If you don't learn manners, you can't stand it -Confucius
The reason why mortals are more expensive than animals is courtesy. -"The Spring and Autumn Annals of Yan Zi"
The most appetizing thing at a banquet is the host's behavior. -Shakespeare
Rudeness is the illegitimate child of ignorance. Butler
Interest is a strategy that smart people come up with to keep their distance from fools. -Emerson 1, Xiang He-Offer a humble apology Lin Xiangru was a minister of Zhao during the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period. He is knowledgeable and talented. In the two diplomatic struggles of "returning to Zhao in one piece" and "joining forces with Mianchi", he defended Zhao's dignity, ranking above the famous Lian Po. This makes Lian Po unconvinced. He said to others, "I was invincible in Lian Po and made great contributions to Zhao Li. Lin Xiangru is just talking with his mouth. What's the big deal? Instead, he climbed on top of me. Be sure to insult him. " Hearing this, Lin Xiangru tried not to meet Lian Po. Every time I go out, I avoid Lian Po, and sometimes I even pretend to be ill. Once when Lin Xiangru went out, he saw Lian Po's chariots and horses coming from a distance, and hurriedly asked the driver to take a detour. People in Lin Xiangru felt wronged by his kowtowing concession and asked to leave for home. Lin Xiangru insisted on staying and patiently explained to them, "Which do you think is better, General Lian or King Qin?" Everyone said, "Even the generals are certainly not as good as the king of Qin." Lin Xiangru said, "Yes, everyone is afraid of the King of Qin, but for Zhao's sake, I dare to reprimand him at the Qin court. How can I be afraid when I see General Lian? " I understand your feelings, but have you ever thought that the powerful State of Qin, because of General Lian and I, dare not attack Zhao? If two tigers contend, they will both lose. I don't care about personal grievances, and I let General Lian everywhere, for the benefit of the country. "Hearing these words, everyone cooled down, dismissed the idea of leaving home, but more respect for Lin Xiangru. Later, someone told Lian Po what Lin Xiangru said. Lian Po was deeply moved and ashamed. He thinks he is so narrow-minded. He was so sorry for Lin Xiangru that he decided to plead guilty to his face. One day, he took off his shirt and went to Lin Xiangru's mansion with Vitex negundo naked on his back. He knelt on the ground with tears in his eyes and said to Lin Xiangru with tears in his eyes, "I am a humble clown with shallow knowledge and a bad temper. I didn't expect you to be so tolerant of me. I really have no face to see you. Please punish me severely! "I am willing to kill me." When Lin Xiangru saw this, he quickly helped Lian Po up, and the two embraced. From then on, the two men eliminated barriers and strengthened unity. Qi Xin joined forces to defend Zhao, and the powerful Qin State dared not invade Zhao easily. 2. Unity and Friendship-Liu Mingchuan, the calm governor of Liu Mingchuan's Qing court in Taiwan Province Province, is a great contributor to the construction of Taiwan Province Province, and he urged the repair of the first railway in Taiwan Province Province. There is an intriguing story about the appointment of Liu Mingchuan: When Li Hongzhang recommended Liu Mingchuan to Zeng Guofan, he also recommended two other Jinshi. In order to test the character of the three of them, Zeng Guofan specially asked them to go to Zengfu for an interview at a certain time. But at the appointed time, Zeng Guofan deliberately refused to let them wait in the living room, but secretly observed their attitude carefully. I saw that the other two seemed impatient and kept complaining; Only Liu Mingchuan enjoyed the calligraphy and painting on the wall quietly and calmly. Later, Zeng Guofan questioned the calligraphy and painting in their living room, and only Liu Mingchuan could answer. As a result, Liu Mingchuan was recommended as the governor of Taiwan Province. Note: People who have no patience will definitely lack the spirit of perseverance and overcoming all difficulties, and naturally they will not achieve anything great. If you want to make a difference in the future, you must first temper your patience and perseverance. 