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Self-reliance can be divided into material independence and spiritual independence.
Self-reliance is the only way to maturity and success.
Only by self-reliance can we have real freedom.
Self-reliance does not exclude cooperation with others.
Only a self-reliant country can truly achieve prosperity.
Parents and society should consciously cultivate children's self-reliance ability.
The development of a country and a nation needs self-reliance.
well-known saying
☆ It is better to rely on yourself than others. -"Everything is ready"
☆ Heaven is strong, and a gentleman strives for self-improvement. I Ching
☆ The Almighty is not him, he can make his own plans, and he will not stick to the rules. -Han Yu
Do not suffer from the incompetence of others, but from your own reluctance. -Wang Anshi
A scholar should strive for self-improvement, not for others. -Zhang
☆ Stand on your own feet, don't follow others' footsteps, learn from others' words. -Lu Jiuyuan
☆ Without your own efforts, you will never reach your goal, and any outside help can't replace your own efforts. -Ba Jin
☆ Men, let's rely on our own strength. -Beethoven
☆ I would rather rely on my own strength to explore the future than seek the favor of dignitaries. Hugo
☆ Although we can grow up under the protection of our parents and relatives, we can rely on our brothers and friends, and we can get happiness by making friends, in any case, in the final analysis, human beings still have to rely on themselves. -Goethe
☆ Go deep into your heart, and then find that all the miracles are in yourself. bacon
Don't bother others with what you can do. Leo Tolstoy
☆ Rely on yourself wholeheartedly and own everything. If such people are unhappy, who can you trust? -Cicero
☆ Many people are not enough to rely on, so you have to live on your own. -Napoleon
☆ I hope you can understand yourself according to your own meaning, and don't underestimate yourself and be led astray by other people's views. Tagore
☆ You should be a brave young man and don't make a fuss about trifles. You know, the weak have a hard time in this world. -Topiramate.
☆ People who have no independent spirit must rely on others; People who depend on others must be afraid of others; People who are afraid of others are sure to flatter others. -Fukuzawa Yukichi
☆ Parents who blindly sacrifice everything for their children with compassion can be regarded as the worst educators. makarenko
☆ Wise men look for themselves, fools look for others. anonymous
☆ The youngest son who can't get the inheritance right among his children often gets good development through his own struggle. People who enjoy success rarely achieve great things. bacon
☆ If a teenager wants to live successfully, he must learn to stand on his own feet, remove the obstacles lying in ambush everywhere, educate him at home, and let him have an independent personality recognized by people. Dale Carnegie
☆ I would rather rely on my own strength to explore the future than seek the favor of dignitaries. Hugo
There has never been a savior, and we don't rely on the immortal emperor. To create human happiness, we all have to rely on ourselves. -portal
☆ You have to walk on your own to get wider and wider. Madame Curie
Celebrity story
Song of independence
Half a century ago, Tao Xingzhi, a famous educator in China, wrote an independent song for children:
Drop your own sweat,
Eat your own food.
Do your own thing,
Depend on people, on the sky, on ancestors,
Not a real hero!
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The old reporter encouraged his daughter to "escape"
According to a China graduate student at the University of Michigan, a young American female student talked about the life of "working while studying". She found it interesting and sometimes difficult, but she persisted. Her father is an old journalist and belongs to the middle class. It is not that he has no money to send his children to school. One year, she went home to visit her parents and asked her father why she became a teacher.
Encourage her to "run away from home" when 18 years old? Her father replied, "because for a young man, the most important things are two things, one is education, and the other is independence." This not only means cultivating independent living ability and not relying on others, but also includes exercising independent thinking mode, strong will and personality, and striving for self-improvement. "
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Rockefeller educated his children well.
Rockefeller in America is a world-famous rich man. However, Rockefeller's six children did not enjoy this luxurious life. Luo's teaching method is "popularization". He stipulates that pocket money varies with age. The pocket money used should be recorded in detail. If not, it will be deducted when you get paid next week. Rockwell encourages children to take part in housework to get extra subsidies. Usually, it is the father who takes the lead in mending clothes for his children and letting them grow vegetables and raise rabbits.
In order to prevent children from eating enough, they spend money, limit bread, ban beef and even allow children to go out to play.
Legend has it that Rockefeller once asked his grandson to stand on a high place and jump. Rockwell gave a hug first. After his grandson came, Rockwell made him jump into the air and fall to the ground again. In this regard, Luo said to his grandson: Son, you have to rely on yourself for everything, and others are unreliable, including your grandfather. Only in this way can you become a great entrepreneur.
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Different parents
David Brenner, a famous American comedian, turned to his father for help after graduating from high school. His father gave him a coin and told him, "Use this coin to buy a newspaper, read every word, then turn to the advertising column, find a job and go to the outside world." Later, David Brenner succeeded through hard struggle. In retrospect, the star thought his father's coins were "the best gift".
