First, the theme interpretation. Love, attention: love, especially between men and women.
Russell believes that "if we use the word love correctly, it is obvious that it does not refer to all relationships between the sexes, but only to a relationship that contains deep feelings, psychology and physiology." Truth and love-Russell's essay?
Forever and ever, note: as long as heaven and earth.
What is eternity? Hundreds of millions of years of material replacement, with the word "love" can live with heaven and earth? As time goes by, everything can die and start over. Can love survive the death of both men and women who love each other? It is indisputable that the subject of matter does not exist, so the object naturally cannot exist. Eternal love has been expected and passed down from generation to generation. Why is it circulating? Because everyone yearns for this kind of love and has a love that can last forever. x & gtU
So, is love just people's beautiful hope, but it can't exist in real life? The answer is obviously no, don't say that the love of ancient butterfly lovers has been sung for thousands of years, because it was handed down by the tragedy of become a butterfly mythology; I don't want to talk about the meeting of the cowherd and the weaver girl, because it is the beauty caused by distance. I just want to say that from the mutual understanding and love between Marx and Yan Ni to the mutual affection between Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang, even if it is as ordinary as our parents, the lyric "Dear, I love you" may never be mentioned, but I smile silently at the bottom of my heart. The so-called "wealth in life and death, wealth in children." Hold your hand and grow old with your son! "(The Book of Songs, Ye Feng, Drumming) has already penetrated into the bone marrow and the deepest part of the soul. I sang leisurely in daily chores such as buying food, cooking, washing clothes and raising children. The most romantic thing I can think of is growing old with you. ...
Russell said, "Love can reach any intensity." Then, according to people's common understanding, the correct meaning of "love will last forever" should be: true love will last forever, not short-lived. five
So what is true love? Christians have such words in their wedding vows: "No matter poverty, illness, old age, sadness and difficulties, I will always love you!" In that case, the so-called "old people love the pool" love is not true love. True love, "must be free, generous, unrestrained and sincere." ("Truth and Love-Russell's Essays"), you love this person, not because of any external pressure; You love him not because he loves you. It doesn't mean that you must love because you are bound by anything. True love is that you are soul mates, have the same desire, and look at the problem from the same height. What you attract to each other is not only beautiful youth and youth, but also the profound harmony and unity of thoughts, personalities and interests, which will collide with the spark of love and make it burn forever. Of course, the basis of having true love is that the two parties who love each other are sincere, rather than playing with love as a way of life.
Love doesn't mean marriage, love doesn't mean. Love, marriage and sex are both different and related, and the three cannot be confused. In this materialistic era, modern people can hardly tell what love is, what sex is, and whether there is love in marriage. These doubts have been puzzling people, so that people have sent out such feelings: love will not last forever! This erroneous concept and the guidance of fallacies and heresies will make many men and women afraid of love and miss it, thus making a mess of their lives, and living a miserable life that should be happy and sweet in the process of doubting love, rejecting love and being lonely.
Second, love and sex.
Nowadays, love is regarded as a synonym for "lust" or "sex". But this bad misunderstanding will inevitably make love retire. Has everyone forgotten that love is the internal driving force for people to go to God? Love is a force that attracts us. The essence of love influences us from the front, and the essence of sex pushes us from behind. In the physiological sense, sexual desire can be properly defined as the accumulation and release of physical tension. In contrast, love is an experience of personal will and behavior. Sexual desire is the rhythm of stimulation and reaction, while love is a state of existence. The ultimate goal of sexual desire is satisfaction and relaxation, while the goal of love is desire, desire, eternal expansion, search and expansion. (American existentialist psychologist rollo may's Love and Will) According to the general statement and confirmed by Freud and others, people generally feel that after sexual desire is lifted, we always want to sleep; But in love, our wishes are just the opposite: we miss our lover all the time, recall and relive the past, and say, "I can't see you for a day, and I like Sanqiu!" ("The Book of Songs by Feng Wang") In chanting, "Fortunately, I am trapped and impressed." Very leisurely, tossing and turning. "("The Book of Songs, National Style and Guanju "), and explore those aspects and connotations that last forever.
