Ruan Ji is a very famous historical figure, so there are many stories about Ruan Ji circulated in history, including stories about Ruan Ji getting drunk and avoiding relatives, allusions about blue and white eyes, and other stories about Ruan Ji's contempt for secular etiquette. story, and the well-known story of Ruan Ji losing his mother.
The story of Ruan Ji being drunk and avoiding relatives comes from the history book "Book of Jin". The main content of the story is as follows: Ruan Ji, as a famous wise man in the Wei and Jin Dynasties, will definitely have many powerful people. People want to recruit him for their own use. In order to win over Ruan Ji, the powerful Sima Zhao came up with a way to marry Ruan Ji. Ruan Ji was not willing to work under Sima Zhao, so in order to avoid Sima Zhao's marriage, he began to drink hard every day. He would get drunk every day, and he was very drunk, and sometimes he would even lose consciousness. extent. In this way, after drinking and drinking, he continued to drink for sixty days. The man who came to propose marriage on Sima Zhao's order was unable to mention the proposal to Ruan Ji. In the end, he had no choice but to go back and propose marriage. Report the situation to Sima Zhao. In this regard, Sima Zhao had no choice but to give up the idea of ????taking advantage of the marriage to win over Ruan Ji.
Ruan Ji's disgust and contempt for etiquette and etiquette are very famous in history, and there are many related stories. For example, Ruan Ji likes drinking very much. The hotel is located next to his house. The wife of the hotel owner is a young and beautiful woman. Ruan Ji often went to the hotel to drink with Wang Rong. After getting drunk, he would lie down and sleep next to the hostess. Unexpectedly, the male owner of the hotel did not think that he would do anything inappropriate. During that period, it was expected that men and women should not be intimate, but Ruan Ji ignored this secular norm.
Ruan Ji lost his mother
The story of Ruan Ji losing his mother is quite famous in history. Especially when the news of his mother’s death came, Ruan Ji insisted on giving birth. After the game of chess and the behavior of drinking and eating meat during the mourning period after his mother's death, the world is quite controversial. Some people think that this is an unfilial behavior. According to secular etiquette, you are not allowed to drink and eat meat during the funeral of your parents. Ruan Ji's behavior should be Although he was criticized, some people believed that Ruan Ji was not unfilial, but that these behaviors were a manifestation of his true temperament.
The story of Ruan Ji’s mother’s death is roughly as follows: When Ruan Ji’s mother passed away, someone told Ruan Ji the news. At that time, Ruan Ji was playing Go with others. When he heard that his mother had passed away, After the news, his face turned pale and he continued to play chess. The person he was playing chess with wanted to stop the game after hearing the news of his mother's death. However, Ruan Ji disagreed and insisted on deciding the winner. After playing chess, Ruan Ji suddenly burst into tears and even vomited several liters of blood after taking a few sips of wine.
During the funeral of his parents, according to the provisions of secular etiquette, he should not drink alcohol and eat meat, but Ruan Ji drank alcohol and eaten meat during his mother's funeral. When his mother was buried, after drinking two measures of wine He just went to say goodbye to his mother's body. He burst into tears because of the grief and even vomited blood.
After Ruan Ji's mother passed away, Pei Kai went to Ruan Ji's house to mourn and saw his face. Ruan Ji, who was a little drunk and very haggard, did not go up to say hello, but went into the mourning hall to cry and offer sacrifices. When he left, Pei Kai still did not say hello. Later, someone asked Pei Kai, "Usually, the mourners start to cry and worship after the host starts crying. But the host Ruan Ji didn't cry at that time, so why should he cry?" In this regard, Pei Kai replied: "Ruan Ji hates secular etiquette, but I don't hate those, so I still have to abide by those etiquette."
In general, judging from the story of Ruan Ji's mother's death, although Ruan Ji behaved a bit weird, But he is not an unfilial person. On the contrary, he has been dependent on his mother since he was a child. He loves and loves her filial mother very much. Those seemingly unethical behaviors are actually just manifestations of his true temperament.