Unfortunately, many parents in China don't understand this truth. A wealthy parent transferred 50,000 yuan to his only child account in the first year of high school, creating a small "rich man". Therefore, the child hired classmates to help him carry his schoolbag on his way to school, and also hired classmates with good grades to help him with his homework. As a result, I got two firsts in school: deposit first and academic performance last. There is an ancient saying that "parents love their children, so they plan far-reaching", and this real "planning far-reaching" is to cultivate children's real independent ability. Lin Zexu also said: "Children and grandchildren are like me. What should I do with money?"? If you are virtuous and have more money, you will lose your ambition; My children and grandchildren are not as good as me. What did you leave the money for? Foolish and rich, benefit to increase it. " This is really worth pondering.
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Shakespeare left home to find a way of life.
Shakespeare stepped out of his own way of life. He was born in a wealthy family in Stratford, but left home at the age of 16 to make a living alone. He worked as a village teacher, an apprentice in a slaughterhouse, a bookboy for others, a British expeditionary force, a lawyer and a small official. In order to stand on his own feet, he also swam across the English Channel and went to Holland and Italy.
Swing. The process of seeking self-reliance enriched his life experience and laid a solid foundation for him to create a large number of excellent works such as Hamlet and The Merchant of Venice and become a world drama master.
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Reagan's shoes
Former US President Ronald Reagan went to a shoe store to make a pair of shoes when he was a child. The shoemaker asked young Reagan, "Do you want square shoes or round shoes?" Reagan didn't know what kind of shoes were suitable for him, so he couldn't answer at the moment. So the shoemaker told him to go back and think about it before telling him. A few days later, the shoemaker met Reagan in the street and asked about the shoes. Reagan was still hesitant, and finally the shoemaker said to him, "Well, I know what to do." You come to pick up new shoes in two days. When Reagan went to the store to buy shoes, he found that one of the shoes made by the shoemaker was square and the other was round. How did this happen? "He wants to know." After waiting for you for a few days, you can't figure out a way. Of course, it's up to me as a shoe maker. This is a lesson for you. Don't let others make decisions for you. "Replied the shoemaker. Reagan later recalled this incident and said: "From then on, I realized one thing: I made my own decisions. If you hesitate when you encounter something, it is equivalent to giving the decision to others. Once others make a bad decision, they will regret it. "
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Let children pursue independently.
It is said that adult African leopards will lead their children to catch up with their prey desperately, but when they are about to catch up with their prey, they will stop by themselves, meaning to let their children continue to catch up; But by this time, the little African leopard was out of breath and stopped, so adult Africa bit the little African leopard with its mouth until the little African leopard continued to chase its prey. In nature, we can see this phenomenon everywhere. Mother yellowbird drove the feathered little yellowbird out of the nest and let it stand on its own feet. This is still the case in nature, let alone human beings.
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The story of the little snail
The little snail asked his mother, "Why do we have to bear this hard and heavy shell when we are born?" Mom: "Because our bodies have no bones to support, we can only climb, but we can't climb fast." . So I want the protection of this shell! "
Snail: "Sister Caterpillar has no bones and can't climb fast. Why doesn't she have to carry this hard and heavy shell? " Mom: "Because sister caterpillar can become a butterfly, the sky will protect her."
Snail: "but brother earthworm can't climb fast without bones, and he won't become a butterfly." Why doesn't he carry this hard and heavy shell? " Mom: "Because earthworms can drill into the earth, the earth will protect it."
The little snail began to cry: "We are so poor, the sky is not protected, and the land is not protected." Mother snail comforted it: "So we have shells!" " We don't rely on the sky, we don't rely on the ground, we rely on ourselves. "
How do parents abroad teach their children to stand on their own feet?
In families in developed countries, parents generally attach importance to cultivating children's self-care ability and self-improvement spirit from an early age. This is because the developed market economy requires members of society to have this ability and spirit.
In the United States, the starting point of family education is to cultivate children's pioneering spirit and become a self-reliant person. Parents let their children know the value of labor from an early age, let them repair and assemble motorcycles themselves, and take part in labor outside. Even rich children should earn their own living. American middle school students have a slogan: spend money and earn it yourself! Farmers' families want their children to share housework, such as mowing grass, painting houses and simple carpentry repairs. In addition, I have to go out to do odd jobs, push the lawn mower in summer, sweep the leaves in autumn and shovel snow in winter.
In Switzerland, in order to prevent their children from becoming incompetent, parents have worked hard to cultivate their children's spirit of self-reliance since childhood. People who rely on their parents for a long time to live a parasitic life are considered to be enterprising or shameful.
In the former West Germany, children were trained to do their own things from an early age, and their parents never did everything. The law also stipulates that when children reach the age of 14, they must undertake some obligations at home, such as shoeshine for the whole family. This is not only to cultivate children's working ability, but also to cultivate children's sense of social responsibility.
