As for love, Shen Congwen once said: "I have walked on bridges in many places, seen clouds many times, and drank many kinds of wine, but I have only loved one person at his best age." . "This is a love letter written by Shen Congwen to the person he likes, Zhang Zhaohe. The love at that time can be written down, using pen and ink to convey the feelings. It is very sincere. At the best age, when I am most powerless, I meet the person I want to take care of the most.
I have walked on bridges in many places, seen clouds many times, and drank many kinds of wine, but I have only loved one person at his best age. ”
Shen Congwen was a literary leader of his time. Although he had not read many books, he was talented and wrote many excellent poems. Moreover, his love story with Zhang Zhaohe has been widely circulated and very romantic. The place where Shen Congwen and Zhang Zhaohe met is very interesting. When Shen Congwen first met Zhang Zhaohe, she was only 18 years old. She was in her prime, the best years of her life. It is said that Zhang Zhaohe's skin was a bit dark, but she was very beautiful, so she There is a nickname called "Black Peony". Zhang Zhaohe has a boy-like personality. Although he comes from a famous family, he is like a boy and has a carefree personality. At that time, Zhang Zhaohe was Shen Congwen's student. Once, Shen Congwen saw Zhang Zhaohe, whistling as he walked, was in high spirits. When he reached the end of the playground, he tossed his hair in a dashing way, turned around and walked back, still playing the harmonica while walking, with neat movements and high spirits, which made people's hearts beat.
I am stubbornly in love with you.
After seeing this, Shen Congwen felt that this woman was really interesting. It was this side that left a deep impression on him. From then on, he was out of control. Shen Congwen liked energetic women. Obviously, Zhang Zhaohe just matched the characteristics in her mind. So, after that meeting, Shen Congwen launched a fanatical pursuit and began to write love letters to Zhang Zhaohe. As a teacher, he pursued his student Zhang Zhaohe. Don't underestimate Zhang Zhaohe. Even at that time, she was dark and thin, but she had many suitors. Many boys wrote love letters to her, and Shen Congwen was one of them. Faced with Shen Congwen's love offensive, Zhang Zhaohe did not appreciate it and was even disgusted. In love, the one who pays more will inevitably appear too humble. In front of Zhang Zhaohe, Shen Congwen is too emotional, while Zhang Zhaohe, a lady from a well-known family, is very rational. Faced with Shen Congwen's pursuit, Zhang Zhaohe is not tempted at all, and Hu Shi complained to the principal of the school at the time, saying that Shen Congwen always wrote her love letters and delayed her studies. However, Hu Shi told Zhang Zhaohe, "Congwen stubbornly loves you," and Zhang Zhaohe replied, "She stubbornly doesn't love Shen Congwen." Hu Shi felt helpless. He originally wanted to be a peacemaker, but found that this female student had such a strong personality, so he had to write back to Shen Congwen, urging him to give up. He said, "This woman doesn't like him" and didn't understand him. Use affection to ask him to stop being persistent. After Shen Congwen read the letter, he did not give up the idea of ??pursuing Zhang Zhaohe. Instead, he became more and more frustrated. Not only did he not give up, but he continued to write love letters and never stopped. In the letter, Shen Congwen also told Zhang Zhaohe not to waste his studies because of his pursuit. After Zhang Zhaohe read the letter, he felt dumbfounded. Wasn't the person who influenced her and neglected her studies none other than himself? It was embarrassing to say it.
Huang Tian pays off, and efforts will yield results.
The emperor paid off. Shen Congwen persisted for a long time. Just when he was almost in despair, Zhang Zhaohe's closed heart finally slowly opened. Zhang Zhaohe felt that after rejecting Shen Congwen for so long, Shen Congwen still did it for him. Thinking about it, it was rare and cute, so things took a turn for the better. Once, Shen Congwen went to see Zhang Zhaohe. The Zhang family was very kind to Shen Congwen. Zhang Zhaohe's younger brothers particularly liked him because he could tell stories and was very humorous. Later, with the efforts of his family, Zhang Zhaohe finally accepted the offer. Zhang Zhaohe married Shen Congwen because Shen Congwen's letters were so well written. After Shen Congwen's four years of hard work and despite many rejections, Zhang Zhaohe married Shen Congwen.
