Because this is no longer an emotional age, there are too many trivial matters involved. Emotionally, the man really has no reason to forgive. After all, no one can stand his wife's infidelity being known by himself. But the reality is that there are two children in the middle. If you divorce, the children will definitely suffer the most. Such a decision is difficult for everyone. Although husband and wife should not be bound by children, no matter which parent, it is impossible not to consider their children.
To say the least, that woman is not totally unforgivable. After all, she confessed voluntarily and promised not to do it again. A middle-aged woman won't know what it means to make her own decision. Besides, everyone makes mistakes sometimes. We have lived together for more than ten years, and she also gave birth to children for you. If you really repent, you might as well forgive once and give each other a chance.
You and your wife have lived for many years. If it is not a big problem, there is no need to break up over this matter, and your family also advises you to forgive him. There must be a reason. You should trust your family's judgment and give your wife another chance. If your wife breaks her promise and continues to make the same mistake, then leave her resolutely. Because hesitation is actually the answer, there is no need to be aggressive. Of course, the most important thing is to look at your inner thoughts. If it is really unforgivable, there is no need to force yourself.
I know that betrayal should not be accepted in relationships, but husband and wife are different. There is more affection between them. Love can be irrational and desperate, but marriage is not. I think even if I make a mistake, I should give the other party a chance to correct it. Everyone is ordinary and no one is perfect. The most important thing is to make the right decision. Some things are not easy to have, so don't give up easily. Even if there are holes made by nails in the wall, it won't affect the use, will it?