After ending a failed marriage in 2002, Weng Fan was admitted to the Translation Department of Guangdong University of Foreign Studies for a master's degree.
From June 438 to October 2003, Yang Zhenning's wife Du Zhili died of illness.
In February 2004, Weng Fan sent a letter to Yang Zhenning of the United States. In the following months, they kept close contact and became familiar with each other.
On October 5th, 2004/kloc-0, Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan got engaged. At the age of 82, Yang Zhenning suddenly announced that he would marry Weng Fan, 28. With Yang Zhenning's age and position, making such an "appalling" decision directly triggered an "earthquake".
On February 24th, 2004, 65,438-year-old Yang Zhenning and 28-year-old Weng Fan registered their marriage.
The wedding was officially held on June 5438+ 10, 2005. 1995 During the summer vacation, Shantou University held the first World China Physics Conference, and Weng Fan was selected by the school to receive Yang Zhenning and Du Zhili. Pure and lovely, she is deeply loved by scientists and couples. Many years later, she and Yang Zhenning exchanged letters occasionally. One day in February 2004, Weng Fan received a phone call from Yang Zhenning and invited her to meet at the Chinese University. Before meeting, Weng Fan was really excited and nervous: Should I come forward to help 82-year-old Professor Yang Zhenning after being away for many years? To Weng Fan's surprise, Professor Yang Zhenning is full of energy, and he speaks, thinks and acts quickly, almost exactly like him in 1989. Weng Fan's nervous mood suddenly relaxed. Everyone is very happy to meet this time. Because Weng Fan is not as formal as science students to academic masters, the conversation seems relaxed and casual. After this meeting, Yang Zhenning was deeply impressed by Weng Fan, and his lonely heart was warmed by this frank girl. In the following days, whenever he is free, Yang Zhenning can't help calling Weng Fan. Weng Fan gradually got used to answering Yang Zhenning's phone in her spare time, which became an important part of her life. Sometimes, if she can't get a call from Yang Zhenning as scheduled, she will feel a sense of loss. One day, Weng Fan and his friends were shopping in Guangzhou when Yang Zhenning's phone rang again. Weng Fan said to the phone, "I'm shopping with that friend I mentioned to you last time." The friend who was left hanging saw the clue and joked: "Is Professor Yang in love with you? With his status and position, if he doesn't like you, he won't call you so often. " Weng Fan blushed with shame. In May, Yang Zhenning invited Weng Fan to visit Shi 'ao. It was raining that day, and there was a steep road from Shi 'ao Village to the seaside. To be on the safe side, the two naturally held hands and let go immediately after walking. At that time, Weng Fan found that she liked Yang Zhenning's hand very much. In July, 2004, Weng Fan and his friends found two like-minded "donkey friends" on the Internet and traveled to Inner Mongolia together. On the vast grassland, Weng Fan received a phone call from Yang Zhenning who had arrived in Beijing. Yang Zhenning also invited her to visit his home in Tsinghua University. Every year, he spends part of his time in Tsinghua and part of his time in Hongkong. A few days later, Weng Fan took a taxi to Tsinghua campus, and Yang Zhenning had ordered the nanny to prepare delicious meals for Weng Fan. Weng Fan found that living in the United States for many years did not westernize Yang Zhenning's lifestyle. He is very traditional. I like eating Huaiyang cuisine and drinking black tea. The two exchanged more and felt very tacit understanding with each other.
After a short stay in Beijing, Weng Fan went to Shaanxi. During that time, she was often uneasy, and Yang Zhenning's smile always appeared in front of her. She realized that she was really in love, and suddenly she was confused: How is this possible? You can calm down and think about it. She thinks that Yang Zhenning has all the charm of a man, but she is a little older. She had no choice but to give in to love. But she was still worried. After all, the difference between them is 54 years old. Back in Guangzhou, Weng Fan's whole heart has been left to Yang Zhenning. My heart is full of sweet love. She often has the impulse to write English poems and then send them to Yang Zhenning by email. Yang Zhenning always revises his poems and sends them back. Later, Weng Fan posted some of his favorite poems on the Internet. After reading it, several doctors from the Translation Department of the Chinese University commented that Weng Fan was really gifted in the rhythm and beauty of English poetry. The two people who suffered from lovesickness finally waited until the "Eleventh" Golden Week in 2004. Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan agreed to travel to Beihai, Guangxi, which is not too far from Guangzhou and not too crowded. Knowing that Weng Fan likes taking pictures, Yang Zhenning specially gave her a Panasonic digital camera. Between the blue sky and white clouds and the sea, the footprints of the couple who have forgotten the year have been left. Weng Fan wears his favorite Mickey casual clothes, rides a tandem bike with Yang Zhenning, and walks happily on the coconut grove path. A few days after returning to Beijing from Beihai, Yang Zhenning proposed to Weng Fan by phone. Weng Fan received a phone call to propose marriage in Guangzhou. Spoiled and said, "How can anyone propose if you don't send roses?" Yang Zhenning quickly smiled and agreed: "I will definitely supply you next time we meet." In June 2004, Weng Fan made a special trip back to his hometown. Weng Fan's family is very good. Weng Guangyun, Weng Fan's father, has always loved Weng Fan. On that day, Weng Fan gently told his parents about himself and Yang Zhenning. Weng Guangyun and his wife were really surprised. Weng Fan had to explain and persuade slowly. Enlightened parents finally agreed to their daughter's choice. As soon as his parents nodded, Weng Fan told Yang Zhenning the good news. The next day, Yang Zhenning asked people where to go through the marriage registration formalities, only to learn that Chinese Americans like him must go through the marriage registration formalities at the place where the woman's household registration is located. He quickly called Weng Fan to get her ready. In the evening, they agreed to write emails to their friends separately and share their happy events.
