The sea of people is boundless, who is the person you spend your life with? If you are still looking, please read this article. Using scientific methods will help you meet your partner as soon as possible.
Meeting, knowing each other, falling in love, together, love doesn't seem complicated. However, it is not easy to find the only thrill. The smiling weapon met the right man in a crowded room. How to talk to him? The British "Daily Mail" intercepted the contents of the book on the 3rd, and research shows that women who are open and active will fall behind. Judging from the research conclusion, the key to success lies in subtly revealing one's heart. Smiling and eye contact are very important. In a study on 1985, the researchers asked an attractive woman to identify a man who was about 3 meters away from her within 10 minutes, and attracted him to chat up. They try various methods: one or more eye contact, or a smile. It turns out that if you don't laugh, even if you ogle him many times, the chances of success will be reduced by 20%. But if women smile many times and make eye contact with men, 60% of men will take the initiative to strike up a conversation. Psychologist Monica? Moore's research found that a bright smile is by far the most powerful weapon for women to attract men's attention. This is especially true for women who think that their looks are not enough to attract the opposite sex. The number of signals such as smiles and eyes is far more important than looks. Moore pointed out that it is not the most attractive women who win the most praise, but the women who frequently send out "intentional" signals. If a woman smiles at a man or makes eye contact with him more than 35 times in an hour, on average, four or more men will come forward to strike up a conversation. Physiological cycle in order to find out what really attracts men to women, Jeffrey, an evolutionary psychologist at the University of New Mexico? Miller recently made a research on Yan * * * Lang. He found that the amount of tips received by Yan * * * Lang varies greatly every week, and this change is directly related to women's physiological cycle. On average, a beautiful woman can get a tip of 22 pounds (about 33 dollars) per hour during menstruation, while a girl can get a tip of 45 pounds (68 dollars) per hour during ovulation. Girls who don't menstruate or ovulate earn an hourly wage of 32 pounds (48 dollars). The researchers speculated that women's body odor and waist-hip ratio changed slightly during ovulation, and men noticed it and made different reactions. Another study found that men find photos taken by women during ovulation more attractive. This may also be due to the subtle changes in female pupil dilation, lip color and skin color during this period. In addition, the average hourly income of girls who take birth control pills is 24 pounds (36 dollars), while that of girls who don't take birth control pills is 34 pounds (5/kloc-0 dollars). It can be seen that contraceptives will also have an impact on the attractiveness of women. Dating Tips A matchmaking agency found through a survey that 46% of the members interviewed don't like the other party to answer the phone while eating, 465,438+0% of the respondents think it is taboo to treat restaurant staff rudely, 26% of male members and 37% of female members don't like the other party to talk too much about themselves, 30% of the members interviewed will choose to end the conversation when the other party talks about their ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend, and 45% of male members don't like the date to talk about it. Besides, familiarity does not always breed neglect as people say. For example, before complaining that you can't find the right man, consider the male friends around you and see if anyone can make you move; If you want to leave a good impression on strangers, you will "bump into each other".
Why do people want to find their other half? In Greek mythology,
Primitive man was round.
It has four hands, four feet and a head.
There are two identical faces on one neck.
Other body parts are also paired in this way.
They can walk like us,
Roll on the ground like a tumbler when running.
They are too powerful to be proud of offending the gods.
One day,
Zeus said: "I divided them into two parts, on the one hand, making them weak, on the other hand, making more people serve us."
Since then,
Half of primitive people are always looking for the other half and once merged with themselves.
Love,
It is the memory of the complete primitive state of human beings.
It is the combination of half longing for the other half.
The long search for the other half,
This is love.
As Plato said,
Everyone is an incomplete individual split in two.
I've been looking for the other half all my life,
But you may not find it,
Because too many people are divided. ...
This is the best answer I have ever seen about how to find the other half. In fact, this problem itself is a misunderstanding. How can we find that person? Search itself is painful. In fact, when we are ready, we will meet that person at the right time and place. I remember watching Zhang Ailing write such a sentence (from memory, the specific words may be wrong): "In endless time, there is neither an early step nor a late step, which is just a coincidence."
We don't have to look for it. As for how to meet, we don't need to worry about it. So we just need to prepare ourselves and don't need to look for it. When you are ready, that person will appear. How do you know you're ready? First, when you think of love, you will feel very calm and calm. You don't feel unhappy, unlucky or despise anyone. Second, the miracle of happy love will happen to you in an unexpected way, hehe.
Here is just to share my personal experience and how to prepare myself to meet the right person.
First, thoroughly clean up the remnants of old debts.
