1. Li Li "draws the trajectory of love with a wheelchair"; Shi Tiesheng "writes a gorgeous chapter of life with iron will"; Zhu Yanfu "interprets extreme life with firm belief"; Sang Lan "faces I don’t cry in life, conquering the world with my charming smile”; Tai Lihua “let us hear the sound of flowers blooming with her pure and beautiful dance”…
2. Get out of the shadow of life and rekindle the hope of life. Founded by a peasant woman Calligraphy and Painting Exhibition Room
Farmer women finally got away from the lingering shadow in their hearts. This winter, they opened the city’s first “Farmer Women’s Calligraphy and Painting Exhibition Room” at home. This not only impressed the surrounding folks, but also attracted calligraphy and painting from both urban and rural areas. Enthusiasts and cultural figures come to visit.
Wang Fen was born in a poor ravine in Xunyang County in 1962. When she grew up, she married to Zhanghaipo Village, Mawang Street Office, Chang'an District. After the marriage, she had a son and a daughter, and lived a comfortable life. But misfortunes came one after another in her middle age. In 2003, her husband died in a car accident. The following year, a fire burned the whole family into an empty shell, and she was admitted to the hospital with severe burns. Wang Fen was completely disappointed. In order to drive away the lingering shadow in her heart, Wang Fen consciously or unconsciously used lipstick and eyebrow pencil to draw on waste paper on the hospital bed. After she was discharged from the hospital and returned home to recuperate, she could not leave the house or take a step outside the door. She picked up a pencil to draw again. As time went by, she actually fell in love with this art, so she changed her pencil to a brush and began to copy and teach herself Chinese painting. Wang Fen later began to practice calligraphy while rapidly improving in painting. Over time, Wang Fen got rid of the shadow that had long shrouded her heart from painting and calligraphy, and rekindled her new pursuit of life.
Kung Fu paid off, and Wang Fen's rapid improvement in calligraphy and painting skills attracted the attention and praise of the surrounding people. When there was a happy event for the host family or a happy event for the west family, they all wanted to ask for her paintings and calligraphy. On the eve of the Spring Festival, her home was even more crowded. The recognition and love of the township party members made Wang Fen more diligent and studious. In the past three years, she worked day and night, forgetting food and sleep to write posts and study hard, writing no less than 3,000 words every day. Mr. Zhang Qi, a member of the Provincial Calligraphers Association, said that the rapid progress of Wang Fen's calligraphy and painting is surprising. The fundamental reason is that he writes carefully and has good understanding. People are delighted to see that the number of award-winning works written by Wang Fen continues to increase. The calligraphy and painting exhibition room of farm women founded by her has become a place where urban and rural calligraphy and painting lovers continue to visit. The calligraphy and painting room has also become a new platform for enriching and activating rural cultural activities.
3. Midfield of an entrepreneur’s life: only when there is a shadow can you see the sunshine
Mr. Hu Xucheng is currently the director of ING Real Estate China and the executive of ING Beijing Investment Co., Ltd. Director, and Chairman of Beijing Pacific City Real Estate Development Co., Ltd. Over the years of his career, Hu Xucheng's role has changed several times: from the department director of a research institution, to the senior manager of a foreign company, to the independent CEO of a company. Every time he changed, he had to give up a relatively stable job. Hu Xucheng said that he likes to explore places he has never been before.
An accidental conversation inspired Hu Xucheng, "When you see your own shadow, look in the opposite direction, and you will find that it is a piece of sunshine shining on you." "Others have I don’t have the resources and abilities, it doesn’t matter, I will imitate in a down-to-earth manner,” Hu Xucheng said, “I learn a little bit at a time, but once I find that I am not good enough, I only need to cut out the mistakes.” "In his view, people don't need to always compare themselves with others and dwell on temporary gains and losses. "That will only tie up one's own hands and feet."
4. The shadow is a paper dragon
The final decision on how it will affect you in life is in your hands.
My grandfather made me a long dragon out of paper. The gap in the belly of the dragon can only accommodate a few locusts. If you put them in, they all died inside, and no one was spared! Grandfather said: "The locusts are too impatient. Apart from struggling, they never thought of biting the dragon with their mouths. I don’t know that I can crawl out from the other end by moving forward. Therefore, even though it has a claw-like mouth shell and jagged legs, it will not help. , a miracle happened: in just a few minutes, the little green worms crawled out of the dragon's tail one by one.