In Japan, children are instilled with an idea when they are very young-don't give others trouble, and pay attention to cultivating children's self-care ability and self-improvement spirit in daily life. When the whole family goes out to travel, no matter how young the children are, they will always carry a small backpack on their backs. Why should I ask? Parents said: this is their own business and should be carried by themselves.
The phenomenon of "tiger father and tiger son"
During the Three Kingdoms period, Liu Bei was a generation of heroes. From selling shoes and weaving mats to becoming the Emperor of Shu Han, he traveled all his life. But his son Liu Chan is a mediocre, dissolute and incompetent person. Even a man of great wisdom and courage like Zhuge Liang can't help him, commonly known as "A Dou who can't help". The world once lamented: why did the tiger father have this son!
Zhou Yu, another wizard in the Three Kingdoms period, was a famous Dongwu star and resourceful. In the Battle of Red Cliffs, he defeated Cao Jun with fire and became famous all over the world. His son Zhou Yin was sealed for nothing, but he relied on his father's merits. He was dissolute and indulgent, abolished politics, raped his wife and daughter, and was exiled to Luling County. Sun Quan once pointed out the reason for losing power and influence: "In the past, Yin was young and had no achievements at the beginning. He is a good soldier. He is waiting for the generals. He thought of Gong Jin and Ziyin and relied on it. He was addicted to prostitution. "
Li Shimin, Emperor Taizong, was brilliant. He is the best emperor in China. But none of his 14 sons was a loser, three were killed, three committed suicide, three died young, one was confined, two were exiled, and the other two were mediocre, incompetent and confused.
Kou Zhun, a famous star in the Northern Song Dynasty, could not stand on his own feet, relying on the merits of his ancestors. However, 30 years later, his family declined and became a common people.
The phenomenon of "like mother, like son" illustrates a truth: you will accomplish nothing without the protection of your ancestors.
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Perspective on the Phenomenon of "Neighboring the Old" and "Needing the Old"
On the one hand, hard-working and white-haired parents, on the other hand, there are no "weaned" children in their parents' arms. A survey by Xu, a researcher in sociology at Shanghai Academy of Social Sciences, shows that the emergence of "NEET" and "very old people" has become a national social problem that cannot be ignored (China Youth Daily reported on March 3 1).
The so-called "old man" refers to a young man who has reached adulthood and has the ability to make a living, but still lies in his parents' arms and survives without "weaning". Their main source of livelihood is to ask their parents for money. And those young people who are still "gnawing" their parents when they are poor at home and their parents are unsustainable are called "neets". If the warmth of "alongside" still exists, then "gnawing" is more chilling. Whether "alongside" or "gnawing", this "new unemployed group" has now become a heavy family burden for some middle-aged and elderly people, thus causing new psychological anxiety.
Why are it difficult for "old people" and "old people" to find jobs? "Too hard" and "too tired" are the important reasons why many "old people" refuse to work. It should be said that these people have advantages that their predecessors did not have, and they have a strong sense of independence, law, environmental protection and equality, and are keen on new things. At the same time, they also have fatal defects, such as the deviation of sense of responsibility, the weak sense of diligence and thrift, the doting parents, the great pressure of entering higher schools, and the "money flavor" of social idols, which make these young people feel high and their values deviate, and often fall into the "money flavor".
The emergence of "old people" and "old people" is related to family education. In the west, when children grow up, they must stand on their own feet regardless of their family background; In China, parents feel that all their efforts are for their children. In China, parents usually try their best to make their children live a better life when they grow up, including getting married, buying a house and raising the next generation. They feel that this is a responsibility, and this concept of parents also affects children, making young people take it for granted to accept parental support.
The appearance of "old man" and "old man" is also related to the general environment. Some experts have analyzed that most of them are only children, and they have been "little emperors" since childhood, and their ability to adapt to the environment is weak. In the entrance-oriented exam-oriented education, they have not received special vocational skills training and have no advantage in the job market. Coupled with the grim employment situation in the whole society, their employment opportunities are getting less and less. In addition, with the development and change of society, some things, including the concept of consumption, are also changing. Today's living expenses, such as housing, are not affordable for all young people who have just left school in a short time, which objectively urges them to "live next to the old" and "eat the old".
It can be seen that "old people" and "old people" are like a pot of boiling water. When the "firewood" of family education and school education is defective and the "firewood" of one's own quality is lacking, how can this pot of water be boiled? The author thinks that it is better to help parents find jobs than to support them, which requires the support and guidance of the government in training, employment orientation and other aspects, as well as the change of employment concept between "NEET" and "NEET". When people gather firewood, the flames are high. Only with the efforts of all walks of life can this pot of water have the hope of boiling.
What is self-reliance?