First of all, the premise of meeting a soul mate who brings you happiness is that you must be calm and gentle from the heart and completely get rid of the previous emotional fetters. Even if you have never really been in love, but have a crush on others, that kind of crush is also a fetter.
Many people have just started the next vigorous love after a painful lovelorn, thinking that the new love will heal the old scars. I can say that this is basically doomed to misfortune. Even if it starts well, your old injuries will still jump out and hinder your future marriage. Also, if you are not satisfied with your current lover and partner, it is best not to step into the next relationship until it is completely over with him. You are double-dealing, hurting others and yourself, which is very troublesome. If you just secretly love someone else, this kind of treatment is also necessary, but if you are not deeply involved, I am afraid you will not be deeply hurt, which varies from person to person.
For example, when you fall down and break your leg while running, should you get up immediately and continue running with an analgesic injection, or go to the hospital to have a splint rest for a few months before running? You will choose the latter.
When a love ended, both sides were hurt. Even if you leave a malefic who insults you all day and think that breaking up is a relief (as it is), you still have to admit that you have been hurt. Therefore, you must take time to treat, and don't treat new feelings as temporary painkillers. During the treatment, enjoy being single and don't start a new relationship.
On this basis, I learned a very good psychotherapy from John Gray's book: totally embracing four emotions: sadness, anger, regret and fear. (sadness, anger, sorrow, fear)
Many times, the reason why we can never recover from mental injury is because we have not fully understood the above four feelings. Some people are just sad and feel that they are not good enough, but they will never allow themselves to be angry. Some people feel angry blindly, and everything is the fault of the other party, but they are not allowed to feel sad and afraid.
If you can spend a little time writing every day:
1. I feel sad because. . . .
2. I feel angry because …
3. I feel sorry because. . . .
4. I feel scared because. . . .
It is best to write more than one page for each emotion. Give vent to all the emotions in your heart, and crying is the most effective.
JohnGray's book also suggests that you can write this as a letter to the other party (of course, never send it), then imagine yourself as the other party, write a reply to yourself in the tone of the other party, apologize, and then write back to him and say, I forgive you. I bless you.
This process is painful at first, but if you can write it once a day, you will feel that the heavy burden in your heart will gradually disappear after a few weeks.
How do you know that you have recovered? It is when you think of that old lover that you feel calm, without pain, resentment, nostalgia and sadness, only your blessing and gratitude to him, thanking this person for giving you a beautiful day and an important lesson. It's like graduating from school. You're leaving. Leave with satisfaction and gratitude.
If you already feel that you are no longer bound by past feelings, then you are ready.
Next, I will start to figure out what kind of person I want.
You may think, isn't it easy? Every girl wants to be handsome, rich, interesting and loyal. But there are not many such perfect people in reality. What's the use of knowing what you want? Can you get it if you want it?
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Looking for the right lady/gentleman.
Looking for that person
A person has been looking for the other half for a long time. He was only half-born and walked the world in search of the other half. Some people are lucky and find it soon. And some people have to spend their whole lives looking for it. "
How to find the other half If you want to find it deliberately, you can only let your social circle find ways to broaden.
If you don't meet the person you like, of course, you should learn to be smart yourself, otherwise you will suffer.
You are the one I found! What's the name of this song? Is this it? !
You are too important to me.
Singer: T.R.Y
Arws, do you know that you are very important to me?
You are too important to me.
Want to lie in your arms
I long for you to rely on me.
Loving you is my pride.
You are too important to me.
Nobody but you.
I believe I will grow old with you.
Always proud of you.
I have fallen in love with you before I know it.
Your smile is as beautiful as a flower.
Love is simple. You have to feel it.
You are the other half I am looking for.
Love tastes like delicious food.
I don't want to run away from your hug
My heart will prove it all my life.
If you can accept my feelings.
You are too important to me.
Want to lie in your arms
I long for you to rely on me.
Loving you is my pride.
You are too important to me.
Nobody but you.
I believe I will grow old with you.
Always proud of you.
I have fallen in love with you before I know it.
Your smile is as beautiful as a flower.
Love is simple. You have to feel it.
You are the other half I am looking for.
Love tastes like delicious food.
I don't want to run away from your hug
My heart will prove it all my life.
If you can accept my feelings.
You are too important to me.
Want to lie in your arms
I long for you to rely on me.
Loving you is my pride.
You are too important to me.
Nobody but you.
I believe I will grow old with you.
Always proud of you.
You are too important to me.
Want to lie in your arms
I long for you to rely on me.
Loving you is my pride.
You are too important to me.
Nobody but you.
I believe I will grow old with you.
Always proud of you.
Proud of you. . .
