Get out of the misunderstanding:
Parental taboo: cynicism to children, saying some radical language; Reprimand the child with a rude attitude, only prohibit not guiding and limit the child's communication activities and scope; Corporal punishment and suppression of children; Parents should not neglect and indulge their children's puppy love, let alone support them. In that case, it will harm the child.
How to correctly educate puppy love children, respect, care and understand children, and strengthen emotional communication?
Parents should first respect their children's personality and feelings, and respect their children's reasonable demands in life, which is the premise of gaining their respect and trust. While respecting children, we should pay more attention to them. It is necessary to help them find out the reasons for their mistakes in learning, sum up lessons and patiently do a good job in counseling. In addition, parents should understand a series of physiological and psychological changes of children, especially adolescence, and various phenomena and problems arising from them. Only when parents appear in an equal, sincere and trusting manner can children open their hearts and easily find the crux of the problem. Real education is not oral preaching, but mutual contact and communication between people.
2. Help children to raise awareness and face up to puppy love.
Do you really want to help puppy love children? Changed your mind? Parents can instill some correct views into their children who are not deeply involved in the world, and recommend some books on adolescent cultivation to their children, such as? Middle school students' psychology and health reader? And so on, let children understand that love is not a simple attraction to the opposite sex, it contains noble sentiments and a full spiritual life, so as to calmly analyze the existing relationship. If you are attracted by each other's advantages and strengths, you should turn this beautiful emotion into a driving force to promote your progress. If you are attracted by each other's beautiful appearance or superior family, it means that this feeling is superficial. At the same time, it can also make children realize that teenagers have strong plasticity, and changes in personal ideals, interests and hobbies will cause changes and development of love, and the success rate of puppy love is extremely low. Therefore, we should focus on pursuing lofty ideals and realizing the value of life, instead of falling in love too early, wasting energy and killing time.
3, timely contact with the teacher, * * * with children to participate in various activities, transfer emotions.
Teenagers are aggressive and have a wide range of hobbies and interests in cultural and sports activities, scientific and technological activities and various competitions. Parents and teachers encourage children in puppy love to actively participate in various activities, enrich his or her spiritual life, and shift their interest, attention and energy to activities, competition, curiosity, intellectual development, physical fitness and pursuit of lofty spiritual life. Actively participating in various activities can cultivate children's strong interest and noble taste in science and technology, literature and art, sports, etc. On the other hand, we can make use of the healthy and relaxed communication environment between men and women in activities to carry out normal emotional communication in collective activities, increase children's understanding of multiple opposite sexes, gradually cultivate a correct attitude and pure relationship with the opposite sex, grasp the proportion of communication with the opposite sex, and exercise the ability of rational analysis and calm control of emotions.
4. Optimize the family environment
Parents have an unshirkable responsibility to educate and guide the phenomenon of juvenile puppy love. On the one hand, parents should control their excessive intimacy in front of their children and talk about men and women consciously or unconsciously; On the other hand, we should make use of the special advantages of family education in morality, family responsibility and social obligation. Let children realize the confusion, inadaptability and difficulties that people may bring because of puppy love before they mature physically, psychologically and ideologically, and let the blind and naive eyes of the opposite sex in teenagers' minds add real elements to make them mature gradually, so that puppy love will also appear. For students with special family background, parents should pay more attention to their children, make them feel that the family is the warmest place and their own shelter from the wind, so as to reduce their chances of getting love from the opposite sex.
5. Encourage children to face the reality bravely and solve problems.
Parents may have done a lot in the face of puppy love, but these are external factors. To help children really solve the problem of puppy love, parents also need to trust their children and encourage them to face and solve problems. While doing well in the above aspects, parents should also leave enough time and space for their children to think, face and solve, so as to change their internal causes, which plays a vital role in solving the problem of puppy love.
How to correctly educate puppy love children? 1. Understand.
