Read Meng Fanwen.
This reminds us of such a question: how can the relationship between husband and wife last? In traditional society, this issue can not be discussed, because the ethical code stipulates that the wife is attached to her husband and wants to "marry the chicken and follow the dog." On the other hand, there are few restrictions on husbands. In fact, as we said before, you can be lenient with your husband, you can have three wives and four concubines, and you don't have to focus on one woman.
Nowadays, traditional concepts and moral standards have changed with the times. In monogamous society, the problem of maintaining the relationship between husband and wife has not been solved, and this problem is more prominent because of the great change of ideas.
It is obviously naive to maintain the relationship between husband and wife only by beauty. Flowers are never red. Beautiful flowers sometimes wither. No matter how beautiful the face is, there will be a semi-old person in Xu Niang who will grow old and go to Huang Zhi. More importantly, when two people live under the same roof day and night, beautiful faces can't make up for all kinds of frictions and contradictions between them. Whether the personality is consistent, whether the living habits can accommodate each other, and whether the concepts are consistent are more important than face. The integration and complementarity of the two is conducive to the long-term, healthy and sustainable development of Sino-US relations.
It is also naive to think that feelings will not change, or that feelings can replace everything. The passion of first love can't always be high. With marriage, having children and living, the heat will gradually decrease, and may even approach indifference. If the expectation of emotion is too high, the greater the disappointment and the deeper the frustration. So, when couples get along for a long time, they have no feelings? Definitely not. Emotion is indeed an important adhesive to make the relationship between husband and wife harmonious, but it is not a castle in the air, but has a realistic basis. Attraction of appearance, conformity of personality, consistency of taste, harmony of sexual life and so on. It is a source that constantly provides vitality for emotions. On the other hand, the changes of these factors will also have a subtle influence on emotions. How to realize all kinds of changes and make them develop in the direction you want requires a lot of energy. If you are insensitive to this, it will be too late until one day you suddenly find that things have changed for the better and your feelings have changed dramatically. Western proverbs say that Rome was not built in a day. Similarly, the feelings between husband and wife, as well as emotional changes, did not happen in one day. They must loosen the soil, water, fertilize, prune, shed leaves and prevent freezing as often as planting flowers, so that they can thrive.
There is no constant emotion in the world, only the emotion that is constantly updated and enriched in change. There is no love in the air, only love that grows in a real and plain life.
The relationship between husband and wife involves too many factors. The change of any one factor will cause a chain reaction. This is not only a question of changing ideas, but also a question of women's independence (men also have independence problems). From Tian Ling's standpoint, it is far behind the times and rigid to judge the infinitely rich and complex relationship with a certain fixed concept and simply accuse it of being wrong and immoral.
Thoughts on Reading Mang
Dream reveals the heroine's emotional beauty. She has the expectation of first love, the joy of welcoming, the pain of being abused and the sadness of being abandoned. In the process of ups and downs, the situation changes before and after, and love and hate are clear. When A Qing and his men explained the Biography of Shi Mao, they wrote: "Self-protection is called ignorance. When poetry is unfamiliar with men, it is called self-protection from the beginning; Covenant and marriage are called sons, sons are called men, marriages are called scholars and scholars are called husbands. " The heroine's address to men is constantly changing: "Meng (Chapter 1)-Zi (Chapter 1)-Er (Chapter 2)-Shi (Chapters 3 and 4)-No address (Chapters 5 and 6)", from which we can see the development of their feelings (from respect to contempt, from infatuation to sadness, from love to hate). The reason why beautiful things have strong appeal lies in that they reflect people's things, especially people's emotional life. Just like Beethoven's "Hero" symphony and Tchaikovsky's "Boat in June", the beautiful melody and pure feelings give people a great pleasure and satisfaction in spirit.
Thoughts on Reading Mang
When the first ray of sunshine fell in the sky, you were pacing in front of my house, holding the bright red cloth tightly in your hand. I played with the silkworm baby who tried to spin silk in the small garden. Hearing anxious and nervous footsteps at the door, I put down my mulberry leaves and gently pushed open the gate. ...
The moment you saw me, you were as simple and lovely as a child. "I ... I ... want to change silk." Your eyes flashed at me, and I took the bright red cloth and gave you a faint smile.
Suddenly you kissed me on the cheek. I know you are drunk, but I gently pushed you away. "It's not that I deliberately delay the time, but that you don't have a good matchmaker." You become like an angry lion, turn around and leave. I hurried to catch up with you and put my arm around your waist from behind. "Don't be angry, let's get married in the season when autumn leaves are like mirrors."
In the golden season, I put on the bright red wedding dress in my dream, climbed the collapsed city wall, looked far away and looked for you sitting in the red carriage. You are really as handsome as a dream. You carried me into the carriage from the collapsed wall, loaded my dowry, leaving only two carriages. I snuggle up to you and listen to your endless promises and vows.
Originally thought that when mulberry leaves fell, our love would go through many vicissitudes.
But the mulberry leaves are miserable. From the sweet words when I boarded the carriage that day to the beating and cursing now, I realized the experience of much transformed things.
Since I married your family, I have been accompanied by candlelight at night and worked with crows in the morning. I am tired again because I have you in my heart, so I have support.
But when you get it, you no longer cherish it, and the everlasting promise has long since passed away. Because of one sentence, you can beat me black and blue. My tears no longer hold your heart like when I was a teenager. You no longer love me, because I am no longer young and beautiful, and your heart misses another girl like when you were a teenager. ...