Self-reliance is the spiritual quality of working hard without relying on others. In fact, self-reliance is a kind of self-survival consciousness and ability. Self-improvement includes self-improvement consciousness and self-improvement ability, which influence and promote each other, and are also the psychological quality pursued by modern people. A person's awareness and ability to stand on his own feet is not only beneficial to society, but also to his own healthy development. With the consciousness and ability of self-reliance, it is easier for people to adapt to society, seize opportunities and develop themselves.
Self-reliance is a value orientation. As a value orientation, self-reliance is the embodiment of human subjectivity, which is embodied as: 1, and human independent personality is a specific psychological quality independent of nature and society; 2. The spirit of human freedom; 3. The enterprising spirit of the people; 4. People's innovative spirit;
Self-reliance is a personality trait. Self-reliant personality needs strong consciousness and self-control; Independent personality needs rational emotional characteristics; Self-reliant personality requires independence, self-esteem and self-improvement.
Self-reliance is a way of life. This kind of life style is a kind of life style of continuous self-innovation; If you want to stand on your own feet, you must innovate yourself, that is, keep learning, keep learning, have the spirit of not giving up until you reach your goal, and have the decisive spirit of starting from today and starting from small things.
Article 1: (This is written according to the second textbook of Grade 6)
After reading the article "Redwood", I was deeply touched. I know that to grow into a century-old tree, a tree seedling needs not only watering by others, but also finding its own water source and working hard to take root, so as not to die in a harsh environment. If the sapling becomes dependent, even if it grows into a big tree, it will be uprooted when it encounters strong wind and heavy rain. Therefore, we should cultivate independent ability and do our own thing from an early age.
In fact, people, like trees, live in uncertainty and often encounter some setbacks and difficulties. Cowardly people will only shrink back and bow to difficulties; Strong-willed people will not be intimidated by difficulties, but wave to difficulties and challenge them! Although Zhang Haidi, a physically disabled and determined aunt, was unable to "walk" in a wheelchair, she still fought hard, loved life, persisted in writing and wrote one excellent article after another.
"People who live in uncertainty can exercise an independent heart, and people who live in uncertainty can learn to turn few nutrients into huge energy." When I read this, I saw a scene of 14-year-old German girl Uta traveling all over Europe alone. She is a planned, decisive, bold and cautious girl. I admire her from the bottom of my heart and want to learn the spirit of independence from her. I learned from her: to understand society, you have to experience it yourself to feel the beauty of life and the wonderful world.
After reading the text, I said to myself: Although we live in a peaceful environment, today's society is full of competition, so it is very important for us to have an independent spirit!
Chapter 2: (This is based on reading Robinson Crusoe)
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-thoughts on reading Robinson Crusoe
After I spent a lot of time watching Robinson Crusoe, my heart was calm for a long time. ...
Robinson had a wish when he was very young-he could explore by boat, but his parents opposed it, but Robinson didn't want to give up and always wanted to be an adult. Robinson lived on the island for about 30 years before returning to England. This reminds me of independence.
Robinson lives on a desert island, helpless and has to deal with food and shelter. It is not difficult to imagine that Robinson often helped his parents do housework when he was a child, and even worked as a coolie. It can be seen that Robinson's parents love their children, but they love them and love them.
Nowadays, children in the city live a life of "clothes to reach out and food to open their mouths". Parents like them too much. They just think it's good for children to read good books. Miscellaneous work will affect learning, and playing will also make children learn backwards. They are only allowed to read, read and read all day. Parents don't know that playing is children's fun, and sometimes they can learn something from fun that is not in the textbook.
Children in the country are just the opposite. I go to school on the rugged mountain road all day, but I am very happy and can read books; I study hard, but I will take time out to help my parents do housework. Get together to play all day, but they will arrange ... don't think that parents in rural areas don't care about their children, but let them be independent and don't do anything when they grow up.
I once read a news: A couple gave birth to two girls and felt very unhappy, so they beat their children all day. A year later, the couple gave birth to another boy, thinking: Finally, someone handed down the ancestral work. I walked around the little boy all day. The little boy wanted to get the mop, but the next second, his mother grabbed it and said to the little boy, "Good boy, I'll work and you play." . "Gradually, the little boy grew up and got good grades. He was admitted to the university and stayed there. Only one day later, the little boy ran home and told his parents not to go to school. His parents were so angry that they slapped him twice before asking him why. The little boy said hesitantly, "I can't cook and wash clothes ..." His parents were also stupid. The two girls whose parents seldom take care of them dropped out of school at an early age and lived independently, becoming the richest people in the family.
It can be seen that their parents are too fond of them, leaving them with a lifelong "disability."
Children should be more independent, do things independently, and don't rely too much on their parents. Independence can accompany you for a lifetime, and your parents will accompany you for a lifetime.
I hope I can help you! I wish you learn to make progress every day! ! !