A little boy was moving a stone in the yard, and his father encouraged him:
"Son, as long as you go all out, you must move!"
But the stone was too heavy, and the child failed.
However, my father said he didn't try his best.
The little boy was puzzled. His father smiled and said:
"You didn't ask me for help because I was beside you."
Indeed, we are very much like this little boy in life. In order to achieve a goal, we keep working hard until we are exhausted and can't get the desired result.
Then we either feel unlucky or angry and unhappy, in fact, we are caught in a strange circle.
Whenever we say this, we expect others' understanding to be psychologically comforted. It's not your own fault that you tried your best but didn't succeed. The reason why you failed is that God doesn't care. As a result, the immediate difficulties have really become obstacles that they can never cross.
But calm down and think about it. Have we really tried our best?
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We are always used to making excuses for ourselves.
I wanted to sign up for an exam the other day.
I double-checked the information needed for registration and did all the papers related to this exam that I could find.
When I signed up with confidence, I was told that I was unsuccessful.
The reason is that one of the materials I prepared is wrong. It's not that the content is wrong, but that there are two titles when downloading the data, and mine is wrong.
There were still 10 minutes before the registration ended.
I asked the staff to let me sign up first. After all, the information was correct, so I changed the title, but people still refused me with righteous words.
I have a face of depression, feeling unlucky, and I thought:
"Used to be the title. Why did it change this time?
Why is the staff so unreasonable this time? Unfortunately.
If I knew, I would sign up first and then do the test paper. What bad luck "
But uncle security suddenly woke me up:
"Why did you come so late? Did you come after work? "
Yes, I have thought a lot about other people's problems, but I have never thought about myself.
Although I seem to have made enough preparations, I actually made two fatal mistakes:
First, it's so natural.
It's natural to replace it with previous experience, but I ignored it. I'm not sure what I think is right. I have to analyze the specific things.
The second is too confident.
I thought I was well prepared, so I arrived 10 minutes before the registration deadline, leaving me no time for trial and error.
To put it bluntly, I'm not quite ready yet. Although I seem to be ready for everything, I haven't considered it comprehensively enough. To some extent, I haven't been fully prepared.
When things happen, we seldom reflect on our own problems.
I believe that many people, like me at that time, are used to finding reasons. Once something goes wrong, the first reaction is that it has nothing to do with me.
But the reality is that it is never the external environment that affects you, only your indulgence.
If you are used to giving yourself different excuses, you will form a qualitative thinking over time: once you give yourself a wrong excuse, you will soon give yourself another 100 excuse. Endless, success naturally slips away.
A truly mature person will never make excuses for his setbacks. They will look at the immediate problems rationally and make every effort to change the situation and make full preparations. Then, the so-called luck is just a natural thing after being fully prepared.
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We are afraid of the inequality between giving and receiving.
I have seen such a question on the Internet:
"What's stopping you from becoming what you want to be?"
At this moment, you must be like me. I guess everyone will answer, time, money, work, health, debt, laziness, no support and so on.
But the results were unexpected, and the answers with the most answers had nothing to do with these.
The answer is fear.
Fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear that our present life will be changed, fear that we can't do it, fear that others don't understand, and fear that the result is not ideal. ...
In short, we refused a good start because of fear.
People often say that everything is ready except the east wind.
Opportunity is like the wind. For those who can make use of it, it is the driving force for progress. On the contrary, it is just an ordinary wind, which disappears after blowing.
There is a poem from Gu Cheng that says:
"You say that you don't like planting flowers because you are afraid to see them fall one by one. So, in order to avoid the end of everything, you refused the beginning of everything. "
But dear, there is no limit to life itself.
If you want to get a chance in life, you must sow, and it is best to sow more, because you never know which seed will take root and sprout with luck, and all attempts before germination are just your necessary preparations.
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You have to work hard in silence and surprise everyone.
In real life, there are actually many people who are prepared, but there are too few successful people.
Because they are always eager for success, they want to say it after reading two pages of books; After running, I want to lose 5 pounds; Even after watching several episodes of TV series, I want to check the ending of the story online. ......
But many times, it's really not because you are unlucky, but because you are not ready at all.
Preparation doesn't happen overnight.
Like a lotus pond. On the first day, few lotus flowers were in bloom. On the second day, the number of lotus flowers was twice that of the first day. On the 30th day, the whole pond will be full of lotus flowers. Guess when the lotus in the pond will bloom at half past one?
Day 15?
No, it's the 29th day.
This is the famous lotus law, also known as the 30-day law.
Many people's lives are like lotus flowers in a pond. At first, they bloomed desperately.
But gradually, you start to feel bored, even bored. You may have given up on the 9th day, the 9th day19th day, or even the 29th day.
At this time, it is often only one step away from success.
In fact, in the final analysis, it is not luck and cleverness, but perseverance.
The so-called opportunities all appear in the later stage of the operation. If you don't have the input and patience day after day in the early stage, these opportunities and beauty are beyond your reach.
There is a line in the movie "Braving the Guandong":
"Never say that you have done your best. Losers always complain that they have done their best. Only the winner can win the heart of the school flower! "
If you still have the strength to say "I have tried my best", it means that you have not tried your best at all. People's potential is forced out. When you feel that you have reached the limit, what you need is to push yourself again.
What is luck? Luck is a node from quantitative change to qualitative change. The road to success is doomed to be lonely. You should stick to it silently and then give everyone a surprise!