Finally, even the mulberry trees withered, and I held the divorce book with a slight ink fragrance tightly in my hand, just like the bright red cloth you held that morning. I faced the cold sea water in front of me, and my tears fell. My thoughts are jumping with the happiness of youth. I raise my head slightly, trying to let the sunshine evaporate my tears. I bit my finger and wrote "Mulberry leaves fell into the sea, trees withered, and there was no love" on the hard stone that had been hit by the sea for countless times. Commitment is not easy to believe, from extinction to the end. "Looking at the scarlet bloody book like a wedding dress, the corners of the mouth can't help but draw an arc, with a divorce certificate in hand, without attachments, even if I jump down. ...
Thoughts on Reading Mang
Meng shows the beauty of the heroine's personality. Shakespeare's tragedy is a tragedy of character, Ibsen's tragedy is a tragedy of society, ancient Greece's tragedy is a tragedy of fate, and Meng's tragedy is a tragedy of fate and society. "Meng" created a tragic figure with flesh and blood and distinct personality. The heroine is naive, kind and gentle, obsessed with self-protection. Being industrious and capable in marriage and family embodies the traditional virtues of women and is admirable. Faced with her immorality, love for the new and dislike for the old, arrogance and rudeness, she had a certain awareness of awakening and resistance, and was stubborn and resolute, but eventually she became a victim of marriage tragedy and a representative of the fate of ancient women. The heroine's lovely and respectable personality was torn to pieces for people to see, which aroused people's concern about the social problems of political and economic inequality at that time. It is found that this "inequality" determines the inequality between men and women in marriage, which enables Meng to play and abuse women at will with impunity, and has the right to abandon his wife and dissolve his engagement.
Thoughts on Reading Mang
The Book of Songs is the earliest collection of poems in China. It collected 305 poems in about 500 years from the early Western Zhou Dynasty to the mid-Spring and Autumn Period. The pre-Qin dynasty was called "Poetry", or the integer was called "Poetry 300". In the Western Han Dynasty, it was honored as a Confucian classic, formerly known as The Book of Songs, which has been in use ever since. There are two opinions about the compilation of The Book of Songs in Han Dynasty: ① The theory that pedestrians pick poems. ② Confucius' theory of deleting poems. Modern scholars generally believe that the theory of deleting poems is not credible. But according to what Confucius said in The Analects of Confucius: "I will go back to Shandong and be happy, elegant and eulogized where I belong." It can be seen that Confucius really likes this poem. It was only at the end of the Spring and Autumn Period that new voices rose and ancient music was lost. Only songs and poems in "Poems 300" were handed down and became the collection of poems seen today.
What is recorded in The Book of Songs are all the lyrics that once entered music. The styles of The Book of Songs are classified according to the nature of music, which can be divided into three categories: wind, elegance and ode. ① wind. It is local music from different regions. The poem "Feng" is a folk ballad collected from 15 regions, including China, Yi, Yan, Wei, Wang, Zheng, Qi, Wei, Tang, Qin, Chen, Qi, Cao and Yi. *** 160 articles. Mostly folk songs. 2 elegance. It is the music of the area directly under the jurisdiction of the Zhou Dynasty, that is, the so-called Zheng Sheng Ya Yue. The poem "Ya" is a musical song at a court banquet or meeting. According to different music, it can be divided into "Elegance" 3 1 song, "Xiaoya" 74, * * * 105. . 3 ode. It is a dance music for ancestral temple sacrifice, and the content is mostly to praise the achievements of ancestors. The ode is divided into 3/kloc-0 poems by Zhou Song, 4 poems by truffles, 5 poems by Shang Dynasty and 40 poems by * *. In terms of ideological and artistic value, three praises are not as good as two elegance, and two elegance is not as good as fifteen national styles. The Book of Songs fully shows the social life of China in the Zhou Dynasty, and truly reflects the historical features of the slave society in China from prosperity to decline. Some of them record the poems from the birth of Hou Ji to the conquest, and they are historical narrative poems about the origin, development and establishment of Zhou tribes. Some poems, with a cynical style, vividly reveal the parasitic nature of greedy slave owners who get something for nothing, sing the voice of people's resistance and yearning for an ideal life, and show the awakening of slaves during the collapse of slavery. There are also many poems that show the love life of young men and women. The so-called "six meanings" in The Book of Songs, in which style, elegance and praise refer to the classification of style; Fu, Bi and Xing are in the way of expression. Regarding Fu, Bi and Xing, Zhu made a more exact explanation in the Song Dynasty's Biography of Poetry: "The giver, the doer, speaks frankly; Compare this thing with another thing; When you are excited, just say something else that will make you say something. " The successful application of fu, bi and xing techniques is an important reason for the strong local flavor of folk songs in The Book of Songs. The Book of Songs is mainly composed of four words and miscellaneous words. Structurally, the form of repeated chapters and sentences is often adopted to enhance the lyrical effect. Only a few words are changed in each chapter, but it can receive tortuous and changeable artistic effects. In language, we often use disyllabic rhymes, reduplications and conjunctions to describe things and imitate sounds, which is poor. "Less is always more, and the situation is very clear." In addition, some rhymes in The Book of Songs, some rhymes in every other sentence, some rhymes at the end, and some rhymes in the middle. The rhyming rules of modern poetry are almost all in the Book of Songs.
Five articles related to "Meng";
★ Meng's thoughts on reading 5 articles.
★ 5 essays on self-protection after reading.
★ 5 thoughts after reading the Book of Songs.
★ The Book of Songs, 5 essays by Meng.
★ 5 essays on high school students' feelings after reading.
★ Read the model essay of The Book of Songs.
★ Five selected compositions after reading the Book of Songs.
★ Five Comments on Meng's Book of Songs
★ Read 5 articles of The Book of Songs, Meng.
★ 5 thoughts after reading the Book of Songs.