Lenin's father used to be a teacher, and later worked as a national education inspector in Simbilsk. He is determined, kind-hearted and strict with himself and others.
Lenin's mother is an orphan. She finished primary and secondary school courses by herself, learned German, French and English, taught herself Russian literature and western literature, and also learned piano and music. She is versatile, cheerful and kind, with a strong personality and great perseverance. She understands children, loves them deeply, and is good at making their childhood a happy childhood, but she doesn't spoil them. She is the children's dear mother and close friend.
Lenin's parents trained six children into talents with lofty ideals and all-round development of morality, intelligence, physique and beauty, and all of them grew into outstanding revolutionaries. How valuable this is and how worthy of our study! How do they educate their children from an early age? Harmonious development-all-round development?
It is an important principle that Lenin's parents follow in their family education practice to let every child develop harmoniously in moral education, intellectual education, physical education and aesthetic education.
They are very concerned about their children's intellectual development and have been teaching them to read since they were five years old. As soon as every child learns Russian (speaking, reading and writing), his mother immediately teaches them to learn foreign languages; Children between the ages of three and ten are the easiest to remember words and learn to speak. At this age, they can learn to speak a foreign language in half a year at most.
They tried to get children into the habit of reading at an early age. Dad provides children with books suitable for reading at different ages and subscribes to various children's publications. There are many books in their library, and the children also borrow all kinds of books from the city library. Books are the most important means for them to promote children's intellectual development. They enrich the children's minds with all kinds of new knowledge.
They always pay great attention to stimulating children's interest in learning. Because interest is a very important condition for children to study hard. For a young child, when teaching him to learn a foreign language, his mother always plays while learning and combines learning with playing. I also play crossword puzzles with my children in my spare time to answer questions, enhance my interest in learning and promote my brain skills. Father also attaches great importance to cultivating children's sense of responsibility for learning and the spirit of hard work. When he found that his second son had learned all his lessons too easily, he was very worried that it would hinder his hard-working character and due sense of learning responsibility. So I took him to attend the graduation ceremony of a primary school, and awarded a certificate to a student with excellent academic performance, so that he could have a look at the solemn scene of the graduation ceremony and learn the spirit of diligent and tenacious study of this student under the harsh living and learning conditions.
They also attach great importance to giving children a good learning environment. Mother arranged a desk for Lenin's study when he was a child, and later gave him a bookcase. Every child has his own learning world. Very neat, all books, stationery and exercise books are in order. This is also an important factor in studying well. If you have been looking for misplaced textbooks, notebooks, pens, rulers, etc. It is easy for children to feel irritable and hinder learning.
Lenin's parents loved each other and the family atmosphere was harmonious and happy. They love and respect their children. Children also love and respect their parents. Having such an excellent learning environment is very beneficial to children's learning.
Children's habit of loving labor is formed under the education and influence of their parents. Since childhood, my mother has played with toys and games, and let the children pack their own toys and picture books, and of course let the children dress and eat by themselves. When I was older, I helped with housework and took care of my little brother and sister.
Mothers also teach their children labor skills, teach them to use needlework and simply sew their own clothes. When they are a little older, their daughters teach them knitting, embroidery and sewing. Marina recalled sitting next to her mother when she was a child, holding a handkerchief with a border in her hand. She thinks this job is boring and wants to play in the yard. While working, my mother persuaded her to stay with gentle words, telling stories to add interest to the work, so Marykey successfully completed it.
Father himself can use wood tools and rotary tools well. He teaches children to learn manual labor, and boys teach them to use planers, saws, chisels and other tools when they grow up. Boys saw out picture frames and bread plates with small saws, and made toys out of cardboard shells, wood, tin and metal foil. Almost all toys (with few exceptions) are made by children themselves. Success makes children feel happy and love their work more.
Every year, mothers and children use cardboard and colored paper as decorations for pine trees in the New Year. In the process of making colorful decorations, everyone needs to help each other, and Qi Xin can work together to finish it well. There is also a labor competition to see who is more skilled, creative and refined. There are many ways of collective labor, such as helping adults clean the house, cleaning the yard, tidying up the orchard and so on. It is more interesting to clean up the orchard, where children observe the growth process of plants and the living habits of insects. All kinds of green fruit trees and colorful flowers make children relaxed and happy. All the children took part in the work of watering trees and flowers, drawing water from wells with wooden barrels and sending it to designated places with watering pots. Fast and good, no one complains and no one wants to fall behind.
