Miss my son
Who do you think is your closest relative?
In a class the other day, the teacher asked you to list the people closest to you in several concentric circles in turn, except for such a topic. How would you draw? That is, the smallest circle is in the middle, and then it is enlarged to the last circle in turn. The outermost circle may be your parents or mother-in-law.
But who is the nearest? Is it your child? Children will eventually grow up, leave you, set up their own families, and even face the problems you face like you.
At this time, the lights stopped. Watch the sunset slowly. Who are you with? Is your lover.
My mother's family is also home, and my husband's family is also home, but I always feel that my husband's family is far away, is that right? Then build a new road to make the distance between the two houses as small as possible, or make the in-laws closer, because it is also your home, your lover's home and your baby's home. Family relationships cannot be lost, because it is possible to establish new families and face new or old problems. Throw it again? Got it. In a few years, you will become a regular employee, or you will become a mother-in-law or mother-in-law. What would you do? So what do you think?
Miss my son 2
A person wanders in a city that no one knows or knows, and lives in a rental house with less than 10 square meter. Besides reading books and writing articles, I walk alone in the street every day. Just walking, not browsing. Shopping is a leisurely or purposeful walk. I just take a walk. No direction, no purpose. Although it will stop somewhere to have a look, it is also an unconscious behavior. I pretended to be in a hurry.
For this strange city, I didn't put any feelings into it, just regarded myself as a passer-by. I made a casual stop here at a casual moment. Without the tremor in my heart and the action of my soul, I am just doing something meaningless to this city.
Occasionally I can see the unspeakable happiness of a man or woman with a child in her arms. Looking at the babbling children in my arms will remind me of my infinite thoughts and concerns for my wife and children. After the torture of this scene, even a person dare not easily exercise this right to walk! The children in their arms shocked me so much. I am not a sentimental person, but I am the father of a child.
Men don't change after marriage, but after having children. Only after having children can men's sense of responsibility be more fully reflected. But I can't do my duty as a father. How can I not feel guilty?
Since the yearning for my son was evoked by many happy children and their happy parents, I dare not go to crowded places easily. There are so many innocent and happy children in your arms. The feelings in my heart are extremely complicated: on the one hand, it is infinite love. On the one hand, it is extremely painful. In this upcoming Spring Festival season, it is particularly easy to evoke feelings of missing. At this time, I should do my duty as a father and buy a new dress for my son during the Spring Festival to satisfy a child's hope for the New Year, but I can't!
Although the son is less than two years old, he has a different kind of cuteness. On the day I was at home, I sat on my lap every day and told me the version of Tom and Jerry in Henan dialect with unclear children's voice: "Little Jing Dou! Why don't we play? Hehe! " The voice that was so immature that day was like nature. He also sang to the whole family: "Lala Lala, Lala Lala, I am a little expert in selling newspapers." It will also recite: "it is noon when weeding, and sweat drips down the soil." Who knows that the Chinese food on the plate is hard. " . Sometimes I review the English words I learn from VCD every day one by one. When I am alone, I will climb on the coffee table and read carefully: "puppy: dog!" Piggy: Piggy! Fox Fox: Fox! A bear is a bear! " .
It's been a month since I left my son. Did the son learn "Happy New Year to you!" . Can you recite a sentence: "Plum stands in a corner, cold ling opens alone, and I know far away that it is not snow, only a faint fragrance." . Can you already tell the story of "Little Horse Crossing the River"? Did you learn to sing "Xi shua shua" from the flower band on TV? Hi! ".Is it? ...
There are too many "yes" lingering in my chest, and my infinite thoughts are between these endless "yes"!
On the Missing of the Divorced Man's Son (3)
Although marriage is free now, for a family that has already had the next generation, the child will be the most hurt when the relationship between husband and wife is terminated. If this leaves a shadow on the child's mind, it will be quite unfavorable for the child's healthy growth in the future.
1. Some children are very sensitive and think that their parents are noisy and even divorced because they are not sensible and don't like adults. For this kind of child with a particularly delicate mind, parents must communicate with them well, and don't let the child blame himself for the divorce, thus casting a shadow over the child's heart.
2, quarrel, discuss everything after divorce, don't be in front of the child, otherwise it will make the child feel that there is no warmth at home, parents are like strangers or even enemies, and the child's heart will be very hurt.
3. Let children have the right to choose which side to follow, and can't rudely interfere with children's thoughts and decisions. Children who decide not to follow should pay special attention. You must not be angry because your child has no choice, and you have not fulfilled your obligation to raise your child.
4. Tell children that their love for their children has not changed or decreased, regardless of whether mom and dad still live together, but the structure of family members will change, but adults still care and love their children.
Giving children more care is not only material, but also psychological. Some parents like to make up for their children's lack of love with money, toys and snacks. In fact, this will make their children only pay attention to money and material things, while ignoring family ties. Pay more attention to children's study life, especially their thoughts, and don't hurt them too much because of things between adults.
6. If the child does not follow, take more time to visit the child, so that the child can truly feel that he has not lost the love of either party; The one that the child follows can not only prevent the other person from visiting the child, but also encourage the child to take the initiative to move around and narrow the distance with the other person, which is really good for the child.