"Love has its ideal of justice and internal moral standards." Among people who are not bound by customs in modern times, our so-called strict love is suffering new dangers. This means that when people no longer feel the moral obstacle of sexual intercourse at any time, when even a slight impulse can reach it, people are used to distinguishing sex from serious love; They even associate sex with disgust. On this issue, Aldous Huxley's novels provide the best explanation. The characters in the novel, like Sao Paulo, only regard sexual intercourse as a physical vent; As for the higher values related to sexual intercourse, it seems unreasonable. Sex without love can't make instinct get any deep satisfaction. (Truth and Love —— Russell's Essays)—
There is a French proverb that clearly expresses the essence of love: "The purpose of love is not to satisfy, but to extend." Only that kind of sincere and lasting love is the love that human beings finally hope to get, and it is also the love that they have been pursuing, exploring and yearning for all their lives. But many people, especially in modern society, always feel that love comes and goes quickly, and many people can't keep warm and profound. Most men and women, under the right conditions, will feel this warm "love" at some stage of their lives. However, it is difficult to distinguish between passionate love and pure sexual desire without experience. And a woman with sexual experience can easily distinguish it from true love. And even if both men and women have love, they may break up because they feel that one party has problems or the other party has problems. Because love comes, they only feel its freshness, or regard love as possession. If love is only for freshness and possession, it has no value in itself; It's the same as working just to make money. In order to get what we call this value, love must consciously realize that the self of the loved one is as important as our own, and the feelings and wishes of others are as important as our own. In other words, we should push our feelings about ourselves to others not only according to our consciousness, but also according to our instinct. A person who can realize this will have a brand-new feeling about love, so that he or she will take love seriously and respect another person who loves it.
When you are attracted to a person, please make it clear that it may be just sexual attraction, not love attraction. Sex is the embodiment of man's instinct as an animal, while love is the need of man's soul to pursue the harmony of spirit and flesh as the highest and ultimate pursuit higher than other animals.
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The so-called marriage is only the relationship between men and women. Of course, marriage is different from other sexual relations because marriage is a legal system. In most societies, marriage is also a religious system, but the legal aspect of marriage is the main one.
Now let's talk about the fallacy that love will not last forever. Hellfire wall
To a great extent, people who hold this idea confuse love and marriage. Of course, let's look back at the past years and the world today. Marriage exists as a form of love and is recognized by society and family. So it is inevitable to confuse them. Personally, I think that true love can be closely linked through marriage, which is of course the best result of the current social love; But if love is not guaranteed by marriage, as long as it is true love, I feel that as long as both parties in love are mature and rational, their love can stand the test of time, and I admire it. For an extreme example, British Crown Prince Charles and his mistress Camilla, I think they are also a kind of true love. It will not decay because of the passage of time and the disappearance of youth and beauty. For decades, the two sides have experienced so many entanglements and disputes that even after Diana's death, great public pressure failed to separate them. Without true love, how can they survive such a difficult time! How can we make the future king of a country fall in love with a woman who is getting old? ! F8"#\
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There is a difficulty in modern marriage, which is especially felt by those who know the value of love best. As long as love is free and natural, it will flourish; And if love is a responsibility, it can only wither and wither. Because if your responsibility is to love someone, it will make you hate him or her. Similarly, I think that with the legal protection of marriage, there will be the protection of love, instead of staying attractive without marriage (please note that I am not talking about being young and beautiful), or adding more charm than when I was unmarried (this is the same for men and women), which is definitely not worth the candle.
