The world is so strange, there is always harmony between mother and son, and there is always constant war between husband and wife. Husband has some private money, and husband and wife may quarrel; The length of the husband is slightly different, and the wife's mouth must always "like"; Husband's income is small, and his position at home is definitely "superior"; If the husband "plays tricks" and loses money, he will go home to find "advice" all night ... In short, the war between husband and wife continues, and a good-tempered couple may even go their separate ways and conduct a "resource reorganization". On the contrary, the harmony between mother and child is even incredible. You see, the son is a thief, and the neighbors complain constantly. The mother stood up and scolded her son, saying that he had been wronged. My son idles around all day and doesn't help when the broom falls down. He is still a good son in his mother's heart. My son almost needs money to buy a house, and my mother can't wait to sell herself and give the money to her son. If a son quarrels with his wife, the mother will certainly protect his son ... As men and women in the same family, why can't husband and wife live in harmony like mother and son?
Different responsibilities or different feelings? Is it more distressing that the son is the meat that fell from his mother? Because mother and son are lifelong, they can't change the "conjoined"? And couples are mahjong on the table, and their hands can become "partners"? If husband and wife can treat each other like mother and son, father and daughter, what will their feelings be like? Husband and wife are birds of a feather, so they should help each other when disasters come. Tangshan earthquake, husband and wife ran out hand in hand. When they heard the child crying, the mother wanted to run back to save the child. The husband had his wife pushed to the ground. He ran to the child himself and the building collapsed. The wife was rescued and the husband left. His wife Yuan Ni has been widowed since then, guarding her husband who no longer exists. How many couples were moved to tears by her words! "Which man can love me with his life." This sentence tells the true meaning of harmonious coexistence between husband and wife. Imagine that if a child is in distress, it must be that parents can love their children with their lives. If husband and wife can treat each other like this, will there be war?
Husband and wife should cherish each other like mother and son. There are billions of people in China and billions of people in the world. Being a couple is not easy. What kind of fate does it take to get "sleeping in bed"? Why don't we cherish this rare fate? Why do we just trample on husband and wife? Listen to that quarrel, how heartless! "If you leave, you will leave. When you leave, you are afraid that you can't find anything better than you! " Being a husband and wife is not about buying clothes. You can't just change them! How much mother and son love each other! The son is small, and the mother is afraid of falling with him; Holding it on your back, afraid of "slipping"; My son went to school, and my mother was afraid that he was tired, that he was in poor health, and that he was angry and caught a cold at school. How charming is the nagging that annoys my son when I go out in the morning; My son was ill, and my parents carried him to see a doctor in the middle of the night, spoonfuls of medicine and a bowl of soup; I bought apples, milk and braised chicken feet, all of which children love to eat; When my son went out, he was afraid that his son would encounter difficulties with less money and repeatedly asked if the money was enough; My son is very angry and doesn't want to go home. The air outside brought him home and shouted at his mother, who silently endured with tears in her eyes ... the baby that the mother gave her son! Cherish the mother to love her son, endure her son, forget her own suffering and forget her own tiredness. Husband and wife cherish each other, like a mother cherishes her son. What else can they pass? There was an old couple whose husband was censored when he was young. At that time, his wife said, "Don't be afraid, I'll bring you food in prison. If you want a meal, I'll get you a bowl; You pick up the garbage, I'll help you carry your pockets ... "The husband is finally innocent, which is the treasure and trust he won all his life. The treasure between husband and wife should be to ask less and not to compare with others; We should care more about each other's troubles and share each other's happiness. Gentleness is not only a woman's privilege, but also a man's privilege.
In present life, some couples are looking for various reasons to destroy the relationship between husband and wife. Men often don't go home, euphemistically calling it company meetings, business talks and friends gatherings; Yes, I am making money to support my family ... What is more important than husband and wife? Male chauvinism always feels tired. Someone should serve him when he goes home. When the wife is busy at work and goes home to do housework, the man falls down on the bed and watches TV. He doesn't help wash dishes or mop dishes. This is to cherish yourself, not your wife. What about the wife? I always compare myself with other women. People wear gold and silver, massage every day and live in villas, but I am like a rustic country woman. All this is vented on her husband's incompetence. Who can stand this kind of treatment after a hard day at home? Master your own financial power, buy and sell at will, especially playing cards, and it doesn't matter if you lose dozens or hundreds at will, while your husband, a big man, counts a little pocket money over and over again and recovers it over and over again; Don't look at the eyes, look at the expression, don't care about the mood of your husband's coming home, and start nagging and criticizing as soon as he enters the door ... There is no mutual affection and cherish between husband and wife except money, so it's strange not to quarrel or fight.
