Lifelong Growth is a very popular book, with nearly 6,543,800 copies sold since 2006. The writer is psychologist Carol Dwek.
After years of research on athletes, entrepreneurs, parents, teachers and gender relations, she found that people have two kinds of mentality: "fixed thinking mode" and "growth thinking mode", which seem insignificant, but their experiences are completely different.
So, what are "fixed thinking mode" and "growth thinking mode"?
To put it simply, people with "fixed thinking mode" think that talent determines everything, and the result is more important than the process, and hard work can't change fate. They don't like to face challenges, but they hate to see others succeed, and of course they can't accept criticism. This is more like an external personality in management.
People with "growth thinking mode" will not rush to think that they are losers when encountering setbacks. They believe that they can overcome difficulties through hard work, so they are not afraid to face challenges. At the same time, in the face of criticism from others, it will not be regarded as an attack, but will think about how to improve and adjust, know how to consult successful people, and enjoy the process more than the result, more like the internal control personality in management.
As for the application part, what attracts me most is chapter five: interpersonal relationship. Although the relationship cannot be quantified, we are all eager to establish a good relationship with others, which also requires skill and constant practice. It's a cliche, but it makes me think twice.
I remember that there are three important things in a relationship: your personality, your partner and the relationship itself, which are mentioned in another choice and this book.
Moreover, people with "growth thinking mode" do not regard each other as perfect idols who can guess their minds. They know that there is no competition in love, and quarreling is normal, but the other party is not your enemy and needs both sides to learn and grow together.
Finally, I would like to add that the author is very objective, mentioning that hard work is only a part of success, and self-growth is more likely to be close to the end without comparing with the winning group in life.
At the same time, everyone has these two kinds of mentality, so don't blame yourself too much. However, if you don't want to fall into the quagmire of old thinking, you must learn to say the right words before you can implement the "growth thinking mode".
Sulinda
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