A versatile mother taught her children to sing, enjoy music and learn piano from an early age. They can sing a lot of songs, like to sing at home at night, and organize duets and trio when they go on an outing to the shore of the forest on holidays. Girls have studied the piano and often accompany them when singing.
Parents also encourage their children to learn painting. Alexander and Ollie are most interested and draw best.
The whole family often travels to the Volga River and the forest together, watching white ice floes, golden and brown sunrises and sunsets. Both parents hope that their children can accept the beautiful feelings in nature like them.
They also attach great importance to sports.
Children learn to swim at an early age. Every child will swim across a small river when he is seven or eight years old. When you cross the river for the first time, you are always accompanied by adults. In the future, children should gradually learn to lean back motionless on the water; Jump into the water with your head down; Dive into the water and touch a mass of algae; Cross the river with socks or shoes in one hand, don't get wet; Swim to the small estuary (almost one kilometer) with all one effort. Therefore, every summer, children go swimming in the river before going to bed at night.
In winter, every afternoon, the children go skating together, put their little sister Marykey on the round-backed chair and push her on the skating rink. They also poured water on the slope of their yard to build an artificial iceberg, and then fell in a homemade sleigh. Often everyone falls into the snowdrift together, so the yard is full of happy laughter and shouts.
In spring, children put up all kinds of kites and put them in the sky. We also play baseball, billiards and various games together. Mom and dad also go fishing and boating with the children to cultivate various sports hobbies. Perhaps sound nerves and healthy bodies are the reasons why children grow up with endless optimism, amazing work endurance and the ability to withstand the twists and turns of life in the revolutionary struggle. Consciously abide by discipline?
Children are children after all. Lively and naughty Lenin, Olea and Dmitry often have to do all kinds of worrying things. For example, I climbed onto the table and knocked over the vase, and trampled the newspaper on the ground with my feet ... Once, Lenin ran into the street alone and sat in the middle of the road, and a Ma Chong came over and was almost knocked down. Other children sometimes fight like cocks, or boys bully girls more than once, and sometimes they tease each other and hinder each other's study.
How can parents cultivate their children's discipline and strict demands on themselves without damaging their self-esteem and developing their independence and initiative?
Lenin's parents never physically punished their children, but they also used some kind of punishment. For example, if a child is too naughty and does something that is not allowed, take him to his father's study and let him sit in a big leather armchair (the children call this chair a black chair) and think about his behavior. Sometimes children who make mistakes will be admonished. This kind of exhortation is not only a severe punishment, but also an education to awaken conscience. However, punishment only plays a secondary role. The most commonly used method for children is induction. Mothers often take naughty children to restaurants, sit down and play piano, sing or play games with them, and then talk about why they can't be so naughty.
The main way to cultivate children to consciously abide by discipline is to put forward strict, consistent and persistent requirements. No matter what bad things children do, parents never yell, accuse or even abuse them loudly; No matter how angry their children's willfulness makes them feel, they are always good at restraining themselves, finding reasonable ways to convince their children and sticking to their demands without compromise.
Careful arrangement of family life is helpful to discipline education. In addition to going to school, children should clearly and accurately stipulate the time of getting up, eating, sleeping, doing homework, playing and working at home, and form the habit of observing the work and rest system from an early age, which gradually becomes a natural code of conduct year after year.
There are also "quiet moments" at home. During this time, everyone works or reads at the same time, so do parents and children. Whoever wants to break this moment is absolutely not allowed. Every night, Dmitry recalls his childhood scenes: the atmosphere of work is everywhere. My father is working in the study, my two brothers are reading in the attic, my mother is sitting at the big table in the dining room doing needlework, my two sisters are sitting next to my mother doing their homework, and my sister and I are sitting quietly playing something. It is forbidden to make noise or interfere with the work of adults. The rules are very strict.
This "quiet moment" makes children form the habit of consciously observing discipline, respecting other family members and self-discipline.
The family also laid down three unchanging rules. Rule 1: Anything you shouldn't do, you can't do it and you can't give in. Article 2: Children should understand why some things can't be done. Article 3: Adults and children should abide by the prescribed system.
But children have a lot of freedom. Sometimes children play at home with eagles to catch chickens, hide and seek, and cats to catch mice, making stools crash, shouting and laughing, and the whole room is very noisy. If no one at home is working, studying and resting at this time, no one will stop it. Because it is good for children's physical and mental development, it is also a kind of entertainment and pastime. Not only what is forbidden, but also what is allowed, which is meaningful for observing discipline.
