"What hurts more than this is that she sings more and more. She sang the love that was perfect because of death, and sang the love that would not die even in the grave. "
The Nightingale and the Rose is an anthology of classic fairy tales written by Wilde, which contains well-known fairy tales such as Happy Prince and Giant's Garden, and is regarded as "the most touching fairy tale in the world".
Almost every story has an image of "love is the most beautiful", and The Nightingale and the Rose is also one of the beautiful and cruel fairy tales.
In the story of The Nightingale and the Rose, the romantic nightingale, immortal, gave her blood and life to pursue the girl she liked for the young people she loved, but the young people who got the rose were driven out by the girl's father because they were too poor. In a rage, she threw the roses on the side of the road and was crushed by passing wheels.
The story is both sad and touching. We may think that young people don't understand love, girls are too utilitarian and nightingales are too infatuated. But behind the story is the author Wilde's ridicule of this secular world.
The nightingale in the story is a male nightingale. He loves this young man and is willing to plunge his chest into the thorns of roses for the sake of his happiness. He died while singing. He put all his love, regardless of gains and losses, in a weak song.
But in this beautiful crazy emotion, the ending is so realistic and naked. Young people easily throw the roses they bought with their lives on the roadside, and the true feelings crushed by the wheels are drowned in the materialistic world, and people who come and go are dismissive.
Wilde was also a homosexual. He deeply loved the teenager, but his time did not accept this kind of love that was contrary to common sense. He was mercilessly attacked by the secular, so Wilde used the nightingale's mouth to fight against the secular with the determination to die without regret.
He is determined to pursue bravely and even kiss in public. He is accusing the unreasonable secular voice with his actions. Even if he gives his life like a nightingale, he will sing for love.
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Homosexuality, originally just an emotional choice, is regarded as an alien in this well-behaved world. But is it wrong to like someone? What's wrong with liking a same sex?
Who defines right and wrong? We are all drifters of the fate of the times, and we just yearn for a more free and inclusive society, that's all.
In the 1980s, homosexuality was not only wrong, but also sent to reform-through-labour in the name of hooliganism.
Before talking about hooligans, let me briefly summarize the situation of homosexuality in China from ancient times to the present. China's traditional culture is not against homosexuality, and it was even more tolerant than the West in ancient times.
Some poems in The Book of Songs were hidden or visible at that time. For example, Zheng Fengshan has given Sue:
"Mountain fusu, ji youhua. If you don't see your son, you will see madness. Zizi is favored by Zheng Zhuanggong because of her beauty. Another example is Zheng Fengzi's Dry: "Qing Zi's dry, leisurely in my heart. Even if I don't go, I'd rather not send a message? "
Homosexuality can be included in Three Hundred Poems, which shows that homosexuality is a normal thing in the eyes of Confucius.
In the Jin Dynasty, masculinity became more prevalent, and people not only advocated women's colors, but also men's colors.
Homosexuality in the Qing dynasty was more intense, and many novels in the Ming and Qing dynasties, such as:
"A Dream of Red Mansions, Jin Ping Mei, Treasure of Flowers, Fragrance of Yichun, The Twelfth Floor, Strange Tales from a Lonely Studio, Love History, Yuewei Caotang Notes, Ci 'erchai, etc. all contain a lot of homosexual descriptions, and even take homosexual stories as the theme, which shows the prosperity of homosexuality."
Before the founding of New China in the early 20th century, homosexuality was not openly opposed, but it was popular in the upper class, and homosexual behavior among the lower class was mostly kept secret.
In literary works, we can find many works of Yuanyang Butterfly School describing homosexuality. This description is not popular, and most people can't understand it, but it can also show that homosexuality is acceptable.
After the reform and opening up, hooliganism began to appear.
The crime of hooliganism refers to such bad acts as openly flouting state laws and social ethics, gathering people to fight, causing troubles, insulting women or disturbing public order.
The provisions of this crime are relatively general, and the conviction is arbitrary. Although hooliganism was not designed for homosexuals, homosexuals at that time would be reeducation through labor for this crime.
In that age of ideological agitation, the old value system was broken and the new social concept was not established. People regard this view of love, which is different from "ordinary people", as immoral, as well as wrong and evil.
In 2 1 century, there is still a deep misunderstanding about homosexuality in society. Many people think that homosexuality is a psychological problem or a physical disease, so there is the so-called "homosexual correction therapy" to straighten homosexuality forcibly.
