? The Man in the Star is the work of Carolyn Paxter, an American writer, translated by Wu Chao. This book focuses on the Hammond family, and adopts a dual
? The Man in the Star is the work of Carolyn Paxter, an American writer, translated by Wu Chao. This book focuses on the Hammond family, and adopts a dual narrative method, in which the mother is responsible for telling the past when she entered the "harmonious summer camp", the younger daughter tells the "present" after attending the "harmonious summer camp", and the older daughter interspersed with monologues from a future perspective. The seemingly happy family is full of uncertain explosion factors in real life, because the eldest daughter is an amazing genius, but she lacks social skills, which makes the Hammond family very headache, so they decided to participate in the "harmonious summer camp", hoping that things will get better. However, in this summer camp called "Harmony", there are many unknown secrets. The story ends in the suicide of the organizer of the summer camp, which is sad and unexpected.
? Reading all the way, this book has no ups and downs, and it is all about the characters in several families who participated in the "Harmonious Summer Camp". Every family has a child who is a headache for the family, that is, the so-called autistic child.
? Autism is also called childhood autism. It is a kind of developmental disorder involving feeling, emotion, language, thinking, action and behavior in early childhood, and it is also the most common typical developmental disorder.
? April 2nd every year is World Autism Concern Day. Every family with autistic children will be unhappy because of their unusual performance, but even doctors have no choice but to shake their heads about the cause and how to treat them. Therefore, these children who are called stars need the patience and love of their parents. As written in the book,' As Tilly's mother, your first task is to be a child's supporter. If you are absorbed in the thoughts of the people at the next table, you can't perform this duty at all. "
? Many times when we go to the supermarket or go out to play, we will always see children lying on the ground without saying a word and without toy food. Some parents will tell the truth, some parents will express their emotions, and some parents will unconditionally obey all the requirements of their children. I wonder if there are any parents who love their children as much as outsiders have commented, including parents with autistic children? What they experienced, others can't understand, and they can't feel the feeling of not seeing hope. The book says that sometimes my mother Alexandra wants to get sick. It doesn't need to be too serious, as long as she can stay in the hospital for a few days. She wishful thinking that all this would be over soon, but it seems to be the best advice that others can give her.
? Tilly is the eldest daughter of Hammond's family. Although she is a child prodigy in her mother's eyes at the age of three and once made her mother Alexandra proud, this irregular and disproportionate ability is a sign of danger. As the child grew up slowly until she was diagnosed with autism, a series of things made her tired but helpless.
? Alice, the youngest daughter in the book, is a normal and good child compared with her sister Tilly. Many times she doesn't like her sister with autism and looks down on her many behaviors. But more often, she loves her sister and knows that her sister loves her. Deep blood relationship and perennial companionship make their feelings go deep into the bone marrow. Every time I talk to my friends about Tilly, I am ambivalent. She is my sister. I can make fun of her and complain about her, but I don't want others to do the same. "I held my legs and buried my head in my knees and cried for a long time. I should be glad to hear that from Scott. Maybe it's for Tilly, so I'm not happy. Because if I am a good boy, that means Tilly is a bad boy, but no matter how much she annoys me sometimes, I know it's not true. " She is my sister and often drives me crazy, but I love her more than anything. '
Scott, the founder of "Harmonious Summer Camp", has always been a patient and caring person in my impression. Although he is not married and has no children, his theory and method for children's autism are indeed effective in some aspects, which is the main reason for attracting several families to join the summer camp. However, the gap between ideal and reality, the situation of participating in the family, and the slander and distrust of the outside world made this person, who is also a problem child, commit suicide with a gun in Tilly's prank. An unacceptable ending actually reflects the cruelty of the real society.
? There is another thing that surprises me in the book, that is, the mother's sex education for her daughter. After discovering that Tilly, the eldest daughter, entered puberty, all she did was order a masturbator for her daughter directly on the Internet, instead of talking about transsexuality like we do in China. This is understandable for a more traditional China person, but it is really unacceptable.
? In the book, I actually agree with some of Scott's practices. He said,' If someone makes fun of you and makes you feel sad, it only means that you have surrendered to the other party. You are clearly telling each other that they can easily make you angry and sad. "This sentence is used to persuade autistic children. I feel that it also applies to our normal people.
? At the end of the novel, two families took over the summer camp. They don't know how bumpy the road will be in the future, but they all believe that there is hope for remedy in summer camp. Their lives began to get back on track bit by bit. Alexandra has time, space and friends. Her life has completely changed, and she is happy every day. Although Tilly is like a runaway wild horse with new ideas every day, her mother still believes that she is an amazing child. Alice chose a local middle school by herself. She is no longer bound by all kinds of rules and regulations, and can walk freely on the winding path in the pine forest. This state makes Alexandra feel that there are miracles in the world. On some days, the feeling of fear has left her.
Life has never been your will. I am not you, so I can't feel your pain; I am not you, and I can't see the beautiful world in your eyes. If you meet people on the stars, please be more tolerant and understanding, and let warmth and love give them the courage to live.