From a wrinkled little black child at birth, he has become a small meat ball with a round head and a round brain and fat hands and feet. From the time I was born, I could only shout "nge nge", and now I can call my parents, grandparents, climb and stand, help me walk, coquetry and be bored and want to hug. ....
In a year, you have grown up a lot and brought a lot of joy to your parents.
Taking advantage of the little time at this moment, while my mother's memory is still clear, I quickly recorded my birth year in the form of a running account.
If this diary is always there, if you can read it when you grow up, I hope you can feel that you were born with love and grew up with full love; No matter what bright spots or darkest moments you will experience in your future life, I hope you will always believe that we all love you, and you should be good ~
My brother Tao opened one just after he was born, and he will laugh the next morning ~
Now, it seems that in the first few days after birth, he was ugly and had pimples all over his face, but at that time, my parents liked Tao Tao very much, and they all thought my baby was the most beautiful!
In the first month, I invited the Lunar New Year. Zhang Jie is very kind to Tao Tao, putting her to sleep and making her laugh every day. At that time, my mother was still a little nervous, and I was worried every day whether I should start to cultivate rules for Tao Tao. Jason advised me not to make rules a hundred days ago, but I was always skeptical ... Now it seems that I am too nervous!
Zhang Taotao in the first month is particularly easy to walk. When he is hungry, he eats milk. He sleeps when he is sleepy, and it is easy to put it down when he sleeps. I often sleep for two or three hours. Grandpa can't help feeling: Why do you sleep so much? Grandpa wants to play with Tao Tao, haha.
At that time, my younger brother Tao showed the characteristics of loving music. When grandma sings with Tao Tao in her arms, he will soon calm down. When there is music on the side, he will turn to look for it ... The little guy's mood has been very stable, which makes grandpa ask every day: Why don't you cry, little baby? Ha ha laugh
I am probably a naturally anxious mother, especially when I just changed my role and am not so experienced.
After reading a lot of tutorials, most of them say that children should start to cultivate regular feeding and start eating and sleeping as soon as they are born ... So from the full moon in Tao Tao, I began to refer to the guidance of other precious mothers in the group and some parenting books to train Tao Tao to eat and sleep.
The parenting book says that the baby can have a 3-hour breastfeeding interval at the full moon ... The parenting book also says that many times the baby cries not because he wants to breastfeed, but because he is sleepy or needs comfort. If he gives milk every time he cries, he will form the baby's bad habit and can't accept other soothing methods.
So anxious, I think I must cultivate Tao Tao's good habits as soon as possible. ...
At that time, my brother Tao often wanted to eat milk, and sometimes he cried for milk in less than two hours ... but I was thinking: does he cry for milk now? Do you want to feed it later?
So according to the experience of some people who have been there, start feeding every day and try to feed for two and a half hours at a time. After feeding, they don't sleep, let Tao Tao play for a while before going to bed. ...
Now that I think about it, it's a bit rude ... I didn't realize at that time that everyone's milk quantity is different, and each child's appetite is different. ...
Many times, the baby cried. As soon as I have no time, I insist on not feeding, giving pacifiers and hugs ... Tao Tao is already very good. Sometimes she can sleep with a pacifier, sometimes she works harder and harder, and then she cries and can't sleep. I have no choice but to feed her later. ...
During that time, I was a little anxious and tired, and Tao Tao was made a little tired by me and cried from time to time. ...
Until one day, when I was going out at noon, I left my milk at home and told my grandmother that Tao Tao was hot ... For safety reasons, I left more milk than I expected ... Three or four hours later, I went home, and my grandmother told me with surprise: Tao Tao's milk was full, super good, and she didn't cry after sitting on the sofa for more than an hour ... At this time, my grandmother and I began to guess that Tao Tao had been sitting on the sofa for a while. ....
