Happy marriages are enviable, but unhappy marriages have their own misfortunes. Whenever they feel helpless due to poor family conditions, people can’t help but utter a famous poem, that is, "Poor and lowly" Husband and wife are sad for everything." The statement says that no matter how deep the relationship between husband and wife is, even if they were childhood sweethearts, once the family is in a tight situation and they worry about food, rice, oil and salt all day long, conflicts will arise, which will lead to various problems.
It doesn’t sound wrong. The literal meaning seems to be understood in this way. Over time, it has become a well-known saying. Where did the phrase "Poor and lowly couples suffer all the trouble" first come from? What does it mean? In fact, there is another sentence above it. After reading the above sentence, we will find a problem. It turns out that most people have misunderstood the meaning of "poor couples suffer all things".
The famous poet Yuan Zhen of the Tang Dynasty was a sentimental literati. He wrote many poems related to love, such as the well-known "Once upon a time, it was difficult to make water, except for Wushan, it was not clouds", which was written by the great talent Yuan Zhen . Yuan Zhen's mourning poems are also very famous. The three works "Revelation of Sorrow" can be regarded as classics among ancient mourning poems, and were highly sought after and imitated by ancient literati.
What we are talking about today, "Poor and lowly couples are sad for everything" is a famous line in "Removal of Sorrows" (Part 2). There are only eight sentences in the whole poem. It is easy to see from the content that Yuan Zhen wrote this poem in memory of his deceased wife. He recalled every moment he spent with his wife in the past. The scene of his wife mending clothes for him is vivid in his mind. In the blink of an eye, Yuan Zhen wrote this poem. There is a gap between yin and yang, and Yuan Zhen's love for his wife is revealed between the lines.
Ancient poems basically have a distinctive feature. The last two sentences are usually the meaning that the poet most wants to express, which plays the finishing touch. The last two sentences of "Removal of Sorrow" (Part 2) are "Sincerity". I know that everyone has this hatred, and the poor and humble couples are sad for everything.” "This hatred" refers to the separation between life and death. Throughout the world, no matter whether it is the dignitaries or the common people, they cannot escape life and death. After all, birth, old age, illness and death are natural laws.
Although they understand this truth, people are not willing to face death, which means a complete separation from their loved ones, so Yuan Zhen uses the word "hate" to express his feelings. Combined with the meaning of "I sincerely know that everyone has this hatred", and then look at "Poor and lowly couples are sad for everything", you will understand that Yuan Zhen is telling the world that it is also the death of his wife. For a couple who has suffered for many years, it is even more disturbing. I feel sad and painful, because this kind of relationship between husband and wife in times of adversity is the most rare.