Many people will wonder why 40 years old is a dividing line. Because there is still youth, people still have the opportunity to choose; But once youth is gone, people will lose many opportunities.
Our time is limited. Doing infinite things in a limited time will yield a lot; But at a certain age, I still don't believe what has happened and believe that people's minds are not mature yet.
Before the age of forty, we were still in the period of youth and vitality, and we were able to travel all over the country, taking risks for life and fighting for life.
But after forty? We will go to the most troublesome period in our lives. At this stage, we have a family, a wife and children, and the reality of life we have to face.
In this way, only by letting nature take its course and doing nothing can people cope with everything in life.
Why do you say that? Because many times, no matter what we get after our efforts, we deserve it, just let it be; But if you can't get it, you can't get it for a lifetime, so let it be.
Therefore, the changes around the age of 40 show that it is invincible for men to propose marriage. More often, we must understand that life and death are life, and wealth is in the sky.
When I was young, most people had the idea that "my life depends on myself." These words tell the mind of a young man and the lofty ideal he pursues.
But life is realistic, which will make people understand that "manpower" can only occupy "70%" of your life, and it can't decide where you can go for the rest of your life. All this must follow the trajectory of fate.
Many people think that if I don't believe in fate, can't I change everything in my life?
In fact, Su Shi once said: "The world of ephemera is a drop in the ocean." The world is too big and we are too small. If we always deliberately change the external environment, I believe it can only be wishful thinking.
For the big environment, it is difficult for us personally to change. Just like you want to be a multi-millionaire, can you work hard all your life to achieve it? Honestly, I can't. It all depends on your chance.
Most people may not be convinced. Why is he human and I am human? He can get it and I can't. It can be said that everyone's fate trajectory is different, and what you think is just what you think.
People, why do you believe in "fate"? There is no reason, just to ease your mind, and don't be taken to extremes by too many trivial things and troubles.
Many times, you are constantly blindly being a person and blindly changing, just competing with the outside world and yourself. All this, in the final analysis, is to hurt yourself.
In 2020, we all know that no one knows who will come first tomorrow or by accident.
In fact, none of us know what will happen tomorrow or what will happen in the future. We can only take one step at a time, and then move towards the right life and our future.
There was once a friend who was seriously ill at the age of 30. At that time, everyone thought that he would not survive that winter. Even doctors prepare their families psychologically.
But after that winter, his condition improved. The doctor was also surprised. He said that there are really few people who can survive in this situation. But he's alive.
Many years later, this friend told us in the circle: "That year, I really thought I couldn't live. I can still live to this day. Anyway, let's not expect too much. It is my wish to live well. "
His words, though common and simple in wishes and ideas, expressed his hope to live according to his own destiny, which he had earned.
Who knows what will happen next? Nobody knows. But what we can know is that no matter what happens, what we get, and what we lose, these are inevitable experiences.
We need to work hard to earn money for three meals. But if you want to get rid of this situation and make a lot of money, you need your own opportunities. But opportunity, it does not come at will, but to obey your destiny and come to your side on time.
Therefore, don't always complain, don't always want too much, but know how to cherish the present and take the road of destiny. This is the great wisdom of people.
No matter what we will usher in in the future, it is unpredictable. Don't worry too much and don't be too nervous.
No matter what we meet now, don't be complicated. Just walk quietly. I believe good luck lies ahead.
No matter what we have experienced in the past, since it is doomed and has passed, just accept it frankly and don't care too much.
In this way, in fact, we can understand that people live all their lives, and they are in a hurry for decades. If they always persist in changing the so-called reality and grieve for the past that is difficult to go back, then it will only be themselves who suffer.
I like a sentence very much, that is "live in the present". What is "the present"? Not only refers to the present, but also refers to people's normal mind. That's it, why bother about trivial things?
To be a man, you should learn to "flow" and just keep flowing. No wonder Laozi called it "the king of a hundred valleys", because it didn't fight, but just flowed down the original trajectory and finally flowed to the great rivers and seas.
Therefore, after the age of 40, whether we are in trouble and want to change the situation around us in a hurry, we should still say that it is good to do the current thing calmly and don't need to worry too much. Because letting nature take its course is the best state of people.
Believing in fate does not mean being negative, but an "acceptance" of imperfect wisdom.
Text/There are deer in Shushan