An old man's praise of "You can teach with a willing heart" once made Sean, a Han minister, raise the sail of confidence and achieved the great cause of Tubo. An American youth wants to commit suicide. He is going to buy another newspaper and kill himself after reading it. When he read the poem Life is just an Empty Dream written by the black poet Hughes, he suddenly woke up, gave up the idea of suicide and started a new life.
A word of praise and encouragement can sometimes change the fate of others unconsciously! When Lin Qingxuan, a famous writer in Taiwan Province Province, was a journalist when he was young, he reported that a thief had committed thousands of crimes, and his modus operandi was very delicate. At the end of the article, I can't help but sigh: "The psychology is so meticulous and the technique is so dexterous. If you use it wisely in the right place, you will achieve something in any line. " It never occurred to Lin Qingxuan that these words he wrote with frankness and frankness have influenced a young man's life. Today, the thief of that year is already the small boss of several mutton stoves in Taiwan Province Province. In an encounter, the boss sincerely said to Lin Qingxuan, "The sentence behind the feature article written by Teacher Wang broke the blind spot in my life and made me think, why didn't I want to do the right thing except being a thief?" Since then, he has turned over a new leaf and turned over a new leaf. Obviously, Mr. Lin's words are not only the condensation of words and thoughts, but also full of fascinating charm!
Sunset and sunset glow need to be savored, frosted flowers and autumn leaves need to be praised, and interpersonal communication needs to be appreciated. Writing heroic words and witty sentences is appreciation, a few words, some feelings and encouragement. In the real society where no one can live alone without others, everyone is eager for encouragement, and many people build up their confidence and thrive in this gentleness. This plays an important role for some people to gain the strength of life, establish the standard of value, establish upward self-confidence and summon up courage to advance. The deepest psychological motivation in human nature is the desire to be appreciated. This kind of encouragement is sometimes just a few words, some are decent words, some are affirmative words. This is the expression of love and talent, and it is also the embodiment of helping others to solve doubts. A word is very common, but sometimes it is very powerful. A word is natural enough to show true chun, and a word comes out that there is spring in the world, which contains this meaning. Of course, to use words accurately and appropriately requires philosophical thinking. Frogs crow all night and people are upset about it; The cock crows at the right time, and the world becomes clear at once. And what we call "a word" needs to be exciting, reasonable and powerful; It can inspire and promote people and give them motivation. Therefore, we don't have to be stingy with this kind of praise to others. Maybe one sentence can change other people's lives and destiny! (6) Do you know how powerful a sentence is?
When you are lonely and lost, warm words are like stars in the dark, illuminating a lonely and heavy heart.
When you are sad and painful, soothing words are like a clear spring on the wasteland, nourishing the dry and burst wounds.
When you are sad and wronged, words of support are like bonfires in the cold, inspiring depressed emotions.
Tears, failure and refueling are like wild vines in a deep valley, overcoming difficulties and helplessness.
Being at the bottom of life, losing expectations for life, losing confidence in the future, and no longer being sure of one's ability ... encouragement may be just a reassurance.
In a word, seemingly insignificant, it is the best gift from God to those who are struggling in adversity, and its power is endless ... Too often, it is because of these "words" that we raise our heads from confusion and boldly strive from despair.
However, in real life, there are also injuries. ...
Insulting words will bring others the fear of falling into hell.
If you are insidious, you will scare others into falling into a deep valley.
Bitter words will bring a heavy burden that others can't put down.
It is this "one sentence" that makes many people who persist in the dark corner give up the only hope in their hearts and make many people who work hard in adversity lose the only happy fragment in their hearts.
Therefore, don't underestimate "a word", it can make people strong, and it can also make people walk into the abyss. Every dawn, I tell myself to be kind to everything and keep words that hurt others away from me.
Friend, in countless conversations with people, you sincerely said, "You are great, you can do it!" " Or tell him with contemptuous eyes, "I told you so long ago that you would fail!" " "Calm down and think about it! Then don't forget to remind yourself to warm every heart with your heart and say every word with love. (7) A good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts June. How powerful is a word? When a person goes astray, a word of care, love and encouragement may change a person's life.