Warm reminder: Destiny has always been hidden in our thoughts. Many people cannot get out of the big or small shadows at different stages of life, not because their natural personal conditions are much worse than others, but because they have no idea to bite through the shadow paper dragon, and do not have the patience to slowly and slowly Find a direction and move forward step by step until a new cave appears in front of you.
5. Light and shadow are the wealth of life
No matter how smooth life is, the sun will not shine every day and there will be flowers everywhere.
The shadow is so annoying!” thought the famous cartoon kittens Tom and Toby, “We must get rid of it. ”
However, no matter where they went, Tom and Toby discovered that as soon as the sun appeared, they would see their own shadows that drove them crazy.
However, Tom Tom and Toby finally found their own solution. Tom's method is to always close his eyes.
This fable shows that. How a small psychological problem turns into a bigger psychological problem.
It can be said that all psychological problems originate from the distortion of facts. What facts? Mainly those negative events that cause us pain.
Because of the painful experience, we are unwilling to face this negative event. However, once such negative events happen, they are destined to accompany us throughout our lives. The most we can do is to suppress them into our subconscious. This is called forgetting.
However, subconsciously they will still function as they always have. And, no matter how much we forget the facts, the pain associated with them still hits us, making us inexplicably and uncontrollably sad. This pain drives us further to try to escape.
In the end, the usual solutions are these two: either, like Tom the cat, we completely distort our experience and turn a blind eye to all the important negative facts in life; Like Toby the kitten, he simply surrenders to pain and makes everything about himself very bad. Since everything is so bad, the original incident that makes him saddest does not hurt so much.
99% of drug addicts have experienced painful experiences. They take drugs to escape the pain. It's like hiding in the shadows, the painful truth is a devil, and in order to avoid this devil, simply sell yourself to a bigger devil.
There are also many alcoholic adults who had an alcoholic and violent father and suffered a lot of torture from his father. In order to forget this pain, they learned the same method.
In addition to these visible mistakes, we humans have also invented countless ways to avoid pain. Freud called these ways psychological defense mechanisms. When the pain is too painful, these defense mechanisms are necessary, but the worst thing is that if the psychological defense mechanism distorts the facts too much, it will bring about more psychological problems, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, social anxiety disorder, multiple personality, and even Schizophrenia etc.
There is only one way to truly achieve health - face the pain. People who face pain will get many unexpected gains from pain, which will eventually become the wealth of the person's life. Planning to make good use of existing capabilities is far more important than tapping so-called potential. ”
Remember: Shadow, like light, is the wealth of life.
One of the most important psychological rules is that no matter how painful something is, you cannot escape it. You can only face it bravely, resolve it, transcend it, and finally reach reconciliation with it. If you temporarily lack the strength, you can seek help, seek help from relatives and friends, or find professional help from someone you trust. Accompany you to face these painful things
American psychologist Rogers was once the loneliest person, but when he faced this fact and resolved it, he became a true master of interpersonal relationships. ; American psychologist Frank had an abusive and alcoholic stepfather and a terrible mother, but when he challenged this fact and finally forgave his parents from his heart, he became an expert in treating this problem; Japanese psychologist Masaru Morita Ma was once a severely neurotic patient, but by challenging this fact and ultimately inventing Morita therapy...the most painful facts in their lives turned out to be their most important assets. You can do the same.
Beautiful summer
The falling red has not completely turned into spring mud, and the pomegranate has already smiled. What follows is the first long-lost cicada chirp. Summer is like a young man, the scorching sunshine is his bright smile, the bursting heat is his vigorous breath, the lush vegetation is his thick hair, the rising tide is his strength, and the speed is his strength. The coming and going of showers is his temperament.
The green color of summer is splashing across the sky and the earth, painting colorful pictures under the blue sky and white clouds. Either dark green or clear green, they are all completely free of the light yellow color. They are so verdant and lush, no longer superficial or immature, and they fully display the layers of life with full passion. Absorbing the strong sunshine and exhaling the pure breath, you can feel refreshed and enjoy the coolness in such green shelter. However, there were unexpected storms that day, and the clouds with yin and yang were hot in the afternoon. The kiss and lightning are the careless glances, the thunder is their happy laughter, and the seven-color rainbow after the rain is the crystallization of their love. The blue sky, white clouds, and gorgeous rainbow are the most beautiful combination in summer.
