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After having a child, I realized that there really is such a creature in the world: one second I was laughing happily, and the next second I suddenly collapsed and cried, and the speed of changing my face was amazing; For some inexplicable reasons, such as mom suddenly wearing a hat, dad changed his hairstyle and cried.
It is one of children's basic skills to express their thoughts and demands with "emotional out of control" behavior.
The emotional characteristics of children aged 3-6 are: impulsiveness, inability to hide their emotions, more use of body language, and easy to be infected by the surrounding environment and people. Show that you will cry, break things, cry with other children and so on.
In the face of children at this stage, we are more and more anxious: in the long run, will children's physical health and character formation be affected? Will my social skills be affected when I grow up?
The answer is "it will have a certain impact".
But we must not overreact. First of all, emotions can be contagious, and children are "susceptible people", so our anxiety and tension will naturally be transmitted to children; Secondly, the ability of emotional management will naturally grow with age, which requires a growing process. In this process, the role of our parents should be
Receiver: feel from the child's point of view and truly accept the child's emotions, whether good or bad. Let him feel our understanding, be willing to communicate with us and accept our guidance.
Guidance: Guide children to express their feelings, know their emotions and face them correctly, instead of suppressing or rejecting them.
Accompany: find a suitable way to vent your emotions with your child. When the child's emotions calm down, try to solve "this matter" (first adjust "emotions" and then solve "things").
Emotion is a very abstract term for young children. We should let them know about emotions before doing the big topic of "emotional management". Recently, I read a good book about emotional cognition with my baby and shared it with you ~
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Spanish Anna Janus was translated by Kitty and Wang Jingwen.
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Opening the first page of the book, a strange little monster "jumped out": the whole body was wrapped in lines of various colors, which was terrible and chaotic. Its expression seems to say: I know I am strange, but I don't know what to do.
Then a little girl appeared (this role can be regarded as parents, friends or even children) and pointed out the problem of the little monster. She said, look at you, little monster! You are a mess now. You've confused all your emotions. Just like all the colors on your body.
Then, under the guidance of the little girl, they understand and sort out their emotions together:
Yellow, blue, green, red and black represent happiness, sadness, calm, anger and fear respectively.
At the same time, describe the feelings of each emotion in vivid language.
This is happiness.
It shines like the sun and twinkles like a star.
When you are happy, you laugh, dance, dance and play. You want to share this feeling with everyone.
This is sadness.
It is gentle and tender, like a foggy rainy day. When you are sad, you may want to cry, or you may want to be alone.
This is anger.
Once it breaks out, it's like lighting a red flame. When you are angry, you want to stamp your feet, growl and scream;
This-no-public-apartment-!
It's peaceful.
It is like a green leaf floating in the air. Your breath becomes slow and deep, which makes you feel quiet.
……
The story ends with an open question, which arouses children's thinking.
But, wait a minute ... there is another emotion. What is this?
The biggest highlight of this book is to concretize emotions, integrate emotional cognition and feelings into the story, and make children more intuitive and interested.
The three-dimensional scene vividly shows the joys and sorrows of the little monster, and has a strong sense of substitution, attracting children to actively imagine and think with the plot.
Poetic words "This is happiness. It shines like the sun and twinkles like a star. When you are happy, you laugh, dance, dance and play. You want to share this feeling with everyone. " While endowing the picture book with literariness, it accurately describes the feelings and actions of the body under every emotion.
Artistic graffiti pictures, line changes and color rendering vividly outline the image of "emotion". Let children experience happiness and sadness ... feel the feelings brought by different emotions, and learn to adjust and manage their emotions in a subtle way.
Pop-up book video of My Emotional Little Monster
PS: There are other versions of this book. Apart from the different layout, the translation is also different. Personally, I prefer the pop-up book version. You can search online yourself. ★~★
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