The friends who received their emails were all very excited. The next morning, the professor of the Chinese University of Hong Kong mysteriously talked about the novelty of his old friend Yang Zhenning, so he couldn't work all morning. But just as these professors were bent on keeping Yang Zhenning a secret, the Singapore media reported the news of Yang Weng's engagement. The media suddenly "bit" Weng Fan, making her afraid to answer her cell phone. On February 22nd, 2004, at 65438+, Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan flew to Shantou. Weng Fan's parents are already waiting at the hotel. Yang Zhenning called them "Mr. Weng" and "Mrs. Weng" His parents are called "Professor Yang". On the morning of February 24, 2004, at 65438, he received the marriage certificate accompanied by his younger brother Yang and his wife. Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan kept a distance of more than two meters, and entered the door of the Civil Affairs Bureau in tandem. During the Spring Festival, Yang Zhenning accompanied Weng Fan back to Guangzhou, specially hosted a banquet for Weng Fan's friends in Guangzhou, and took them to their collapsed White Swan Hotel to watch their DV. Yang Zhenning especially likes shooting DV. Weng Fan teased him about "wanting to be a director". When they go out to play, Yang Zhenning often "directs" passers-by to shoot for them, and shouts "start" and "stop" like a director. Yang Zhenning is very careful and friendly to his friends in Weng Fan, and keeps in touch with these young people. He asked the young people carefully what they thought of their marriage. After hearing the words of blessing, he asked humorously, "Did your parents relax your boyfriend's age limit a lot?" Yang Zhenning always likes to wear bright T-shirts such as light yellow and light pink, and also likes to wear a belt, which looks very young and energetic. Weng Fan gradually gave up her favorite casual clothes and chose more ladylike and steady clothes. Because the apartment is over the hill of the Chinese University of Hong Kong, you have to drive yourself when you go out. They also drive the Nissan bought by Yang Zhenning 1980, which is a bit like the classic car in the movie The Legend of Henry. It has been used for nearly 20 years, and sometimes it is driven in downtown areas, with a high turn-back rate, because almost no one in Hong Kong drives such an old car. Yang Zhenning always drives by himself. He has quick reaction and good parking skills. There is an island near Shek O in Hong Kong. In their spare time, Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan will drive to play. When Yang Zhenning drives, Weng Fan always sits in the co-pilot seat next to him and looks at Mr. Wang tenderly. Yang Zhenning likes Weng Fan's eyes very much. She feels like a soft light hitting her, safe and warm. An old friend of Weng Fan also said: "Weng Fan's eyes on Yang Zhenning are definitely gentler than ever." For the future plan, I hope I can spend more time and energy to take care of Mr. Wang and sort out his academic materials and speeches. A friend asked Weng Fan, "Are you going to be a mother?" Weng Fan said, "Let nature take its course."
In April 2005, he and his younger brothers Yang and Yang Zhenping took their wives to Mount Huangshan. Although Yang Zhenning is almost 83 years old, he has no difficulty in climbing the mountain, and Weng Fan was almost dragged away by him. Yang Zhenning joked: "Fan Fan, although my legs and feet are very flexible, I still like to hold your hand." Do you know why? Because holding your hand feels very practical! "Along the way, Weng Fan's voice is soft and sweet, and she speaks slowly, with English in Mandarin. From time to time, Yang Zhenning jokes about his Mandarin with a hint of Chaozhou dialect. Weng Fan told her friends that what impressed her most about the trip to Huangshan was that health was so important to people. She said that Yang Zhenning's family was in excellent health. Although they are over 70 years old, they all climbed Huangshan Mountain easily. Weng Fan and Yang Zhenning's family get along well. Whenever Yang Zhenning's children call from America, Weng Fan will pick up the phone and talk to them. At the beginning of June 2005, Weng Fan successfully passed her master's thesis. After returning to Beijing, she signed up for a French class, hoping to learn a language that she has been very interested in for several years. She is also going to buy a piano, hoping to smell the flowers in the yard, play the piano and live a quiet life with her husband sweetly. Yang Zhenning, a well-known physicist and news figure who has been widely concerned by Chinese at home and abroad because of Yang Weng's Love, was interviewed by CCTV and publicly described his mental journey of Yang Weng's Love for the first time. During the visit, he also revealed his feelings of winning the Nobel Prize, heard China's tears when he returned home, responded to the public's doubts about his comments on the Book of Changes, and even talked about his relationship with Li Zhengdao. The following is a summary of this visit. Despite the great pressure, on February 24th, 2004, 65438+2004, Professor Yang Zhenning, a world-famous physicist and Nobel Prize winner, and his fiancee Weng Fan went to the foreign marriage registration office of Shantou Civil Affairs Bureau, Guangdong Province, and went through the marriage registration formalities.