When can I find the other half? Some destinies are doomed to be lost, and some destinies are doomed to have no good results.
You don't have to love someone, but if you have someone, you must try to love her ~
In fact, what is painful is the sweet or painful memories we left together. . . We are often trapped in memories. . . What we need to do is tell ourselves the past and let it go. . . Endless sorrow and pain will only disrupt our pursuit of a new life. Passing by happiness. . . Is it worth it? . . Treat the three years together correctly. . Let the past be the best memory. Then say to yourself strongly. . I want to pursue new happiness. . If you want to lose, you will lose to pursuit, and if you want to marry, you will marry happiness. . I believe the scenery ahead will be more beautiful. . .
I want to find the other half. How come? Cut it flat with a knife. Here, I found the other half, and you no longer exist.
How do Christians find their other half? This information is aimed at unmarried sisters, but I think many points are also very helpful to unmarried brothers.
Today, I cherish every sister who comes to this party, because you are willing to seek God's will. Here, I want to share with you some leadership and experience from the Lord; Pray that God will show us his will through His Word.
First, seek God's will:
Marriage is a human need, but when many people seek the road to marriage, they only seek their own hobbies, not God's wishes. If you can seek God's will, you will take the first step on the right path!
This is the principle of the Bible. When we need it, the Lord will provide for us. If you know this, no matter what happens on the road of life, God will fulfill his will according to what you see. But although some people are also seeking God's will, they still don't know why. There are three basic principles:
1, Cupid:
"Love God" is the key to everything. If you love God and encounter anything, you will clearly know that there is a Lord leading you. As long as you follow the guidance of the Lord, you don't have to hesitate or struggle. What should be put down is easy to put down and what should be dropped is easy to drop. "Love is the shortest way" is also "the way to avoid detours". If a person has been doing things according to his "viewpoint", then he has been taking a circuitous road; I believe some of you here are experienced in this field. If anyone loves God, he is known by God. In the original Greek, "knowing" means "knowing in person" and "knowing in person". You love God, and God knows all your needs and how to decide all your paths. You should love him, practice connecting with him, live in love, give yourself to him, and he will give you absolute supply!
2, simple:
Simplicity is not ignorance. Matthew 5: 8 says, "Blessed are the pure in heart, and they will see God." If you don't have your own requirements for everything, open your heart and be very simple and clear, God's will will will be easily revealed, and as long as one meets God, all problems will be solved. Some people pray for a long time; But the more he prayed, the more confused he became, because he kept spinning around in his own needs and didn't meet God. If a brother or sister makes some arrangements for her, she will feel anxious when she comes back. I don't know if God prepared it, because she hasn't met God yet. The condition of meeting God is a "pure heart". A pure heart has no conditions of its own. Everything in the Bible is possible. You must practice being simple to God.
3. Diligence:
The most obvious example of unmarried women in the Bible is Rebecca. In Genesis 24, we see how an unmarried woman fulfilled God's will through the guidance of the Holy Spirit. When Isaac was forty years old, his mother died and he was lonely. His father Abraham sent an old servant to his own family to marry Isaac (unbelievers and unbelievers can't stand the same yoke). When the old servant arrived in Hecheng, it was getting late and the women came out to fetch water. The old servant prayed to God and said, "God of Abraham! Please be kind to Abraham ... so that I can meet a good opportunity today ... I said to that woman, please take down your water bottle and give me water to drink. If she says, "Drink, and I'll give your camels a drink." May the woman be the wife you promised to your servant Isaac. 」
Before the words were finished, Rebecca came out with a water bottle on her shoulder, and the servant came forward to ask her for water to drink. Rebekah not only gave him water to drink, but also brought water to all his camels. The servant looked at her intently, knowing that Rebekah was what God had prepared for Isaac. With Rebekah's hospitality and kindness, God showed him the way. In church life, I saw many sisters being seen immediately because of her hospitality. More than twenty years ago, an elderly sister came from Brazil to attend a special meeting to marry her son. She has a very big farm in Brazil, and she asked my brother to help her find it. Just at the party, there was a sister who was only a freshman sitting next to her. My sister is very hard-working. She helps her turn over the poems, pours water for her and accompanies her to the party. After the party, the elder sister came to my brother and said, "That's her, that's her! My brother invited this little sister, told her the reason and asked her if she would agree to this. The elder sister was frightened. She never thought this would happen to her, but because she trusted my brother's introduction, she was as simple as Rebecca. She said, "I'll go!" After the party, she dropped out of school and went to Brazil with her sister. This family is now very useful in Brazil and has a good witness. In church life, everyone is watching, but you should start with your hospitality and naturally show your life, where the Holy Spirit works ... >>