In that chaotic society where wars are constantly raging and materials are scarce, the affection between these people is particularly rare. But after careful analysis, the feelings of several people are different.
First of all, Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi can be said to be combined under the traditional mode of parents' orders and matchmakers' words, so their emotional foundation is extremely weak. China has been bound by feudal ethics for thousands of years, and marriage has been restricted by various external factors. It is difficult to achieve voluntary freedom, and naturally it is difficult to have a happy marriage. This situation has changed a little since the Republic of China. For example, Mr. Hu Shi has only one wife in his life, who was ordered to marry by his mother. His wife is illiterate and uneducated, which can be said to be extremely unsuitable for Hu Shi, but Hu Shi still lived with him until he was old. In contrast, Xu Zhimo is more casual. Before he married Zhang Youyi, he dared not refuse the marriage. After the marriage, he met Lin, regardless of the fact that he had two children, and resolutely divorced Zhang.
Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman belong to the love under liberalism. When Xu Zhimo chased Lu Xiaoman, Lu was a famous socialite in Shanghai, and she was divorced, which made people wonder whether Xu Zhimo liked Lu Xiaoman because she was beautiful. Xu Zhimo's pursuit of Lu Xiaoman is, of course, a love letter full of talent. When Xu Zhimo wrote to Lu Xiaoman, he had many names, such as "male", "dragon dragon" and "love eyebrow". The content of the letter exhausted Xu Zhimo's talent and skills. For example, Xu Zhimo once wrote in his letter: Are you asleep at this time? Do you breathe evenly? Is your soul temporarily safe? You know, your love is talking to you with tears in your eyes at night, thinking of you, hurting you, comforting you and loving you.
Xu Zhimo's love for Lin is the result of the poet's romanticism. When Xu Zhimo first met Lin in England, Lin Cai 16 years old, and Xu Zhimo was already the father of two children. At that time, Lin didn't understand love at all and couldn't communicate with Xu Zhimo on an equal footing, so that she was afraid after receiving Xu Zhimo's courtship letter. She doesn't know how to answer. Finally, Lin's father wrote to Xu Zhimo and said, "Your passion is shocking and your emblem is confusing. There is no ridicule, so I think it is a misunderstanding. " In other words, Xu Zhimo liked Lin's beauty when he was in England, and they didn't have equal inner communication. It was not until later that Lin married Liang Sicheng at the instigation of her parents, and then she looked back at her feelings with Xu Zhimo and felt a very romantic and warm power. Then she rekindled Xu Zhimo's love by writing letters to Xu Zhimo and his friends.
Lin and Jin are outstanding representatives of Platonic "spiritual love". Jin really likes Lin, and Liang Sicheng knows it. It was precisely Lin who also had feelings for Kim, and finally reached the realm of pain. Lin told Liang Sicheng: Sicheng, I am in pain. Now I am in love with two people at the same time. I can't make up my mind and don't know what to do. Liang Sicheng thinks he can't compare with Jin. He was very open-minded and told his wife that you were free. If you like Kim, I wish you happiness. Jin is noble and thinks that Liang Sicheng can reach this level, which proves that he really loves Lin and doesn't want Lin to suffer a little injustice, so Jin voluntarily quits. In the later life, Kim not only didn't get married, but also followed Lin to live in the backyard or next door of Lin's family. One day after Lin died, Kim invited his friends to drink together. During the dinner, he said calmly that today is Yin Hui's birthday, and he was speechless. This shows how much Jin loves Lin.
The love between Lin and Liang Sicheng is similar to the love between Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi, and they are both general combinations in the traditional sense. Lin's love sprouted when she first met Xu Zhimo at the age of 16, but later she had to marry Liang Sicheng according to her parents' wishes. The two lack the process of communication and emotional cultivation before marriage, so it is not surprising that they quarrel after marriage. However, although their love was not based on free love, Lin Liang was a person with deep-rooted traditional culture, and their marriage was maintained until the end.
Many people say that Xu Zhimo made Lin. If Xu Zhimo doesn't like Lin, Lin is just an ordinary architect. But we know that the three people related to Lin's love course, namely Xu Zhimo, Liang Sicheng and Jin, are all masters in their respective fields. Jin is a first-class philosopher in China, Xu Zhimo is a first-class poet and Liang Sicheng is a first-class architect. In this sense, Lin is too extraordinary. After the founding of New China, Lin made great achievements in art: he participated in the design of the national emblem; Transform traditional cloisonne; Participate in the design of Tiananmen Monument to the People's Heroes.
Now it seems that fate played a trick on Lin. If she hadn't been betrothed to Liang Sicheng in advance, it would have been a perfect match with Xu Zhimo. Fate made her meet Xu Zhimo, who is versatile and affectionate, and Jin, a sincere and enthusiastic philosopher. It happened that fate arranged for her to marry Liang Sicheng who had no emotional foundation. Lin died in the early morning of April Fool's Day in 1955, which seems to prove that her whole life's feelings have been fooled by God. To paraphrase a lyric, this is fate's kind teasing of her.
Xu Zhimo is brilliant and has made great achievements in literary accomplishment, especially in modern poetry. Emotionally, he showed romantic feelings from beginning to end. In London, England, Xu Zhimo fell in love with Lin, who is 16 years old. Lin, who was born in a bureaucratic family, was both beautiful and connotative. She fell in love with the affectionate Xu Zhimo and showed her love in a hurry. In fact, at that time, Lin didn't understand the love between men and women at all, and the whole process was dominated by Xu Zhimo. Lin's son, Liang Congjie, mentioned in "Suddenly April Day on Earth": Lin knew very well that Xu Zhimo didn't really love her, but he imagined Lin with the romantic feelings of the poet, but Lin thought he was not the person he thought. In other words, this relationship can even be characterized as Xu Zhimo's unrequited love, and this unrequited love has not received Lin's response.
The real development of Xu's relationship with others was when Lin went to study in the United States with her husband Liang Sicheng after marriage. Lin and Liang Sicheng often quarrel. Lin remembered that when she was in England, Xu Zhimo was so kind to her. Presumably, she also compared Xu Zhimo and Liang Sicheng, lamenting and mourning the past. However, she has no illusions that Xu Zhimo can marry Xu Zhimo. Lin once wrote to Hu Shi to show her position: the past is the past, so don't mention it now, I just want to commemorate it forever.
After returning from America, Lin is recovering from illness in Xishan, Beijing. Xu Zhimo often comes to see her, and it will be natural after a long time. Because of this experience, "later researchers have always thought that Xu Helin's relationship has crossed the line, but no one can produce evidence." However, it doesn't matter if you cross the line. What is certain is that Lin fell in love with Xu Zhimo again. However, by accident, Xu Zhimo crashed in Jinan, Shandong Province. The purpose of this flight is to catch up with Lin's lecture. Liang Sicheng brought a piece of wood debris from the scene of the accident to Lin. Lin was very sad and hung this piece of wood on the bedside of the bedroom. She hung like this until 1955 died. "Visible her deep love for Xu Zhimo.
The ancients had no time to participate in this matter, and today's people can't understand it. The ups and downs of life are only 60 or 70 years. Whether the dull and long-lasting love can be together or the vigorous love should be till death do us part deserves our deep thought. The realm of love is very heavy, but it never requires everyone to choose the same style. In the era of Xu Zhimo, a large number of outstanding figures left us a lot of inspiration. Whether it is their talent, or their feelings and tolerance for feelings, it is worth learning.