Men's style: The cover room is filled with music and books, and it is a joy to know the intersection of hearts; the bed couplet is used to express joy in the wind and rain. Therefore, sitting on the ground with Jingjing, it is appropriate to vomit from the heart and intestines, attacking the jade from other mountains, and the sound and air are connected. Every time I watch the orderly flight of geese, there is always light attached to the tail. So-and-so opened the inkstone to the north, candlelight and cut the window to the west, or wrote vertically and horizontally, or explored the mysteries. Young people shake hands, Lei Chen's high friendship and respect; White water's heart, Guan Bao's fragrant dust is suitable for steps. When the clouds stop and the moon falls, we are not happy with our alliance across the rivers and mountains. The old rain and the spring breeze have strengthened our ambitions through the years. Don't be arrogant because of fame and fortune, don't be arrogant because of talent and virtue. The golden orchid is a sworn brotherhood. Today, the gods swear to each other and the bamboo forest shines brightly. I hope they will be closely related in the future. Preface. Women's style: Hearing poems and cutting trees is enough to solicit friends' gratitude; Yibu cuts off gold, which early shows the deep love of close friends. Therefore, the embroidered door in the boudoir can communicate with each other, and the beetles in the chicken window can also observe and understand each other. They are in love with Zhiyi, they have Lanjiao, they are the best alliance, and they are orderly like Yanmen. So-and-so waits for the moon in front of the wind, with the door closed in the flowers, or sings xu and recites poems, then he praises his husband and Tao Yun; or compiles books and writes history, his skills are better than Ban Zhao's. The copper bowl is beating, and the words are late at night; the jade cup is facing the shadow, inviting the light of the bright moon. The strong air, wind and frost, should not imitate the frivolity of peach blossoms; the wind and rain on the bed should reflect the steadfastness of pines and cypresses. Don't be superior to others based on their talents, don't be proud of others because of their appearance, don't be suspicious because of their sparse appearance, don't be confused by their different reputations, and don't often complain about them. Several gardenias have the same heart, and nine orchids have made a covenant. They swear to the gods forever and wish to be together. Preface. Note: Jinlan: refers to a strong and harmonious friendship, originating from the "Book of Changes·Xici" "When two people are of the same mind, their sharpness can break the metal; if they speak the same mind, their smell (Xiù, the meaning of smell) is like orchid." Later it was used as a pronoun for sworn brothers and sisters. Sworn worship (hereinafter referred to as sworn brotherhood), commonly known as sworn brotherhood, exchange of posts, etc., is a form of brotherly relationship between people of the same age among the people. It originates from the "Three Bonds of Peach Garden" in the Three Kingdoms era, the story of Liu Bei, Guan Yu, and Zhang Fei becoming brothers in life and death. Later, people worshiped and then imitated it, that is, people with similar interests, personalities, etc., who are compatible with each other, formed a brotherly relationship through a certain form, cared about, supported and helped each other in life, and took care of each other in times of trouble. Over time, it evolved into a humanistic etiquette custom. This is the sublimation of friendship and a freeze-frame of social relations. It runs through the Confucian thought of "righteousness" and fills the gap between family affection and friendship. It is a special social interpersonal relationship. There are standardized etiquette procedures for sworn friendship, that is, based on voluntariness, through negotiation and agreement, an auspicious day is chosen, and in a place that everyone thinks is more suitable, such as an ancestral hall, statues of gods such as Guan Gong are hung on the top, and three animal sacrifices, namely pork, are placed on the bottom. , fish, eggs (according to the number of people, one for each person), as well as a live chicken (men are sworn as roosters, and women are sworn as hens), a bowl of red wine and "Golden Orchid Pu" (also known as making an oath, the content is attached ). Each person has a copy of the "Golden Orchid Pu", and their names are written in order of age and their fingerprints are pressed. After the ceremony begins, each person takes a stick of incense and a "golden orchid spectrum". Then, kill the chicken, drop the chicken blood into the red wine, prick the middle finger of each person's left hand (the woman's right hand) with a needle tip, drop the blood into the red wine, mix well, first sprinkle three drops on the ground, and finally use the age as the As a preface, each person takes a sip and puts the rest in front of the statue of Guan Gong. This form is also called "blood-based alliance" in some cases. The number of sworn couples is not limited, but it must be an odd number. People of the same age and same sex are sworn in, and men are called brothers, and women are called sisters. It usually takes place during adolescence. Most people have like-minded interests, share the same illness, or have different needs. There were many sworn customs in the old society: no sworn sworn vows were made to those who were relatives; no sworn sworn vows were made to those who were in-laws; no sworn vows were made to those with generational differences; no sworn sworn vows were made to those with inconsistent horoscopes; no sworn sworn vows were made to those who broke clan rules (in the past, such as feuding with other clans within the clan) , a clan rule that stipulates that one will not marry, marry, etc. with a certain clan); those who fail to pass the oath ceremony will not be considered a formal sworn sworn brother, etc. With the progress of society and the improvement of civilization, people believe that as long as they get along well with each other, there is no need to stick to a certain form. Of course, in reality, there are still some young people who swore sworn vows, but they are relatively indifferent to the old etiquette. The rituals are generally simple and mostly based on oral oaths. For more solemn ones, the oaths are made according to etiquette and customs in front of the Guan Gong statue, the "ancestral temple" or other gods. Young people who want to become allies generally need to obtain the consent of the parents of both parties before making a sworn alliance, because the elders have more experience and are more cautious. After the sworn sworn ceremony, those who participated in the sworn sworn ceremony were called brothers. Some added the words "Qi", "Lan", "Yi", etc. before the title, and some were also commonly called boss, second brother, third brother... which means life and death. **, we share the blessings and share the hardships. Whenever there are weddings, funerals, New Years and festivals, etc., all interactions are based on brotherly relations.