Then, when Tao Ge was 49 days old, he went to the hospital for a physical examination. The doctor told the child that he was underweight and didn't grow very well ... The doctor suspected that the child was not full, but I said no, and he was hungry in about two hours, eating for 40 to 50 minutes at a time ... The doctor continued to ask, how did he swallow when he was breastfeeding? Once or twice, or once after a long time ... I said only once or twice in the first two minutes ... The doctor told me helplessly: your child didn't eat enough at all ... Seeing my doubts, he continued to explain: other children only ate 10 minutes, but kept swallowing; Your baby seems to have eaten for forty or fifty minutes, but he didn't suck so much effectively. Don't eat too much, this baby is tired enough ... just like moving bricks, some babies move four or five pieces at a time for ten minutes. Can the baby move one piece at a time and half a car in half an hour?
It dawned on my mother, and I began to believe it ... My brother Tao may really not have enough to eat ... At that moment, my mother felt so guilty because I was so self-righteous that I was always hungry for Tao Tao, and I thought it was because my baby was not good ... Baby, my mother apologized for her stubbornness.
Thanks to the reliable deputy chief physician of Beijing Maternity Hospital I met that day; Thanks to her correct judgment, I stopped thinking in time. After returning home, mom stopped insisting on feeding, and then Tao Tao baby immediately began to relax, and basically didn't cry from morning till night, showing the characteristics of angel baby.
Looking back now, it is difficult for me to define whether my "regular feeding plan" in February is right or wrong, and it is hard to say that I will not regret it in the future.
Have regrets. If I hadn't insisted on regular feeding when my baby was so young, Tao Tao wouldn't have been hungry and cried so often, and she wouldn't have been only 8 kg and 8 liang for 50 days ... I might not lose milk in the future. I obviously have a lot of milk during confinement, but the supply is in short supply every day. I suspect that there was a reason for insisting on feeding less at that time.
But if I say I am wrong, I will hesitate again. After February, Tao Tao began to form the good habit of eating, playing and sleeping regularly. He didn't give a hug, but coaxed him to sleep, which made him very relaxed. Since then, my baby and grandmother have become much more comfortable. After adapting to this rhythm, Tao Tao's mood has been very stable, and he is very happy every day ... It is hard to say that it is not the reason why he started to cultivate regular feeding in February.
It is meaningless to investigate the right and wrong at that time now; I can only say, fortunately, I didn't raise my Tao Tao; After 50 days, I increased my feeding, my weight soon caught up, and my good work and rest habits have been maintained, gradually becoming an angel baby now.
In the third month, Tao Tao began to get better and better ... gradually set a cycle of 2.5-3 hours, began to play after eating, began to feel sleepy after playing for about an hour, and began to fall asleep after being coaxed for more than ten minutes. ...
After feeding him every day, I put him under the bed bell or on the fitness rack. He listened to the music and looked at the bell or mirror overhead. He often laughs happily, and then starts dancing and pedaling to the music ... sometimes the rhythm is particularly good. I have lamented more than once whether this baby has inherited the musical talents of his father and me.
At this time, he began to play by himself. Many times, I put him beside the toy and left, thinking that he would cry later. As a result, the baby had a good time alone. When I came back a minute or two later, he was still playing at ease, and when he saw me, he would give me a big smile ... At this time, I was proud on the one hand and a little lost on the other ... Why is this baby not so dependent? ....
The second month passed, and we began to let Tao Tao practice raising his head gradually ... The next month, I found that Tao Tao could raise his head for a short time, but I didn't care too much at that time ... When I was on the ground for two months, I didn't want to see a baby about the same age supporting the upper body, so I began to consciously let Tao practice. And the learning speed of my way surprised us ... At first, I couldn't lift it when I was lying down, but after more than a week, my head was raised steadily ... Then I lifted it higher and higher more easily, and at the end of three months (the 89th day), I slipped and learned to turn over!
At first, I tilted my feet, tilted to one side, tilted to the other side, tilted hard to the other side, and then turned around with the help of my body until I turned the balance point at a certain moment, suddenly overturned myself and looked up happily ~ ~ ~
In the first few days when I learned to turn over, I couldn't control how many letters he sent. As long as I put him down, he will turn over like a conditioned reflex. However, if you turn it over, you can't turn it back. I learned to raise my head but I won't bow my head (a hero with self-esteem and persistence, haha). Every time I look up, I won't let go and let myself get down, but I will look up every time until I can't hold on, my face turns red and I will only shout, but I won't let go and wait for us to turn him back. ...