After marriage, the two of them also spent a period of sweet time. When they were not together, they would also exchange letters, which was very romantic, but life is always romantic, and it is more about thinking. Some practical issues, due to different interests and hobbies, the two people gradually began to have conflicts. Shen Congwen liked to collect antiques and cultural relics. Zhang Zhaohe thought, what does he know? He just pretends to be fat. Shen Congwen likes to make friends. When friends are in trouble, Help, Zhang Zhaohe felt that he was not very rich. In short, no matter what Shen Congwen did, Zhang Zhaohe always liked to go against him and sing the opposite. Zhang Zhaohe was more concerned about the financial situation of his family and worried about life.
I hope you are not only my wife, but also my confidant and best friend.
When Zhang Zhaohe accused Shen Congwen of issues such as firewood, rice, oil and salt, Shen Congwen complained that Zhang Zhaohe did not love him enough and did not understand him. However, Zhang Zhaohe forgot that Shen Congwen was a literary scholar. He not only needed a wife, but also In need of a person who can generate spiritual resonance, Shen Congwen, who was lost in marriage, once looked for spiritual sustenance outside the marriage. Later, Shen Congwen met a literary young woman named Gaoqingzi, Gaoqingzi. , the person is very beautiful, and the most important thing is to admire Shen Congwen. Shen Congwen was obsessed with him for a time. After all, paper can't cover the fire. Shen Congwen felt very painful for his spiritual derailment. Zhang Zhaohe began to save his marriage and even helped his high-definition son. , introduced the partner, and finally saved the marriage.
Even if I argue with you, you are still the one who can’t let go.
Later, the relationship between Shen Congwen and Zhang Zhaohe has always been very bad. The two separated for a time, and it seemed that they planned to live forever without contact. Even so, Shen Congwen in his later years still insisted on writing love letters to Zhang Zhaohe. In his letter He wrote: He said that he was dispensable and did not need to reply to himself. From the time he was young until now, it has always been his own wishful thinking. Unexpectedly, Zhang Zhaohe actually replied to Shen Congwen. Shen Congwen was very happy. After seeing Zhang Zhaohe, he took out a crumpled letter from his bulging pocket and said to Zhang Zhaohe as if crying or laughing: This is The first letter you wrote to me in your later years was immediately followed by tears. At that time, Shen Congwen was almost seventy years old, but he cried like a child. Excited and happy.
On the road to marriage, there are many difficulties, but fortunately, I did not give up. Even though we are old, we are still together.
In fact, Shen Congwen was moved. Their marriage was not easy along the way. Shen Congwen paid too much, so much that he felt that he was sinking into the dust, and his wife once did not Understand yourself, only he understands the sadness in it. In their later years, they reconciled, and they all said that it was easy to reconcile the broken jade, but it was as difficult as before because there were traces. However, Zhang Zhaohe, after Shen Congwen's death, sorted out Shen Congwen's When I was writing the manuscript, I understood Shen Congwen's heart and regretted it endlessly. I felt why I couldn't understand Congwen when he was alive. It was too late. Zhang Zhaohe loved him, but it was a late love.
In marriage, persistence will usher in the dawn of victory.
Looking back on the love between Shen Congwen and Zhang Zhaohe, Shen Congwen was able to work hard and persevere for love, and finally had a good ending. Even though he encountered many difficulties, hesitated and wavered on the road to marriage, he still In the end, they all survived. They say that resistance to fate is like an egg hitting a stone. Reality is like a cold stone. We are like eggs that are overestimated. If the egg hits the stone, it will definitely break. But, why not boil the egg? If you bump into it again, even if there are a few cracks, it will not break. This is also a way to save yourself and save your marriage. Faced with marriage and life, I hope that no matter what you go through, you will never give up. Love life and move forward courageously.