But in fact, as the son of Xu Zhimo, Ji Xu has no interest in writing and poetry. On the contrary, he was deeply influenced by his mother. With her understanding and support, he resolutely followed his inner choice and became a successful businessman.
Arranged marriage without love has buried bitter fruit.
1897 65438+1October 15. Xu Zhimo was born in a wealthy family that has been doing business for generations. As the only son of his eldest grandson, his father Xu Shenru naturally cultivated him in every way, hoping that his son would succeed in his studies in the future and it would be best to inherit his father's footsteps. Xu Zhimo was sent to a Western-style school by his father since childhood. Compared with natural science, Xu Zhimo prefers humanities, especially literature.
He was proud of his youth and youth, and became a dazzling star in China's poetry circle with his romantic poems.
Xu Zhimo, who has long been educated in advanced western thoughts, has always advocated freedom of marriage. When her parents chose Zhang Youyi, a daughter of a noble family with a steady temperament and traditional thinking, she somewhat resisted from the heart, but later accepted the fact that her parents arranged the marriage.
Zhang Youyi's looks are not outstanding, but she is knowledgeable and has received western education. She was born in a noble family and is a typical lady.
So after she married the Xu family, she was recognized and loved by her in-laws. In Xu Zhimo's eyes, even though Zhang Youyi is full of advantages, it is impossible for Xu Zhimo to have a good impression on her.
Xu Zhimo wanted to study abroad, and his parents offered to pay him to study abroad as long as he gave birth to his grandson.
19 18, Xu zhimo and Zhang Youyi's eldest son Xu Jikai were born. Xu Shenru, who held his grandson from ear to ear, fulfilled his promise. Xu Zhimo went to the United States to study as he wished, and later moved to the United Kingdom to study.
Just like a butterfly that has been imprisoned for a long time, overseas Xu Zhimo began to look for the source of love.
On the campus in England, he met Lin. On poetic days, Xu Zhimo wrote countless romantic poems for Lin.
By the Cambridge Bridge, Xu Zhimo was deeply immersed in Lin's beauty and cultivation, temperament and conversation, and could not extricate himself. In her hometown in Zhejiang, China, Zhang Youyi, a steady and polite wife, had to live alone and wait for her husband to return.
1920, Zhang Youyi was put on a passenger plane to Europe by her parents-in-law, and was reunited with her husband Xu Zhimo in a hurry.
Zhang Youyi was pregnant with a second child while studying with her husband, but Xu Zhimo thought it was a big trouble. Not only did he refuse to accept this little life, but he also cruelly asked his wife to have an abortion regardless of her feelings.
Zhang Youyi couldn't bear to give up the baby, but insisted on being born. That is a beautiful boy. Zhang Youyi calls him "Peter".
Before the child's full moon, Xu Zhimo was very determined to divorce Zhang Youyi. In desperation, Zhang Youyi had to hold her newborn baby and divorce Xu Zhimo.
This little son who was not accepted by Xu Zhimo has never been taken care of by his father. He died of peritonitis at the age of 3.
Zhang Youyi was heartbroken at the loss of his youngest son. She returned to Xujia, Zhejiang with Peter's ashes, cheered herself up and vowed to put all her love and energy on her eldest son, hoping that the child would grow up as soon as possible.
Zhang Youyi, whose marriage failed, decided to raise her son alone.
Xu Er always gives his grandson Xu Jikai everything he wants and even dotes on her, which makes Zhang Youyi, who has accepted advanced parenting ideas abroad, deeply worried.
For the sake of his son's strong and independent personality and bright future, Zhang Youyi knew the advantages and disadvantages, and proposed to raise Xu Jikai alone with his in-laws. Although reasonable Xu's parents are reluctant to give up, they know that Zhang Youyi's approach is right.
23-year-old son Zhang Youyi is trying to start his own business and educate his son by himself. She wants to infect and educate her son through struggle and self-improvement, but in fact what she has done is very correct.
When Zhang Youyi came to Shanghai, he first taught German in a university.
Later, after being introduced, she became the general manager of a clothing company and later became the vice president of a bank in Shanghai.
When Zhang Youyi was at work, she went home and devoted all her maternal love to her son Ji Xu. She walked out of the shadow of divorce and out of the life arranged by others. She set an example for her son with her self-improvement, strong and noble character.
Zhang Youyi's hard work and self-improvement not only won the support and recognition of Xu's parents, but also influenced the growing.
Ji Xu understands his mother's difficulties and tries his best to make her feel comfortable. His temperament and personality are more and more like his mother Zhang Youyi.
Later, because they were dissatisfied with the rudeness and nonsense of their sons Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman, the Xu family chose to go north to live with Zhang Youyi and his grandson.
The young mind could not understand the mother's behavior, but Zhang Youyi accepted Xu's parents calmly. She told Ji Xu: Because they are your grandparents, all this is what a mother should do.
Finally, Mr. Xu passed away safely under the care of Zhang Youyi. Ji Xu learned what is "tolerance" and "friendship" from her mother's words and deeds.
Influenced by his mother, Xu Jikai is excellent in character and knowledge.
Xu Jikai has a gentle personality and excellent academic performance. When he was admitted to the university journal major, he chose the civil engineering major in order to find a better job in the future.
Zhang Youyi knew that his son had made such a choice in order to reduce the burden. She does not interfere and supports all his just choices.
1947, Xu Jikai, deeply influenced by her lack of studies, put forward the idea of studying in the United States to her mother, and Zhang Youyi supported it very much.
Before sending his son to the plane, Zhang Youyi had a deep talk with his son. She told her son that it is better to listen to his inner voice and do what he likes than to study and find a job against his will.
After reading her mother's words, Xu Jikai was deeply moved by her kindness and generosity.
In the United States, Ji Xu studied economics at Columbia University and civil engineering at New York University of Science and Technology.
Whenever people mention his father Xu Zhimo, they always ask why Ji Xu did not embark on the road of literature. In this regard, Xu Jikai always said: I know nothing about writing poetry. I am a pragmatist.
After graduation, Xu Jikai first became a civil engineer, then went into business, and finally became a successful businessman according to his own preferences and wishes.
Ji Xu was greatly influenced by his mother all his life, but Xu Zhimo, who basically failed to fulfill his father's obligations to him, had little influence on him. It can be said that Ji Xu has never been exposed to pen and ink in his life.
Zhang Youyi, whose marriage failed, bravely lived a new self and successfully transformed into a strong woman in business. She deeply influenced her son Xu Jikai with her confident and open-minded mind and pattern.
At that time, Xu Zhimo, the indifferent ex-husband, commented that Zhang Youyi was just an ignorant village woman, while Ji Xu, her son, declared a fact to the world with his own achievements: my mother was not only an outstanding woman, but also an excellent "educator".