After reading 800 words, grey magpies build houses _ after reading 800 words.

"The neighbors chattered away. They argued endlessly about this and always insisted on their own opinions. " "Who should I listen to?" Damon is a grey magpie. He can't make up his mind to build a strong and beautiful new house. Before starting construction, he habitually listens to other people's opinions. As a result, amid the quarrels of his neighbors, he lingered pitifully under the tall locust tree. Damon, who is so entangled in "The Grey Magpie Builds a House", is exactly the same as the monkey who has no opinion in "The Monkey Grows Fruit Trees". The last one didn't build a new house, the other didn't plant fruit trees, and neither of them achieved much. Hesiod said that people who use their own brains in everything are the most commendable. In fact, Damon is still willing to think hard. Didn't he choose a place to build a new house after repeated investigations? Not only that, he also knows that many hands make light work. Therefore, he actively listened to the opinions of his neighbors with an open mind. Sadly, he made it a habit to listen to other people's opinions. Admittedly, the individual's way of thinking and space are limited; Sometimes, listening to other people's opinions is really a rational and correct behavior. People with experience and depth can help us analyze problems from different angles and levels, but the conclusions we draw are naturally different. Nevertheless, there is no doubt that in the final stage, after selection and comparison, the person who makes the decision can only be himself, the person who is good at listening to opinions and can still make a decisive decision. If Damon can simply listen to his neighbors' advice and then do what Emerson says, he should think for himself, not listen to others' advice. His new house has been built long ago, so he doesn't have to wander around under that big tree all the time.

So this fable gives us a warning that we can't be immune to it and make our own decisions. It's hard to have an opinion, and it's even harder to persist. Everything needs someone to nod, so we are as plain as any grain of sand by the river. People who have their own opinions must be people with personality, smart people and clear and firm eyes; Most people who have no opinions are passive to Nuo Nuo, blindly following the trend and indecisive. The iron lady Thatcher's father told her when she was five years old that she should have her own opinions on everything, judge right and wrong with her own brain, and never follow others; Xiang Yu didn't have his own judgment at the hongmen banquet. Xiang Bo listened, released Liu Bang, and was besieged on all sides.

Therefore, if you have an opinion, you will have an idea, and if you have an idea, you will have a correct decision, and the correct decision will produce a happy result. If you don't have your own ideas, you will be a "swaying grass", which will fall with the wind and end up fruitless and accomplish nothing.

As adults, we should have our own definite views or opinions on things and be loyal to our hearts, instead of always worrying about other people's ideas or always trying to please others. The precious and lovely thing about life is that you can live according to your own ideas and be yourself. Do it for yourself, live for your dreams, live for happiness, just be yourself.

The same is true of what we say and do to our children. In daily life, there are always "authoritarian parents" who are used to making decisions instead of their children. These dictators rarely ask their children for advice, and once they don't follow instructions, they will blame them. I didn't know that every child had his own opinion. Parents should let their children fully express their wishes at any time and give him the opportunity to express their opinions. I secretly think it can be classified as "three wants and one don't"

Listen to the child's "nagging". Most children like to nag and talk excitedly about what they see every day. Never think that children are long-winded and troublesome. Because this kind of "nagging" happens to be the earliest embodiment of children's self-awareness, this is the little guy trying to express his views on the world to adults, perhaps the embryonic form of children's world outlook! Therefore, we should not only listen to children's "nagging", but also encourage them to "nag" more.

Pay attention to the child's "report". Parents can remind their children to observe things anytime and anywhere and give them opportunities to explore. After the observation, you should also ask him what he saw and learned. When children make a "report" to us, it will inspire them to listen patiently and give instructions in time.

Listen to the child's "excuse". When children argue with their parents about what they have done, parents should never scold their children for "talking back" and give them ample opportunities to defend themselves; When a child quarrels with others, we don't need to mediate the dispute at once. We can listen, observe and see if his speech is reasonable and coherent.

Don't interrupt the child's conversation. Many parents sometimes feel that their children's sentences and words are not mature enough when listening to their children. They like to grab children's "words", which virtually deprives them of the opportunity to speak, and at the same time makes them lose confidence in their future expression. Therefore, when a child wants to speak, even if he can't express his meaning, parents should let the child express his meaning in his own language, instead of being the "spokesperson" of the child.

If we can all achieve the above "three wants and one don't", children's sense of independence will gradually emerge, and their independent thinking ability will naturally be greatly improved.

Dear child, I hope you are an independent person who can control your own life; May you be an independent person who can clearly distinguish between right and wrong ahead; I wish you to be a man of your own mind, persevere on the road you choose and steer your life.