Reporter: Love of Yang Weng has aroused strong concern. Yang Zhenning: Yes, we thought of this problem in advance. I think everyone thinks that the age gap is so big, after all, it is rare. However, we feel that this is our own business, so although there is pressure, we feel that we can bear it. These two days, Weng Fan and I are watching a TV series "April Day on Earth" about Xu Zhimo. In fact, it mainly talks about a lot of conflicts between people under a new trend of thought and many old ideas, and some (so to speak) tragedies have occurred under that situation. I believe that our combination will be considered absolutely beautiful in the end. I still remember telling her that no matter what others said, after 30 or 40 years, everyone must think that our marriage is a beautiful romantic history.
Reporter: What does she love about you?
Yang Zhenning: I guess she thinks I am very pure and true. I think this is what she mainly appreciates about me.
Reporter: Aren't you worried that Miss Xiao Weng will cheat you?
Yang Zhenning: Yes, I think some people think so, but more people may say that I cheated a young girl. In fact, I think we are both very mature, and I think this is the most important condition.
Reporter: Mr. Yang once said a word that gave people a refreshing feeling, saying that Miss Weng was the last gift from God.
Yang Zhenning: Yes. I wrote these words after consideration, which is my true feeling.
Reporter: Can you tell me the meaning of this sentence?
Yang Zhenning: You know the benefits of all these poems, but its meaning is not clear. I think if this sentence needs to be explained, its poetry is gone. Happiness is purely a personal experience. Whose business is love? I'm sure everyone thinks this is entirely their own business. However, the seemingly strange love affair between Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan has caused numerous commotions, including praise, indifference and touching, most obviously opponents. The loud voice of opposition and fierce words are really "it is possible to blow up Lushan Mountain and stop the earth from turning". Others want to actively explore the "ideological roots" of both parties in love, and even have shown their weapons of personal attack and abuse. Here we can't help asking: Who did Mr. Yang Zhenning provoke? Didn't she just get married? Free love, legal marriage, how to attract so many discordant voices? In fact, in the final analysis, Yang Weng's "forgetting love" is the private affair of the parties themselves. Everyone has the right to love and be loved. No one can predict the occurrence of love, and the disparity in age can't be stopped. This is especially true in this age of love. Your proper love has attracted a lot of gossip from others, and it will probably not be a pleasant thing to put it on anyone. As a party, Yang Zhenning is indifferent here and says, "Can you uncover it slowly?" Just smile. As bystanders, let's calm down, respect the choices of Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan, and bless their love. Happy families are equally happy, and happiness itself is purely a personal experience. Nowadays, there are more and more marriages between old people and wives, and some people even have decades of age difference. Is this a trend of modern marriage? On this phenomenon, the reporter interviewed Professor Zhu Jiaming, vice president of Guangdong Sexology Society who has been engaged in sexual psychology and physiology research for many years. "This situation is actually very normal. Nowadays, women prefer mature men, especially men with mature careers and psychology, which is not surprising, because such men are more considerate and more secure. They are respectable, stable, insightful and reliable. " Professor Zhu said that people with a big age gap should get married, as long as both parties fully consider before marriage, others should not make irresponsible remarks. Zhu Jiaming said, it is undeniable that if the age gap between two people is too big, there will be psychological and physical differences, which may not be found in the short term, but there may be a gap after a long time, so as a party, we should be fully psychologically prepared, especially for the younger party. "Some people like long-term marriage, but some people just like it, no matter how long it takes, it varies from person to person." When talking about whether women like to marry men older than themselves because of the consideration of "interests", Professor Zhu thinks this statement is not completely correct. "Because you like money, there is no need to find someone who is too old. There are also many middle-aged successful people in society! " Finally, Professor Zhu emphasized that the society should give more understanding to the phenomenon that the old couple have fewer wives, instead of blaming and jealous.