Xiao Wang, a female taxi driver, met a robber. She gave all her money to the gangster and said, "I earned very little today. If it is too little, I will give you change. "
Seeing that "my sister" was so frank, the gangster was a little dumbfounded. Xiao Wang took the opportunity to say, "Where do you live? Let me take you home. Your family will be anxious at this late hour. "
The thoughtfulness of "Dear Sister" made the gangster put away the knife. Seeing that the atmosphere has eased, Xiao Wang lost no time to encourage the gangsters: "My family is also very difficult. Later, I learned to drive with others and started this business. Although I don't earn much money, I have a good life. Well, you are a man with perfect limbs and can do anything. If you embark on this road, your life will be ruined. "
When he arrived at the place, he saw the gangster getting off the bus. Xiao Wang said, "even if I help you get the money, do something serious with it." Don't do such shameful things again. "
The gangster who didn't talk all the way burst into tears and put the money into Xiao Wang's hand and said, "Sister, I won't do it if I starve to death."
Lin Qingxuan, a writer in Taiwan Province Province, was not as good as the school in his studies and conduct when he was a sophomore. He recorded two big mistakes and two small mistakes, so he was detained for observation and even expelled from the student dormitory of the school.
Many teachers gave up hope on him, but his Chinese teacher Wang Yucang didn't give up on him. I often take him home for dinner and ask him to give Chinese lessons to my classmates when I take leave.
Teacher Wang told him: "I have been teaching for 50 years and I can see at a glance that you are a successful student."
This sentence moved and shocked Lin Qingxuan. In order to live up to the teacher's painstaking efforts, he studied hard and determined to be a useful person to society.
Interestingly, a few years later, Lin Qingxuan, a journalist, was impressed by the thief's meticulous thinking and delicate modus operandi when writing an article about the thief's crime. At the end of the article, he couldn't help but sigh: "A thief with such meticulous thinking, clever technique and unique style will achieve something in any line!"
It never occurred to him that this unintentional remark actually affected a young man's life. Twenty years later, the thief has been thoroughly remoulded and turned over a new leaf, becoming a small entrepreneur!
In an encounter with Lin Qingxuan, the boss sincerely said to Lin Qingxuan: "The feature written by Teacher Lin lit up the blind spot in my life and made me think that besides being a thief, I can also do serious things!"
How powerful is a word?
When a person faces the wrong road and is surrounded by cold words, a word of care, love and encouragement is like a burning fire, which can give people warmth, ignite the flame of self-confidence and self-esteem, and make people thoroughly remould themselves, strive for progress and be positive.
When a person is in a desperate situation and can't tell the direction, a word of encouragement, comfort and appreciation, like a light guiding the way, can make people see the light of the road ahead in the dark, thus breaking through the haze and fog and getting out of the predicament.
Although a word is simple, as long as you are kind and sincere, you can help others tilt their hearts, correct their deviated life coordinates, and change their life trajectory as if they were set.
Lin Qingxuan's experience tells us that a word can be the sunshine that warms others' lives, and it can give people warmth and light all their lives. (eight) the success or failure of life, often because of a person, a thing, or even a word and have a decisive impact.
A word that is particularly useful to people is worth a thousand words.
At all times, many people were deeply moved by other people's words, and even suddenly became enlightened; There are countless examples of changing life because of "one sentence".
Carnegie, a famous American educator and speaker, was a very naughty child when he was a child. When he was nine years old, his father married his stepmother to his family.
When his father introduced Carnegie to his new wife, he said, "I want you to pay attention to the worst boy in the county." He really gives me a headache. Maybe tomorrow morning he will throw stones at you or do something bad! " 」
To Carnegie's surprise, his stepmother smiled and walked up to him, holding his head and looking at him.
Then he told her husband, "You are wrong. He is not the worst boy in the county, but the smartest boy, but he hasn't found a place to vent his enthusiasm yet. 」
When this was said, Carnegie's tears rolled down at will.
Because of this sentence, Carnegie and his stepmother established a deep feeling; It is also because of this sentence that he has achieved his motivation to make progress; More because of this sentence, let him help thousands of Qian Qian people on the road to success in the future.
It's easy to say "a word", but it's important to let the other person enjoy it.