Husband and wife should be like mother and son, with less blame, more introspection and more mutual tolerance. The relationship between mother and child is wonderful and strange. Sons often make mistakes and even commit crimes, but there has never been a mother who wants to drive her son out of the house. In that film and television, it is often the father-son relationship that is cut off, not the mother-son relationship. The son made a mistake and the mother and son gave him a good beating. My son hid, jumped, cried and made noise, but after crying, he hugged his mother tightly. The son steals, the son fights again and again, and the mother takes money to compensate the doctor. My mother was angry, but she still didn't abandon her son and treated him as a treasure. The son is ugly and stupid, even disabled and mentally retarded, and even paralyzed in bed. My mother still admired him, taught him patiently and took care of him carefully until she closed her eyes. This is the mother's tolerance for her son, and it is precisely because of this tolerance that her son can grow up smoothly. The mother and father were at odds, divorced and settled separately, and the son understood and forgave his parents; Mother's behavior doesn't get points, which causes a lot of "shameful" things around her, but the son is still in charge of his mother. In the face of all kinds of gossip, he is not looking for various reasons to tolerate his mother and understand her from all aspects. "Dogs don't think their families are poor, and sons don't think their mothers are ugly." The son's tolerance for his mother is to hope that her mother can spend her old age safely. This tolerance between mother and son is a model for dealing with the relationship between husband and wife.
"People are not sages, to err is human?" Both husband and wife are ordinary children, which is a common problem and should be tolerated. As long as it is not a flash marriage, in such a long love cycle, the advantages and disadvantages of both sides should be fully revealed. In love, although there are contradictions, beauty is in the eye of the lover. This is the result of tolerance. Why can't you be husband and wife? We should tolerate each other's physical defects. Without a perfect appearance, each of us will get old, each of us will get fat and each of us will get ugly. We should tolerate each other's ability defects. There is no omnipotent person. People's ability and strength are the same, and there is always a difference in size. Some couples are strong, some couples are weak, and some are strong and weak. In China's traditional concept, women's weak ability seems understandable, but men can't, and men are often accused of more, and their family economy is poor, so men can't make money without ability; Children can't find good jobs, men have no skills and no communication skills. It is necessary to tolerate each other's habits and personality shortcomings, such as lazy living habits, bad temper, swearing, nagging, not doing housework, smoking and playing cards ... both sides cannot be perfect, and married couples should tolerate some shortcomings in each other's living habits.
Be tolerant of each other, never try to change each other and make them completely conform to their own wishes. This is impossible, and it is not good except for worsening the relationship between husband and wife. Be tolerant of each other, never compare with others, and never compare your husband or wife with others. If you are tolerant of each other, don't blame each other, let alone curse each other. Be tolerant of each other and never complain to your parents. It is difficult for an honest official to break housework. Know this when you are awake, don't be confused. Be tolerant of each other, and do regular self-reflection. Don't stick to your own shortcomings, and try to change. Both sides should make joint efforts to cultivate a customary environment that families also need. To tolerate each other, we must tolerate her son like a mother. Her son is inferior to others in learning and making money, but what he can do is always someone else's son, and ugliness and stupidity are his own. No matter how beautiful a woman is, it is already someone else's; No matter how capable a man is, he will despise you; Now this man or woman is weak and ugly, but he or she can cherish you. Mutual tolerance means cherishing what belongs to you, and don't ruin yourself because of others' illusory things.
Husband and wife should not hold grudges like mother and son. There are contradictions between mother and son and they hurt each other, but how many pairs of mother and son have become enemies? In that normal family, there are even fewer mothers and children who become enemies. When I was a child, my son was beaten and scolded so much by his mother, and he didn't hold grudges. Or "only fucking good in the world" My son doesn't live up to expectations, often gets into trouble, and even gambles badly. He spent all his family savings, sold his car and auctioned his house. The whole family had a terrible meal. If an outsider did it, what kind of revenge! But her own son did it, and the mother put up with it. She didn't say anything about sending her son to prison or killing him. Seeing that other people's sons are disappointing and unfilial, many people will say, "If my son were like that, I would have strangled him." But when his son really becomes like this, he still loves his son, even if he is humiliated and ugly.
Husband and wife often hold grudges. When they quarreled, the boss's account was turned out. You call me three generations of ancestors and I call you eight generations of ancestors. You point at my nose and I take your eyes; The result can be imagined. Especially hard hands, are really enemies. Look at that man, his face and neck are covered with finger marks. If he had a knife in his hand, the fingerprints wouldn't exist. It's really "the most poisonous woman's heart", even his hands are so poisonous. This is a person who only deals with himself. Look at a woman, her hair is falling out, her face is blue and her leg is hurt. It's really "no poison, no husband" Is this for his wife? Few people can be so cruel to outsiders. I really don't understand these terrible scenes of husband and wife fighting. What makes "Couple Hundred Days" a lie? But many happy families are not like this. One side is angry, the other side hides. When the limelight is over, the past is not mentioned. No matter how happy a family is, there will be contradictions and quarrels. The key is that both husband and wife regard each other as their other hand, which is indispensable; Looking at your teeth and lips, there are some bumps, but you can't hold grudges, let alone get rid of each other. They really treat couples like mothers and children, "breaking bones and dredging collaterals." It is the other party who is injured, and it is oneself who is injured. Husband and wife, don't hold grudges, don't force it. If so, you will be happier and happier!
It is precisely because of the special feelings between mother and son that many children gradually mature and grow up in the cultivation of their mothers. A considerable number of mothers are restraining their bad habits and changing their bad habits for the growth of their children. The training between husband and wife is mutual. If we have the habit of introspection, turn accusations into bedside communication, and give enough time to correct mistakes through tolerance, husband and wife will live in harmony like mother and son.