitation from a friend who is not very close at the weekend. You don't want to go, but you refuse because you are afraid of each other's anger, and your promise is ambiguous. Time flies. It's almost my friend's birthday, and you still don't want to go. Now I'll find a reason to tell each other that you can't go. Think about it, what will the other party think of you at this time? The other party will definitely see that you are reluctant to leave and will be very angry.
You didn't refuse at first, but you still made your friend angry. What will it be like to show your attitude when you receive an invitation?
"I'm glad to be invited, but I can't go because I have something in town that day."
If you refuse at the beginning, there will be no embarrassment later.