3. Kong Rong Jean Pear Kong Rong (153—208), a native of Lu State (now Qufu, Shandong Province), was a famous writer in the late Eastern Han Dynasty and one of the seven sons of Jian 'an. His literary creation was highly praised by Wei Wendi Cao Pi. According to historical records, Kong Rong was not only very clever when he was young, but also a typical example of paying attention to brotherhood, mutual help and friendship. When Kong Rong was four years old, he often ate pears with his brother. Every time, Kong Rong always takes the smallest pear. Once, my father saw it and asked, "Why do you always take the small one instead of the big one?" Kong Rong said, "I am the younger brother, and I am the youngest. I should eat the small one and let the big one be eaten by my brother! " At an early age, Kong Rong learned the truth of mutual courtesy, mutual help, unity and friendship between brothers and sisters, which surprised the whole family. Since then, Kong Rong has spread the story of pears for thousands of years, becoming a model of unity and friendship. 4. Cheng Menxue Pear The story "Cheng Menxue Pear" comes from "Song History? Biography of Shi Yang: "I was forty years old when I met Cheng Yi in Luo. One day I saw H, and I sat with Youzuo. When I feel it, the snow outside the door is one foot deep. " "Cheng Men Sydney" tells that Shi Yang and You Zuo, scholars of the Song Dynasty, asked Cheng Hao and Cheng Yi for advice. Shi Yang and You Zuo studied under Cheng Hao. After Cheng Hao's death, both of them were forty years old and had been admitted to Jinshi. However, they will go to Cheng Yi to continue their studies. The story happened on the day when they first visited Cheng Yi in Songyang Academy. According to legend, one day, Shi Yang and You Zuo came to Songyang Academy to visit Cheng Yi, and they happened to meet Mr. Cheng, who was taking a nap with his eyes closed. At this time, it began to snow outside. Eager to be a teacher, the two men stood aside respectfully and said nothing. After waiting for a long time, Cheng Yi slowly opened his eyes and saw You Zuo standing in front of him. He was startled and said, "Ah, ah! Are they still here? " At that time, the snow outside had accumulated more than a foot thick, and Youzuo didn't look tired and impatient. This story, called "Cheng Menxue Pear", was widely circulated among scholars in the Song Dynasty. Later, people often used the idiom "Cheng Menxue Pear" to express that scholars should respect their teachers and study sincerely and firmly. The story of sending goose feathers thousands of miles away happened in the Tang Dynasty. At that time, a minority leader in Yunnan expressed support for the Tang Dynasty and sent a special envoy to let Mian Bogao contribute swans to Emperor Taizong. When passing by Mianyang, kind Mian Bogao released the swan from its cage and wanted to give it a bath. Unexpectedly, the swan soared into the sky. Mian Bogao was busy reaching for it, only pulling out a few goose feathers. Mian Bogao was so anxious that he stamped his feet and beat his chest, crying bitterly. His entourage advised him, "It's no use crying because it has already flown away. Let's think of a remedy. " Mian Bogao thought, also can only be so. In Chang 'an, Mian Bogao met with Emperor Taizong and presented a gift. Emperor Taizong saw that it was a delicate satin bag and opened it. At first glance, it is just a few goose feathers and a poem. The poem says: "Swan pays tribute to Tang Dynasty, the mountain is high and the road is far. Mianyang River lost its treasure and fell on the ground crying. After the Emperor of Heaven, Mian Bogao was spared. The ceremony is light and affectionate, and the goose feathers are sent thousands of miles. " Emperor Taizong was puzzled, and Mian Bogao immediately told the story. Emperor Taizong repeatedly said, "What a treat! It's commendable! Send goose feathers a thousand miles away, and the ceremony is light and affectionate! " This story embodies the precious virtue of the giver's honesty. Today, people use "a thousand miles to send goose feathers" to describe the gift as thin, but the affection is extremely deep. Adopt it. Please, Ann.