"Partner's life, after years of test, has many deep feelings and rich contents. Although it may be extremely pleasant in the early days of love, it is impossible to have such content. " Therefore, it is possible for an educated person to get a happy marriage with true love. But to do this, the following conditions must be met: the two sides love each other, do not interfere with each other's freedom, maintain close friendship between the two sides physically and mentally, and must have similar views on value standards. If these conditions are met, then marriage must be the most beautiful and important relationship between lovers, that is, a high-quality marriage, that is, "both parties love each other, invest more in their families and voluntarily maintain their marriage;" The higher the degree of love between the two parties, the more investment in the family and the higher the quality of marriage. "(China contemporary scholar Yao Yang" can the law punish extramarital affairs? If you don't encounter such a situation, then the vast majority may be that both parties regard themselves as each other's policemen, not love partners. V%jsg)
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In retrospect, we still fall in love and don't talk about marriage. Marriage as a form of love, I admit that there is real love in marriage, but all marriages are definitely not love. 1m
True love will last forever, but it depends on whether the two lovers realize that marriage is not the same as love, and the decision of eternal love lies entirely with the two lovers. If you can't see true love on the road of life, then human beings can only linger in despair. Then, a person who is desperate for love must have a lonely and sad life. Of course, love also has a learning process. People often say that we didn't know love when we were young. But when I was old and had some life experience, I gradually realized what true love was. Both men and women who love each other love each other, appreciate each other, care about each other, tolerate each other, and walk hand in hand on the journey of love. No matter what setbacks and sorrows they encounter in life, they care about each other, encourage and support each other, and work together to tide over the difficulties. For married people, no matter what your original intention is, no matter what your past is, as long as you treat love sincerely, I believe that true love will last forever, and your love will bloom dazzling after marriage, although this flower may just bloom later than others! To explore, to pursue and to seek persistently, I believe that when true love comes, you will never leave home! eEv4t
But if you hold the attitude that love will never last forever, I can guarantee-of course, you will never feel the kind of "I live at the head of the Yangtze River and you live at the end of the Yangtze River." "I miss you every day, but I can't see you, so I drink Yangtze River water." (Song Lizhiyi's "Fu"), that kind of "evil! I want to know you and live a long life. There is no mausoleum in the mountains, the river is exhausted, there is Lei Zhen in winter, and there is rain and snow in summer, and heaven and earth are in harmony. How dare you say goodbye to you! " Taste. (Han Yuefu folk song "Thank you")
This is an ancient and eternal topic, a long-lost argument different from "once owned"
What is love? Ask what the world is like and teach people to commit themselves to life and death.
I have always liked this sentence, and I have always been touched by Stefanie's promise.
I have read a love story with a bowl and a half of rice. The story says: There is a couple whose wife only eats half a bowl of rice at a time, and their family rules do not allow leftovers. Every day, after the husband finishes a bowl of rice, he always eats the half bowl of rice left by his wife. Finally, one day, the husband left before his wife. When the wife was eating, she looked at the half bowl of rice left in the bowl. She cried, crying very sadly. Her son asked her why she was so sad. She said that no one would come to eat this half bowl of rice again. The son took his mother's bowl and ate half a bowl of rice. & gt
This is also a kind of' love'. .
Take care of each other all my life, never say love, just silently eat half a bowl of leftovers. This feeling can't be said to be deep. The son took his father's emotional stick and continued to eat half a bowl of rice. This is the continuation of love and the sublimation of love. tgR \ j；
Vigorous love makes people yearn for it, and the plain and long-flowing life shows ordinary and persistent love. The vast sea of people is rolling in the red dust, and that eternal heart will remain unchanged for 50 years or even 100 years.
When I think of Julie's hand in hand, I have a warm imagination, and I don't want to be impetuous or coquetry, as if I can go on forever. Floating dust comes and goes, a love affair that forgets dust. Maybe it can be traced back to three lives, or it can last for thousands of years. A pair of hands holding hands, two hearts connected with each other, life is naturally satisfied.
Only then can love last forever.
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Professor: (Important)
True love must last forever.
In this world, a sea of people, a treasure-love-shines in the hearts of those who have walked and will walk. Whether we admit it or not, at that time, the light washed away all the earthly clutter in life, leaving only those precious thoughts, beliefs and emotions, in which love shines brightly, as romain rolland said: Love is the flame of life, without which everything will turn into darkness. My friends, the topic we are talking about today is related to love, which has been an eternal theme for thousands of years. It belongs to you, me and all mankind. Here, I quote Marx's interpretation of love: love is the desire of human beings to carry on the family line under the control of good wishes.