In those days, watching me turn over was really the greatest pleasure. ...
Less than four months later, I was ready to go to work, and my mother's anxiety reached its peak at this moment ... What should I do if my grandmother can't take care of me, what should I do if Tao Tao can't adapt, and what should I do if I can't breastfeed after I get to the company ... All kinds of problems make me breathless. Fortunately, at this time, my Tao also experienced the first big increase in IQ and physical strength, which comforted my anxious old mother very well.
As early as the first three months, my Tao slept very lightly, and a little movement would wake him up, and then it would be even harder to fall asleep ... At that time, I was the only one in the family who mastered the trick of putting the bed, and I could put my Tao down smoothly almost every time after sleeping and before leaving; Dad, grandma or grandpa put them to sleep, and they all woke up as soon as they were put down ... At that time, sometimes they went out for a run in the afternoon, and grandma coaxed Tao Tao at home. Most of the time, I held them until I came back after falling asleep ... At that time, grandma was also very worried, thinking, how could he coax me when I went to work?
Who would have thought that after a hundred days, my sleep ability had a qualitative leap. After he fell asleep, he soon began to fall into a deep sleep. At this time, no matter you put him on the bed, he can sleep soundly and seldom wake up ... This skill greatly comforted grandma and gave her confidence to take Tao Tao alone.
A week before I went to work, my grandfather went home and my grandmother took care of Tao Tao ... At this time, Tao Tao showed his ability to recognize people for the first time in his life. Mom held it well, and grandma cried when she took it ... Mom, I am also in distress situation. In fact, grandma has only been gone for a month, but it happened that in this month, my family Tao began to recognize people. Grandma went home to work and got a little tanned, so I didn't know her when she came back. ....
Fortunately, my adaptability to pottery is excellent. After a day or two, grandma and I became acquainted. When I got up in the morning and saw her smiling face, my mother was relieved.
Three months and three weeks later (2019.11.08), I started to go back to work ... The first day of work, I felt like a year, and I was worried about whether Tao Tao would be uncomfortable at home all the time ... When I got home, my grandmother told me that Tao Tao was super good today ~ a little unhappy in the morning.
Mom finally breathed a sigh of relief. I'm really proud of my Tao. Angel Tao, this name is not for nothing!
In the fifth month, my mother began to work formally. ...
During this time, I miss Tao Tao very much every day ... When I go to work, I can't help but want to see what Tao Tao is doing at home, whether he is happy or not, whether he is eating or sleeping ~ And once it is time to go to work, my mother will immediately rush out of the company and jump to the subway station at the fastest speed, just to save a few minutes on the way; During that time, every day on the way to work, my mother walked very fast, sometimes even trotted ... At the fastest time, it took only eight minutes (about 12 minutes) from the subway station to the door ... Now it may sound a bit exaggerated, but at those moments, my mother was really anxious, thinking that Tao Tao would wait for me at home for one day, even if I came home a minute early. ....
I miss my mother too ... Every day when my mother comes in, Tao Tao will quickly light up her eyes and anxiously watch her want her to hug; In the few minutes when mom turned to the bathroom to wash her hands and remove makeup, the baby even cried with anxiety. Several times, she had to be held by her grandmother or father and watched her not cry at the bathroom door. When my mother finished reading Tao Tao, wow! The whole sky is bright! Tao Tao will happily hug her mother, gnome male-"silly, who also can't hug.
You know, Tao Tao, that's what touched your mother the most. Your attachment to mom has always been safe and healthy! Mom said in the book that babies have three types of attachment to caregivers: anxiety, avoidance and safety.
Anxious babies will be very alert when their mothers leave. Once their mothers leave, they will be very anxious and even cry. When the mother comes back, the anxious baby will deliberately ignore her mother for a short time because of anger, but at the same time she is eager for her comfort. When her mother said she was leaving, he would cry loudly to get her attention. This kind of baby will need the mother to pay more patience and energy to appease the baby and gradually establish a sense of security for him.