Lofty ideal
When the children are older and their ability to accept and understand is improved, parents will pay attention to cultivating their lofty ideals. Cultivating an ideal person is their firm goal for children's education. They often educate their children with the lofty ideals and life examples of Russian progressive social activists, educate their children with the revolutionary spirit aiming at public interests, and tell vivid stories instead of boring sermons.
Together with the children, they read the literary works of progressive writers such as Chernyshevski and recited the poems of party member hanged by the czar in December. Children like these revolutionary works very much, and many of them can be recited.
They also regard patriotic heroes, great scientists and great writers as role models for their children to learn. And subscribe to the satirical publication "Spark" to attack the rich, white, cruel and stupid, so that children can understand that they should not only praise all the beautiful things of the motherland, but also expose and criticize all the ugliness that actually exists, and make themselves soldiers fighting for the happiness of the people.
They encourage children to take part in social activities. Because it is not enough to learn from books, but also to learn from practice. However, at that time, participating in social activities was considered as rebellion and opposition to the tsar. But it is precisely because of this that they strongly support children's participation, which also enables these six women to participate in the secret understanding and understanding of their children when they are young?
To love children, we must understand them and gain insight into their inner world and personality characteristics. Only by knowing children can we understand them and educate them better. This is what Lenin's parents deeply realized in the practice of educating their children.
They know that things often happen between children. Children always have their own way of life. As parents, they don't interfere in anything. They are more concerned about how children's behaviors in life show their good and bad qualities, interests, ambitions, talents and personalities. That's all that matters. Similarly, for parents, the most important thing is not that children are disobedient, mischievous or disruptive in some things, but whether they are unsympathetic or impatient, willful or naughty, unreasonable or a kind of willpower. Parents should first try to find out the nature and motivation of these behaviors.
Generally speaking, when the whole family eats together, children always tell their own stories. This is the best time to get to know children. When a child has deviant behavior, if he has the courage, he will naturally say it. If he doesn't say anything, it shows that he lacks courage. If the child forgets his deviant behavior, it shows the seriousness of this behavior. Lenin once broke a ruler that someone had just given to his sister. He told his sister about it at once and showed how he broke the ruler on his knee. My sister was very angry, but my mother reminded her to see the most essential things. This is the end of the matter. The second thing was to break a long-necked glass bottle in my aunt's house, which my mother had guessed was broken by Lenin, who was eight years old. What made her sad was that her son refused to admit it. Menstruation asked, "Who broke the glass bottle?" All the children shouted in unison, "Not me!" Lenin also shouted "Not me." So things are complicated, either admit to breaking the glass bottle or admit to lying. The easiest way is to expose lies and punish them. But mother wouldn't do that. In her opinion, what matters is whether her son realizes his fault and is ashamed of his dishonesty. She hopes to help her son cultivate his conscience. The mother waited patiently, quietly observing her son's every move. With her mother's insight, she realized that her son was being condemned by her conscience. Finally, one day before going to bed, she walked up to her son and caressed him. His son burst into tears: "I lied to my aunt that I didn't break the glass bottle, I did!" " At this time, the mother smiled, and she was very happy that the honest factor won the spiritual struggle that happened to her son. It seems that he has courage and conscience.
Parents, as educators, are powerful because they can understand and understand their children and perceive the smallest changes in their hearts. Lenin gave one of his trousers to the poorest student in the class. The mother didn't blame him for losing his trousers, but saw her son's kindness and compassion. Lenin often gave his mother breakfast wrapped in a backpack to hungry boarders. Instead of blaming her son, her mother praised him. She is glad to see that her son is not an egoist. Parents' praise and support can promote the further development of these excellent qualities.
Lenin's parents observed that children have different personalities and personalities, which requires different attitudes towards each child, so that each child has its own characteristics and develops naturally. All the good qualities shown in children will be supported and carried forward, and only the bad qualities will be restricted. And children's self-esteem and personality will always be cherished and protected. Respecting children is an extremely important principle for parents to educate their children.
If knowing and understanding children is an important condition for educating children well, what is the secret of Lenin's parents' success in educating children? Looking at the above, it can be said that parents are deeply in love with the upbringing of each child and have a high sense of responsibility; Parents' completely consistent correct educational views and methods; Parents' lofty moral example and a happy, harmonious, sincere and friendly family environment are the main secrets of success.