Life will eventually pass, but mankind will never stop. Because of what? Because of biological reproductive instinct and vocation. Man is the spirit of all things because we have thoughts. When the desire to carry on the family line is reflected in us, it is not just an animal behavior, so there is love, so we gave birth to offspring under the guidance of love, and this love will last forever. Standing at the height of mankind, facing the endless river of time, I want to say: true love must be eternal.
In the far west, there are stories of Romeo and Juliet. In the ancient East, the legends of Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai were also sung. These two unfortunate and happy people gave their youthful lives for love. People are deeply moved by their immortal love while regretting their early death. Life and death are broad, and they care for each other; Hold your hand and grow old with your son. We always have this desire, but people are fragile and can't get rid of the fate of death. In this limited life, there are eternal things that will not be exhausted with the passage of time and will not be stopped by death. Maybe you will say that it's all over, but why are we still telling stories and crying? What is eternal is not the real thing, but only the thought. Our souls tell us that love triumphs over death; Behind the story, we read such a sentence: true love must last forever.
I sometimes wonder, in what form does love exist among us? The answer is undoubtedly colorful and strange. I can only say that it can be in any form. Those lovers who stay together until they are old, those lovers who live far apart, those lovers who live far apart ... I have a lot to say. Here is only one example, the love between Sartre and Beauvoir. Both of them are giants in philosophy, and their love is a model of free love. Let's take a look at what's in this half-century-long love run. We were surprised to find that they had different partners when they were in love, but their love was faithful. The two sides did not lose love because the other party had another partner. Therefore, no matter what this complex world brings to you and what you have caused, no one will be a perfect person, no matter what form: true love lasts forever.
Love is also universal, but in everyone's body, we can feel the same. So friends will ask: is it true that a person only talks about love once? If not, and love is selfish, is it doomed that some love is just a flash in the pan? Our answer is no, people are not drawing boards, and things written on them will disappear as soon as they are wiped. As long as it is love, it will not disappear from you, it is rooted in your heart. It is irreplaceable, it is accumulated, it is these fragments that make up your life, and your life always has its shadow. This will lead to another question: Is such love still true love? My answer is yes. Love is not based on success or failure, but on the heart, which is the only measure of love. Maybe you will ask: Is this kind of love everlasting? My friends, eternity is not only calculated by time. Our life is only a few decades at best. For individuals, eternity is a brand in their hearts. When we open the memoirs or biographies written by anyone, we can see their records of past love. Not just memories, but their hearts, like the warmth at the beginning, gradually became meaningful. I want to tell you loudly that true love must last forever.
Loving others and being loved by others is everything, which is the law of the universe. French Penshaer's words are very strategic, and we no longer pay attention to trivial details. When we face this topic with our truest selves, we also find out where people really are. I believe that there is a feeling like the stars in the sky, which has gone through thousands of years when we stare at it. We only experience pain for the beauty of life. Don't doubt. Love. True love lasts forever.
-Author: Desert Fox
I'm XX, and the debate is affirmative. Hello everyone! The other party is friendly!
The opponent's debater first quotes the classics and explains them in words, telling me what love is, what true love is, and what is everlasting. Then jump into the air. Will the so-called "true love" be "everlasting"? Because the desert island experiment and the cases of Zhuo Wenjun and Sima Xiangru have proved that everlasting love does not exist, it is really unacceptable to say anything unfathomable.
The most important point of the opposing debater was brushed aside. "First of all, is there really something eternal in the world? Don't! The only constant philosophical concept is: change! There is nothing eternal in this world. Therefore,' forever' does not exist at all. " I have no doubt that the philosophical concept of the opposing side is changing in thousands of ways, from the universe to the human body, to insects, ants, flies, atoms and electrons, and social life. In fact, we don't need to prove it. The research of scientists and the recognition of the world make it unnecessary and meaningless for me to overthrow this truth. Unless I'm crazy, I think. According to the opponent, love has changed. Since love has changed, it is inferred that eternal love does not exist. This statement seems reasonable, but it is actually ridiculous: whose love has not changed? Today, my girlfriend and I were inseparable, and we made an everlasting vow. I didn't expect to have a little conflict with my girlfriend the next day because of eating vegetables, and then I was flushed and resentful. However, if I don't talk for an hour the next afternoon, I will fidget and flirt. Of course, she is reluctant, secretly happy in her heart and full of sadness on her face. It's really a cloud.