Whether the mother is present or not, the avoidant baby has little influence on the baby. He won't resist when mom leaves, and the baby won't care too much when mom comes back. This kind of baby seems to be very worry-free. In fact, it is the baby who closes the door of communication with his mother and suppresses his inner emotional desire. This is actually a manifestation of insecurity. In the long run, it will affect the baby's handling of intimate relationships and emotions when he grows up, which is not a particularly good phenomenon.
The third is security attachment. When the mother leaves, the baby will be unhappy and show reluctance and depression, but after the mother leaves, he can be quickly calmed down by other caregivers and can live and play emotionally. When his mother comes back, he will be very happy. He can express his attachment to his mother with positive emotions and take the initiative to seek comfort. Such a baby always believes that his parents love him deeply, his psychological state is more stable and confident, and his ability to adapt to society and deal with interpersonal relationships will be better when he grows up.
Our Zhang Taotao is the best safety accessory. . . This also makes my mother a little proud. Your performance is also an affirmation of my mother! Right?
It is precisely because of Tao Tao's safe attachment to his mother that during this month, Tao Tao and his mother had a super wonderful cooperation: sometimes Tao Tao wanted to sleep, or fell down and was unhappy. At this time, others (father or grandmother or others) hugged Tao Tao, and Tao Tao began to cry, even crying and crying, and others' appeasement was invalid; At this moment, as soon as my mother took it, Tao Tao immediately demonstrated an idiom on the spot-"Stop abruptly"! As long as my mother brings Tao Tao to me, I will lean on my mother and stop crying! In a few seconds, a big smile will bloom in situ!
Haha, just five months later, the baby began to distinguish between mother and others; At this time, mom's position in your heart is unique, and no one can replace it! Ha ha laugh
The third key word in May is: Want to eat! During this month, I gradually showed the characteristics of eating food ... When adults eat, Tao Tao will watch intently, and his mouth will follow, which makes him very greedy ... Several times, mom held you to drink water or eat snacks, and you even reached out and held her hand, and sent the cup or food in her hand to her mouth, demonstrating what it means: the baby wants to eat, too! Greed!
Hahaha ... after repeating this several times, we will start to add complementary food to you! The first bite of high-speed rail rice noodles, my mother didn't eat anything, and I ate pottery with relish ... this is also a milestone. My pottery began to taste other things besides milk and began to get closer to my parents!
Tao Tao has learned to sit alone for more than five months, and he can sit alone for half a day and play by himself at six months ~ ~
After sitting up, probably because of the different horizons, I play a lot more things and interact with my parents much more fun ... This month, Zhang Taotao will start to sit on his father's or grandfather's neck and be amused. He will sit on his father's stomach and face his father ... And he can sit on his own fitness rack and take his toys with him ... It seems that the world around him has opened up a lot! The baby is so happy every day!
What's more interesting at this time is that Tao Tao also began to usher in the leap period of his brain, and began to have some hazy self-awareness, and clearly wanted or didn't want it ... The most interesting thing was that one afternoon: you suddenly fell in love with a small bell at home, and you couldn't let it go or relax while sleeping. No matter who tries to take it away from you, you will cry with anger! So, in those days, no matter where you go and what you do, you must have that little bell in your hand ... This directly led your parents to take you out shopping, and you still clung to the little bell ... Then you kept walking around the mall with it, probably because you saw something new and caught your attention, and the little bell didn't know where it fell ... Mom had to buy you an almost identical little bell as a backup.
This month, your complementary food has also begun to be added in an all-round way ... pure rice flour, pumpkin puree, vegetable puree ... you can eat whatever you want, and you love everything very much ... babies your age have such a small problem: they don't like rice flour. You don't like to eat mashed vegetables, you can only vomit if you don't chew, but you adapt well and eat far ahead ... which makes your mother very proud and your baby very worry-free. ....
At this time, you also showed the same characteristics as your father and your great-grandmother: you love fruit very much! Whether it's bananas, oranges, cherries or other fruits, I feel anxious when I see my parents eating them ... Even once my mother cut a lemon and put it on your mouth, you all took a sip, and your whole face was wrinkled for a long time, even wanting to taste a second bite, which shows that you really love fruit!
I will be half a year old before I know it! Write here today; After half a year, my mother will come another day, and I will continue to remember.
——20 19.06.30