China has a history of 5, years, and it has also created a long history and profound Chinese culture. Among them, proverbs, as a vein of traditional culture, are the summary of people's own life experiences, some are descriptions of folk life, and some are reflections on life. Because they are easy to understand and catchy, they are widely circulated among the people. Many proverbs still contain profound truths, for example, the older generation of farmers said. Next, let's take a look together. The fate of a woman's rapeseed is literally understood by touching
. This sentence means that the fate of a woman is like rapeseed, whether it is good or bad depends on luck. When growing vegetables in rural areas, we usually just grab a handful of rapeseed and scatter it in the ground. Whether it can grow or not depends on luck. If rapeseed is sown under the soil and the water content is suitable, it will emerge. If it does not survive or grow well for some reason, it is bad luck.
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Compared with the marriage of ancient women, it is indeed the same. In ancient times, it was very common for women to pay attention to "the orders of their parents and the words of the matchmaker". As soon as both parents combined, they found a suitable one and married their daughter without any major problems, but the man's personality and temper were unknown, which was like luck. Bad luck, looking for a bad family, the man idles around all day and doesn't know how to make progress or will beat his wife, which only shows that this woman has a bad life, and she has no ability to control herself. Therefore, "a woman's rapeseed life depends on her touch."
There is also a folk saying that describes the fate of women, that is, "Women are like mud, and they can paste anywhere". Women are like mud, and they can be pasted anywhere
This is because in ancient times, in a society where men are superior to women, women's status was very low, and they had neither the right to choose nor the ability to live independently even after marriage, so they could only rely on their husbands, so it doesn't matter who they marry, as long as they are men who make money. That's why the saying that "women are like mud, and they can paste anywhere" is actually a kind of degradation and discrimination against women's status. It is precisely because of these remarks and the shackles of feudal ethics that women's thoughts are restricted, and over time they are forced to accept such shackles, so that they dare not resist and have always succumbed to this unequal state.
However, in modern times, the situation mentioned in this proverb no longer exists. Men and women are equal, love and marriage are also free, and there are more choices between the two parties. Even on blind date, only when two people get to know each other and feel comfortable will they talk about marriage, so that women will not give up their whole lives in disgrace. Even if the marriage is not good, you have the right to divorce, and you can pursue your own happiness again. Modern women, in particular, can display their value in society and create their own world without relying on men. Therefore, as long as women are independent enough and work hard enough, they can control their own destiny in marriage and later life.
Xiao Bian has a saying: From another perspective, the phrase "a man's life depends on his touch" can also be understood in this way, that is, whether a wife is good or not depends on what kind of husband he marries. If the husband is a good husband and diligent, then the wife will become a virtuous wife. On the contrary, if the husband is not a good husband, he is lazy, does not make progress, and fails to fulfill his responsibilities as a husband. Xiao Bian feels that this understanding is more appropriate. Marriage is a matter for two people. The bad of either party will lead to the change of the other, just like many times husbands always complain that their wives become less considerate and gentle after marriage. In fact, this change of wives is largely inseparable from their husbands.
The husband wants his wife to teach him and his children at home, but when he sees that his wife doesn't wear makeup and doesn't dress up, he begins to hate her, hoping that she will be considerate. But when he comes home from work, he doesn't want to tell his wife anything, let alone listen to his wife's nagging, hoping that his wife will spend more time with himself. However, when his wife is taking care of the children and doing housework, her husband never wants to help ... Over time, even a good wife will become bad. So many times, it is not the wife who has changed, but the husband's attitude towards his wife has changed.
therefore, whether a daughter-in-law is good or not depends on whether her husband is good or not. As a husband treats his wife, so does her family, and as a wife treats her family, so will the family develop. To say that a woman is a rapeseed, then a man is the land where the rapeseed grows. The land is not good enough. How can we blame the rapeseed? Don't you think so?