The opponent's argument means that love must change. If it changes, it won't last forever. I don't know whether it will change or not. I pushed my opponent's debater with an absurd reason, because of the metabolism in your body, you were not who you are today yesterday. Therefore, today's opponent debater is no longer an opponent debater, or Mr. Tired, but more likely to be Mr. Easy and Mr. Happy. This is ridiculous. Opposing debater or opposing debater, opposing debater's thought or opposing debater's thought.
The meaning of the opposing debater should probably be considered together with the second argument. What he means is that because there are several fickle figures in history, it is concluded that true love never exists. I don't want to unilaterally understand the meaning of the other debater. I know what this means. It is not my strong point, let alone my hobby, and I have no intention of falling into its irrationality. Another debater also admitted, "Dialectically, some people's' love' does have an eternal' belief' in a certain sense at some point in life." Then he overthrew his argument, "But after the three kinds of love mentioned in the second point do not necessarily form a unique and one-way development process, this ideal was broken." In other words, these three kinds of love can exist at the same time, each with its own object. When these three kinds of love conflict, it will show the relationship between the levels. Most people will not give up "constant love" for the sake of "original love", and most people are far from "beloved" willing to sacrifice "constant love". But a specific object can jump from one level to another and replace the people who were at that level. ("Love Theory" also said: "Original love, constant love and being loved are a continuous process from self-centeredness to others-centeredness. Original love' is the culmination of this process. It focuses on the feelings and needs of the self and does not care about the feelings and needs of the other party. Love is the other pole of this process, which is centered on the feelings and needs of others, and will not worry about the feelings and needs of the self. Constant love is between the two poles, while paying attention to' the feelings and needs of yourself and each other' and being in a state of' equivalence'. " I still don't mean to overthrow the other debater, because I can completely see the hands of the other debater fighting with each other here, which is contradictory, so let him overthrow himself. What is the first love? It is self-centered. Is this love? No, it's just a term for love theory to deduce human nature. When a person is not in love, this person is in the stage of original love and is an object to be loved. Have a strong affection for another opposite sex and a primitive impulse. This is also primitive love (love refers to human love, not to the primitive domination of other animals); In the self-centered primitive state of love, a continuous process leads to constant love, even love; Love is the highest peak and ultimate goal of love, which is different from the original love and is at the two poles of love; Constant love is a transitional stage, giving consideration to both. I don't know how the other debater's inference came from, and why he came to the conclusion that three kinds of love don't necessarily form a unique one-way development process. Another debater misunderstood the words about love and artificially divided the development process of a love into three kinds, which really dumbfounded me. If the original love is also love, then I, a loner, am narcissistic and self-loving, and a fantasy.
The real reason why another debater split the love of the Trinity is that it falls on the word "truth". What we are going to discuss is true love, which is what another debater called love, which is developed from the unchanging love of the initial love. Anything insincere, insincere, wishful thinking, fickle, etc. is not true love. True love is a kind of high-level emotional behavior in the subconscious, unforgettable love, and love that the seas run dry and the rocks crumble. True love is a sacred emotional behavior between the two sexes, which originated from primitive impulse and sublimated to represent the human spirit.