In the pond, the lotus flowers bid farewell to their buds, blooming with beautiful smiles, dancing in the breeze, with their emerald skirts and graceful and reserved figures, The fog is shining like a graceful woman gently reciting the poem "the lotus beads are broken but round after falling". The beautiful branches show you the style of summer, and you can't help but admire the beautiful scenery. When I suddenly looked back, I saw that "the lotus leaves in the sky are infinitely green, and the lotus flowers are exceptionally red in the sun."
The summer night is always full of charming colors, a bit deep. But it is romantic. The clouds in the sky are colorful under the reflection of the sunset, and the full moon like a silver mirror hangs high, pouring out the clear light like water, amid the chirping of frogs and insects. In the middle, the stars blinked mischievously, happily admiring the dancing tree shadows. At this time, the cool breeze gently dispersed the troubles and worries of the day.
Summer is colorful, the calm is lake blue, the pure is milky white, the noble is beige, the passionate is bright red, the elegant is silver gray, the solemn is jet black... the colorful colors The warm summer is full of pictures. Elegant daisies, fragrant tulips, delicate camellias, enchanting peonies...the fragrant aroma overflows the secluded courtyard. The crisp frog drums, the chattering of cicadas, the low hum of mosquitoes, the melodious calls of birds...the rich sounds fill the light air, this is the charm of summer. Let winter wake up, let spring be brilliant, let summer be colorful, let autumn be brilliant, and make life colorful. Only with the nourishment of heaven and earth can we have strong vitality. Because of mutual love, there is spring and autumn.
After the charm of spring, we ushered in the vitality of summer, which is so colorful, gorgeous, brilliant and enthusiastic. This summer is very beautiful, inheriting the vitality of spring, containing the maturity of autumn, and showing the spirit of summer. Spring
In spring, the flowers are blooming, and hundreds of flowers are blooming. It is the spring scenery of nature. It is already late autumn, and it is no longer the season for flower viewing. Let’s take a look at the spring scenery of society.
The "spring beauty" of society is not like the spring beauty of nature. This "spring beauty" is meant for social morality. Only the social atmosphere has improved. The spring beauty of society will never fade all year round.
This time last year, my grandma celebrated her birthday. It was the weekend, so my mother and I rushed to my grandma's house in Shashi from 7 to 8 on Saturday morning. Then my mother and I stayed at my grandma’s house for less than five minutes. I went out to buy a gift for grandma. When we arrived at the intersection, we couldn't stop a taxi no matter how we stopped, so my mother and I decided to squeeze in the bus and finally determined the route. After getting on the No. 2 bus, I found that there was not a single seat. I looked around and found that the people sitting there were all office workers, rushing home after work. Most of the people standing were old people. I felt unconvinced, but I didn’t dare to say, why no one gave up their seats to the old people? Woolen cloth? Then I looked at the seats reserved for senior citizens. There were actually two people in their early thirties sitting on it. At this time it started to rain outside. The temperature plummeted. There were so many people in the car that it didn't feel cold, but the mouth of the young man sitting in the senior citizen seat by the window was already purple. I sneered, thinking, retribution. This time. The conductor suddenly came over and said, "Why don't you young people sitting here give your seats to the elderly?" The office workers sitting there completely ignored his words. The conductor looked around. He stared at the young man with a purple mouth and said, "Please give up your seat." The young man was stunned and said, "Me? Why me?" The eyes of everyone in the car turned to him. "Don't you know this is a seat reserved for senior citizens?" The young man thought for a moment, stood up, and walked away. At this time, a cold wind blew, and the conductor couldn't help shivering. I found that the cold wind came from the small window next to where the young man was sitting. Everyone in the car understood. Suddenly there was no cold wind blowing, and the conductor was holding an open umbrella to block the air leakage hole. Next, the old man who sat on the bus held an umbrella with his hands until he was about to get off. The young man smiled and was about to get out of the car, "Yes, I know young man, you didn't mean to be a senior citizen seat, but I hope you can remember that you can do good deeds, but you can't damage yourself by doing good deeds." Honor." The conductor said to him with a smile. The young man nodded firmly and got out of the car.
I understand that the beauty of society is created by everyone's harmony, peace and mutual help. What I wrote is just a little bit of the spring scenery. As long as everyone gives a little love, the world will be filled with spring.