March spring comes, and your birthday is here again. First of all, congratulations on your "great achievement" in the past year: your height has increased by more than ten centimeters. 13 years old, you are now over 170cm and weigh more than 80 kg. From the outside, you seem to have grown up, but you were still a child when you started talking. Your study is good, too. You got the second grade, although our material incentives are not worth promoting.
In the past year, you grew up too fast, which made me encounter many challenges and made me really feel the difficulty of being a mother. Because of you, it almost affected my mother's confidence in herself.
Once upon a time, you were a very sensible child and knew what to say to make your mother happy, so that she always thought you were a person with high emotional intelligence. But in just one year, your expression has changed dramatically, and you will "talk endlessly" and joke with us: "It is your duty to support me. If you don't raise me, I can go to the police station to sue you! " When your mother asks you to wash the dishes, you will say, "On the surface, you want me to form a work habit, but in fact, you are lazy." So that one day you sighed and said, "Fortunately, I came to this world, but unfortunately, you gave birth to me." When your mother says she is not happy to hear that, you will protest loudly: "Humor, do you know what humor is?" Dear children, true humor is often used to laugh at yourself and make people around you laugh easily, not to hurt people.
Once, I was so confident that I must be your idol: you showed off your mother in front of the children more than once, and you thought her mother was really great, regardless of appearance, knowledge and income. However, at the age of 13, the door of the online world is open to you, and you have met more and more new people: TFboy, a teenager who became popular, Wang Sicong, a rich second generation born with a golden spoon, and the game anchor with more than 20 million fans at the age of 18 ... I understand that they have replaced the sacred position of parents in your heart and become new ones in your life. The look in your eyes that once worshipped your mother disappeared: "Mom, you worked hard for a month and only earned five figures. Look at this game anchor who is only 18 years old. Change the platform and send more than 10 million red envelopes directly to his fans. People are successful people and you are ordinary people. "
Although I have never denied that I am an ordinary person, my dear son still makes me feel a little lost and hurt.
Son, you are so clever. You always know how to get what you want. When you want a new mobile phone, you will try your best to say how many problems, how many cards and how slow your old mobile phone is. When you want to spend your living expenses freely, don't eat in school or lunch department, so your parents will have to make you pay for breakfast and lunch. When we had breakfast together, I said that a breakfast was so expensive, and you would lose no time to say that we didn't have enough money for you to eat, and it had to go up. When we don't easily agree to some of your requirements and your wishes can't be realized, you will talk in my ear again and again until my heart is loose, and then conquer my father's heart. You will remember every promise we made to you more clearly: what grades you get in the exam, the lucky money is entirely at your disposal, and when we can travel abroad. So now I promise you, you must be very careful in everything, because you are smarter than your mother. When you were young, you were several times stronger than me in both physical strength and energy. And many things are beyond my ability and principles.
It is no exaggeration to say that there are so many times when you make me nervous. I feel that I have no ability to discipline you in adolescence, and I have thought about giving up. But I still think we should try our best to educate you correctly. I read a lot of books and want to find a suitable way to discipline you. You have lived with your parents since you were seven years old. We want you to develop good living habits, work and rest on time, wash clothes on time, and put dirty clothes in the washing machine instead of littering. When I really can't stand your confusion and go to clean your room for a while, I know your laziness has won again. A few times, I just lifted your messy bed, then resisted the urge to clean it up and slammed your door. You know, not only did I lift your bed, but I was also angry. I closed not only your door, but also my frustration.
Six years later, although your dirty socks will still be on the floor occasionally, you already know that mom only washes clothes in the washing machine, so your dirty clothes must be put away. Mother should consciously wash the dishes when cooking, and take away the garbage collected at the door when she goes downstairs. I should say, son, you have made great progress. Although mother was accused of laziness, her hard work was not in vain.
Over the past year, we have had constant friction. When my mother gets angry, she can't help but blurt out: "During the holiday, you lie on the sofa playing games, watching TV and waiting for the next meal every day after dinner, which is different from a pig." "You delay again. You won't do your homework until the last minute. According to this model, you will be an ordinary person than me in the future! " You will retort rudely: "If I am an ordinary person in the future, you will curse me."
I know how many beautiful fantasies you have about the future, as if these fantasies will come true automatically with your age. You even said regretfully, "Even if you are admitted to Tsinghua and become the supreme leader of the country, you will have to wait until you are sixty or seventy years old, alas!" Your heart is so big that it really worries me a little. I'm worried that ordinary adulthood will come to you, and you won't be able to stand it.
Dear teenager, my mother can tell you for sure that most people in this world are ordinary people, so you have the greatest chance to become ordinary people. If we have no plans for the future and no requirements for ourselves, we can't even be a happy ordinary person. We may just be a mediocre person. If you are not self-disciplined, you will find that after 20 years, you will still be sitting on the sofa playing games in your spare time, watching boring TV dramas during the holidays and waiting for the next meal. You will still finish the work you depend on for a living at the last minute. The woman who just nagged or growled changed from your mother to your wife. And your wife is likely to say rudely, "I am not your mother, and there is no reason to do anything for your life."
Dear son, forgive me for limiting your pocket money and living expenses for a year. You will surely blame your mother for making such a fuss. Because mom wants you to learn to use money reasonably and learn to make a budget as soon as possible. Instead of endlessly ordering takeout to buy snacks with money in hand, even pretending to have money in front of classmates and living a life that does not meet our economic conditions, this is not a pride, but a shame.
Mother doesn't want to be a nagging mother, so she uses words instead of words. May my son get better and better!
March 2, 2065 438+08
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