Ruan Ji cried three times
It is said that Ruan Ji cried three times in his life, not just like ordinary people. Ruan Ji cried three times, one for his mother and the other for his daughter, The third is a dead end. Rumor has it that Ruan Ji's three cries had the effect of the legendary magical power of beating an ox across a mountain. In addition to the different cries from ordinary people, Ruan Ji's three cries also contained a certain meaning, expressing his dissatisfaction and despair against the political darkness at that time.
The reason why Ruan Ji cried was the death of his mother. Ruan Ji lost his father when he was very young. His mother raised him alone, so he respected and loved his mother very much. When Ruan Ji's mother passed away, Ruan Ji was playing Go with others. When the news of his mother's death came, his opponent asked to stop, but Ruan Ji refused to stop with a livid face. He must decide the outcome. After the chess game, Ruan Ji burst into tears after drinking two buckets of wine and vomited several liters of blood. When his mother was buried, Ruan Ji drank wine and ate meat before saying goodbye to his mother's body, crying and vomiting blood. Although some of Ruan Ji's actions were somewhat unethical, his deep love for his mother could be seen from his crying and vomiting blood. At the same time, he also thought about the fact that his ideals could not be realized and his talents could not be used due to his mother's death. The state of life makes it even more sad.
The second time Ruan Ji cried was for the daughter of a military strategist. The daughter of a military strategist was both talented and beautiful, but she died before she got married.
Ruan Ji thought of himself from the situation of the military strategist's daughter. He had extremely high talents and knowledge, but could not put them to use and could not realize his ambitions. He could only let time fly by and spend his life in vain.
The third time Ruan Ji cried happened when he was driving a carriage around. No matter how rough the road was, Ruan Ji kept driving until he reached the end of the road. Suddenly he burst into tears and cried out. , then turned the car around and walked another way, but then reached the end and cried again. While crying this time, Ruan Ji thought of his close friend who was at the end of his rope, and couldn't help but feel sad.
Evaluation of Ruan Ji
Ruan Ji was a very popular figure in the Wei and Jin Dynasties. He was talented and ambitious, but he was cautious and knew how to adapt to changes. He was extremely filial and individual at the same time. Uninhibited, acting spontaneously, not bound by etiquette and the like. In summary, Ruan Ji is a true-tempered person.
Ruan Ji, together with six other people, is revered as the Seven Sages of the Bamboo Grove by the world. From this, it can be seen that Ruan Ji himself is very talented, not to mention his excellent poems and essays that are praised by the world. Ruan Ji's father is Ruan Yu, a famous writer and worldly person. Therefore, Ruan Ji was influenced by his family's studies and made great achievements in literature. He is also a representative figure of "Zhengshi Zhiyin". His "Yong Huai" is not only It promoted the development of five-character poetry and became a representative work of poetry of that period.
Although Ruan Ji has great ambitions, he is cautious and knows how to assess the situation. During the Wei and Jin Dynasties, the two major families of Cao Wei and Sima were in constant conflict. As a very famous sage at the time, Ruan Ji was attracted by people from both sides. Being between the two families, Ruan Ji was more cautious in his words and actions. After all, he was in a situation where In such troubled times, only those who can hide themselves can survive smoothly.
Ruan Ji was quite disdainful of etiquette and the like, and was quite willful and unruly in his behavior. At that time, although Sima Zhao was not the emperor of the Jin Dynasty, his status and power were comparable to that of the emperor. Therefore, others were forced by Sima Zhao's influence and were very respectful in front of Sima Zhao. They even sat upright at the banquet and did not dare to relax. , only Ruan Jizi was drinking and singing at the banquet, and he was happy and carefree. He seemed not to take Sima Zhao seriously, which shows his unruly personality.
In general, Ruan Ji knows how to survive as a human being. Although there are some weirdness in his behavior, it can be said to be a manifestation of his true temperament.