The reconstruction of a lost life does not necessarily depend on people who can speak well, sometimes just a seemingly ordinary sentence can bring strength to each other.
Master Huineng, the sixth ancestor of Buddhism, used to be a woodcutter. Because he heard the phrase "you should live without shelter" in the Diamond Sutra, if you realize it, you should ask the teacher to visit the Tao. Later, I planted August rice under the seat of Master Hong Ren, the fifth ancestor, and became enlightened.
Master Danxia originally wanted to go to Beijing to catch the exam, because he heard a saying that "it is better to choose an official than a Buddha", and he became a monk, diligent in practice and became the founder of Zen Buddhism.
Life is a kind of learning, and anyone will inevitably encounter difficulties and confusion in the process of learning.
Give a good word to people and make life soar. Why not?
Therefore, people should often say:
First, if you give people happiness;
Second, words of encouragement;
Third, give people positive words;
Fourth, give people praise.
Say more good things and say less bad things.
A casual and frivolous word can sometimes ruin a person's future, but a caring word can give depressed people the courage to survive.
Therefore, people should always keep an eye on their mouths, so as not to ruin good causes and good karma. ....
Laughter: everyone can talk, but not everyone can talk. A good word is a word, and so is a bad word. Good words make people happy, and bad words show that they lack self-cultivation. It is rarely heard that someone changed his bad habits because of being scolded, but it is often heard that someone changed his way because of a word that relatives and friends care about and made unremitting efforts. I met my friend Xin at the class reunion. She is in her early forties, with a red face, fair and elastic skin and bright eyes. Compared with her half a year ago, she is completely different. "Are you beautiful and radiant again?" I asked in confusion. "I found a better way than beauty." Xin smiled mysteriously and opened the chatterbox. Xin is a primary school teacher who works hard and is an excellent educator in the school. My husband is a civil servant, and he is too busy to go home every day. The only son is going to college. Six months ago, she suffered from high blood pressure and heart disease. I have to call in sick at home. From daily busyness to sudden idleness, Xin did relax for a while. But the time was not long, and endless loneliness and loneliness came to her. The husband's job is to go out early and return late, and he often travels. Xin was alone at home, facing four walls, and her heart began to be sour. The outside world is wonderful, and the outside world is helpless. Will the husband be tempted ... I dare not think about it. Whenever her husband comes home, Xin will check his mobile phone and find out his whereabouts. As the days go by, the complaints that have begun become suspicious and even hysterical. The husband sighed and was helpless. At that time, I met Xin. Her face was tired, her dark face was full of sadness, and she kept criticizing her husband. It seems that her husband has suddenly become the culprit and his sworn enemy. Until one day, Xin read a passage from a famous host of CCTV in a magazine: "Women should have their own careers. If she doesn't have her own career, at least she should have her own career; If you don't have your own career, you will treat your husband as your own career, and something will really happen. " Ask yourself: isn't this about me? How did you become like this! Where is the confidence? How can you put your life on your husband every day? She chewed and pondered, blushing for what she had done these days, thinking and thinking, and her mind was suddenly enlightened. Xin is a resolute man. She ran to the bookstore and bought a big stack of newspapers and magazines that she liked to read. She is immersed in words, and her feelings fluctuate with the changes of characters' stories. Keller, a famous writer, said: "A book is like a ship, which leads us from a narrow place to the infinite ocean of life."
Xin has changed. She arranges her life to the fullest every day, cooking, walking and exercising, reading newspapers, and sometimes trying to write down her experiences, but several articles have been published in the newspapers, and her enthusiasm has been fully mobilized.
When the husband came home, he saw that his wife no longer looked through his mobile phone information, and that annoying nagging was gone. The wife never leaves the book, so she can't even look at him. The husband went from confusion to shock to appreciation. Every time I am on a business trip or at leisure, I will carefully bring back a stack of books, which will make her happier than buying her a suit. Xin smiled and said proudly, "I didn't expect a word to touch me so much, so when I see any woman's bitter gourd face again, my eyes are full of unhappy sadness. Don't be blind to sympathy." She asked for it completely. " Can you think of it? A word of comfort, like a bright light, can illuminate your heart and even affect your attitude towards life.