Homosexuality correction therapy includes hypnosis, aversion therapy, exorcism, etc., which aims to turn the curved into straight, as well as hormone therapy, namely chemical castration (Turing, the father of computer, committed suicide because of unbearable humiliation after chemical castration) and minimally invasive surgery. /kloc-in 0/5, a mother in India raped her son in order to correct his homosexuality by having sex with the opposite sex.
All of the above are physical and psychological harm to homosexuals, and ultimately these methods have not played any role.
Homosexuality is not a disease. Some people are naturally attracted to the same sex, while others just happen to fall in love with the same sex.
The American Psychological Association believes that human beings cannot choose homosexuality or heterosexuality, and human sexual orientation is not a conscious choice that can be changed through will.
200 1 The third edition of China Classification and Diagnostic Criteria for Mental Disorders excluded homosexuality from mental illness, which made homosexuality non-pathological in China, officially indicating that homosexuality is not a disease, and they are no different from heterosexuals.
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With the rapid development of the times and the continuous progress of ideas, our time has been very tolerant of homosexuality, and many people say it is acceptable, but in fact, only people in this circle know how lonely the love they choose is different from that of "normal people".
A pair of boys walking hand in hand in the street may not attract people's criticism, but everyone passing by will look at them specially, which is hurting them.
Nowadays, American culture is popular, and we all call love gender neutral, but no one cares about the kiss of two ugly boys.
It is still difficult for this society to really accept this group, and the status quo of the same-sex circle is often so lonely and sad.
Zhu Tianwen wrote in the savage notes:
"We are wild color seekers on the edge of society. Often we are defeated by our own inner wasteland before being defeated by social sanctions. "
Same-sex circles are like this. Either lead a drunken life, or die alone.
The sinking in the circle is that everyone seeks comfort from each other and finds some warmth from the same kind. The loneliness outside the circle is placed in a world without a sense of belonging, and the moral norms defined by the secular are exhausted, no doubt.
Love in novels is often described too beautifully, but few people can really break through all kinds of secular obstacles and join hands to grow old together.
Nankang Baiqi is a well-known example in the circle. He wrote "I will wait for you until you are thirty-five" after his beloved got married. Soon after, he committed suicide and jumped into the river forever.
Love as beautiful as the love of all men and women in the world has been cut off by the intolerance and incomprehension of reality.
Every time I see two boys naturally drying life videos online, I am really happy for them. They don't care about other people's eyes, they bravely seize love, they are not crushed by the secular, and there is no hostility in the comment area. I will be very touched by a blessing.
Our society has gradually become more tolerant, and more and more people are beginning to understand that there is no such thing as aliens.
Love is a blend of heart and heart, and so many rules should not be attached to it. Two lonely souls collide, and no one is qualified to put heavy shackles on them from the so-called moral and ethical level, and publicly judge them from the perspective of self-righteous God.
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Near the end, I want to quote Zhou Ziheng, the hero of Zhi Chu's novel I only like your personal design, about the paradox of color blindness.
The paradox of color blindness mainly says:
Suppose a person is color blind, he will regard blue as green and green as blue, but he doesn't know that he is different from others. The sky seen by others is blue, but it is green in his eyes, but they all call this color "blue". The grass is green, and what he sees is blue, but he calls the blue in his eyes green, so neither he nor others will know that he is different from others.
Zhou Ziheng refuted the definition of "normal person" with the paradox of color blindness. If some people of the same kind decide a set of evaluation system, then others can also define a new set of standards. You say that a person is abnormal. Under another standard system, you can't prove that you are abnormal.
The concept of "normal" is bound to regard two different things as opposites. For example, homosexuality is "normal" and heterosexuality is "abnormal", which is obviously unreasonable, so when we face different things, don't judge casually. If you don't accept it, then you can choose silence instead of sneering.
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We don't know the whole picture and don't comment.
There is no difference between homosexuality and heterosexuality.
Their expectations are no different from ours.
Their happiness is no different from ours.
Their love is no different from ours.
No, it's just that the person you like is the same sex as you. May all the good feelings in the world be treated gently.
I love you, so I want to give you the best and best things in the world, because you are my world.
The most romantic thing for two people to eat three meals in one room is to grow old with you and create a beautiful paradise that belongs only to you and me in the cold wall of reality.