For some other mistakes in the other side's defense, I listed them as follows: The other side said that the definition of "love" is this: love-the feeling that men and women love each other. This definition is obviously too vague, but it is not difficult to find the elements that constitute love: 1, the subject is men and women, that is, the feelings between the same sex are not called love; 2, love, such as unrequited love, unrequited love, etc. Not love; 3, is an emotion, if there is no emotional basis, only based on the original impulse behavior is not called love. These three points are interrelated and indispensable. And "love" has far-reaching connotation and extension. In the end, under this contradictory statement, the definition of love is not clear. Should we believe the dictionary's explanation of love or should we believe that love has far-reaching connotation and extension? If there is connotation and extension, does it mean that the dictionary explanation is incomplete? And how much does this connotation and extension represent? In fact, the third point of the opponent's argument here is related to the section about the nature of original love mentioned later, because it is stated here that it is not love, but it is really a bit confusing to say that the original love of the so-called three kinds of love is love later. Another debater also said that "love" is a comprehensive physiological, psychological and social phenomenon that men and women admire and pursue each other based on the instinct of life reproduction and the guarantee of physical and mental comfort. So does this definition mean that love exists for a long time, and this phenomenon lasts for thousands or hundreds of millions of years, does it mean everlasting? If so, doesn't that just prove our point? Another debater also said, what is "everlasting"? Modern Chinese Dictionary defines it as "as long as heaven and earth exist, it will never change". From a philosophical point of view, is heaven and earth really the same? If it changes, it means that love is changing. What's wrong with it? Applying the other person's point of view means that love will not necessarily change. Doesn't this prove our point? If there is no change, it means that love is not necessarily the same. Doesn't this mean that love is changing? It can be seen that no matter what, it proves the view that love is eternal.
Thank you very much.
What do I think of "true love" and "everlasting"?
First of all, we say that "(true) love, like all human feelings, needs no definition, because we can't discuss human feelings with an isolated person." People always refer to other people's opinions to correct their common sense of feelings in their daily life practice. If we want to give a precise definition of love, we must first modify the quantum theory and uncertainty principle. So our definition of "(real) love" is actually people's common sense of "(real) love", you know, I know, otherwise we wouldn't have an argument. So our definition here is common sense.
Secondly, we say that love is constantly sublimated through continuous accumulation and perfection in the development of history. From the Book of Changes, the acquired salty hexagrams rank first among the thirty-six hexagrams. For thousands of years, the connotation and realm of love have been enriched and sublimated. Without the efforts of predecessors, there is no love. In the late Qing Dynasty, China's concept of love began to reconcile with the western world. Although there are great differences between the two cultures in this respect, they still have a common understanding. For example, in "Blessing of the Father", "Forever" is spoken by lovers, but how far is "Forever" from "Forever"? Look at the teachings of the three major religions in the world, but even the general friendship requires "everlasting". (Of course, Buddhism disapproves of all feelings. )
Let's take a look at "Forever and ever", which is undoubtedly synonymous with "the sea dries up and the rocks crumble, and the two love each other forever". A Dunhuang tune is well written: "I wish to do everything before my pillow: I want to rest and wait for the green hills to rot, and the scales float in the water until the Yellow River is completely dry." //See you tomorrow morning, Beidou will return to the south. " If we don't stop, we will see the sun at midnight.
1, I want to ask the other party to demonstrate under what circumstances can there be everlasting love?
1), in real life; 2) In the network life; 3), in the dream; 4), all of the above; 5) None of the above. Please choose one, don't elaborate. If you choose 5, please give your answer. Thank you!
Since the other party thinks that it doesn't exist at all, why is it that true love doesn't necessarily last forever? Isn't this "not necessarily" both inclusive and not inclusive? Isn't this hitting yourself in the mouth?
According to the other person's answer, it seems that the topic should be changed to true love, which will not last forever.
Now that the other party has given a positive answer, that is to say, the other party has given up unnecessary arguments. Then all other issues are unimportant.
Thank you for giving up your point of view.
Please answer the following questions:
1, what do you think love is?
2. What kind of love is true love?
3. Is it as eternal as the noun you quoted explains?
We all know that the necessary condition for the existence of love is two individuals who love each other, so if one party dies unfortunately or one party returns after a hundred years, it means that there is no love for the other party?
You have been arguing that true love does not necessarily exist, that is to say, you also acquiesce in the existence of true love. Not that it won't exist. Under what circumstances does your true love exist?
I deeply admire the sentence of three debates! ! First of all, he explained that the other party has been using dialectical materialism to prove that "true love must be eternal, or it may not be eternal", and then cited the philosophical views of movement and qualitative and quantitative changes to prove that true love does not exist, which is simply taken out of context! ! I don't want to repeat the dialectical view of materialism. I just want to make it clear that we say that the world is changing all the time, but there are also constant things in the change. This is the absolute and relative relationship. If so?