Correct attitude is the key to solve the phenomenon of puppy love. Educator Bubel said? When the educator wins the trust of the students, the students' aversion to receiving education will be overcome and give way to a strange situation: he regards the educator as a close person. ? Therefore, teachers should first establish a trustworthy image in students' minds, and the key to education is to correct educators' own attitude towards students' puppy love. The yearning for the opposite sex is a normal physiological reaction and sexual psychological phenomenon in adolescence, and it is a beautiful and precious content in people's emotional world. Teachers should treat students' emotional problems objectively and calmly. Don't make a fuss about the communication between boys and girls, don't treat puppy love as? A heinous crime? Got a good beating. We should be patient and tolerant. Only in this way can we close the distance with students and improve the ability of middle school students to understand and grasp emotions, which is the fundamental way to solve the problem of puppy love.
Second, be tolerant.
Adoption? One of our own? Strategy. Communicate with students more, especially girls, whose emotions are delicate and sensitive, rich and fragile, and their psychology is subtle and complicated. Therefore, in psychological counseling, teachers should not only have rich knowledge of psychology, physiology and legal system, but also have sincere love, respect and understand students, sympathize with their misfortunes, treat students as their own, not the objects of discipline, and always pay attention to them? One-on-one effect The application of this method can make students feel that the teacher is their own caring person, help them solve their difficulties, make students really like you, eliminate students' wariness towards the teacher, and narrow the psychological distance between teachers and students, thus making students willing to accept the teacher's views and attitudes and improving the effect of psychological counseling. American social psychologists David and Libitz once conducted a survey to understand the role of parents in intervening in men's and women's love. They were surprised to find that the higher the degree of parental intervention, the stronger the love between men and women. They named this phenomenon? Romeo and Juliet effect? . This? Effect? It is not only reflected in the influence of parents' interference on children's love attitude, but also in the negative influence of educators' rude behavior on students' puppy love and other behaviors. Therefore, from the perspective of pedagogy and psychology, in addition to ideological education, we should educate them to establish lofty ideals and beliefs and cultivate correct outlook on life, values, aesthetics and morality, and also strengthen psychological counseling, carry out mental health education and enhance students' self-control ability. To prevent middle school students from puppy love, we should also strengthen emotional education and guide middle school students to understand: what is love? What is the true meaning of love? Why middle school students are not suitable for dating? What should I do if I am pursued? How to associate with the opposite sex? Wait, help them establish a correct view of love and making friends. Keep a secret from those students who are discovered by me and are afraid of being embarrassed by other students and teachers.
Third, the bridge of communication.
Talking in the diary allows students to express their psychological confusion in time, which can suit the remedy to the case and prevent delay.
Fourth, the strategy of setting an example.
Can you use it? Example education? And then what? Self-education strategy. Many class teachers feel that a good class group is a huge educational force and plays an important role in students' psychological development. Many experienced middle school class teachers attach importance to the power of example in the practice of maintaining a good collective atmosphere, and insist on setting up advanced models around them as the intervention point of class collective construction, so that students can learn from them. When dealing with the phenomenon of puppy love among middle school students, the class teacher can also play the role of example education. By setting an example and learning advanced, let girls know what is the beauty and pursuit of middle school students, so as to purify their hearts and master the discretion of getting along with students of the opposite sex and not turn friendship of the opposite sex into love. Suhomlinski said? Real education can only be realized when students have the requirements of self-education? ,? Only by promoting students' self-education is real education? . When dealing with puppy love, we should fully guide and mobilize students' subjective initiative. Introspection? 、? Prudent and independent? 、? Retrograde? Consciously accept positive and scientific views on love, friendship and morality, and overcome negative and wrong thoughts and behaviors.
Fifth, skillfully cooperate with family education.
The tendency of children's puppy love is a sensitive topic for parents. In order to achieve the ideal educational effect, parents must cooperate. How to achieve a good educational effect without expanding the problem, the class teacher should adopt correct and ingenious strategies, such as letting parents often communicate with their children the meaning and methods of making friends, paying attention to their children's changes at ordinary times, teaching their children to do some housework at weekends, letting them know the meaning of family life and enhancing their sense of family responsibility; Parents are also required to tell their children about the relationship between love, marriage and family with their own personal experiences, so that children can realize the influence of puppy love on life and help them establish correct values.
How to correctly educate puppy love children, strengthen adolescent education and cultivate students' healthy psychology;
The educational content of adolescence should include three aspects: sexual physiology, sexual psychology and sexual morality. Timely, moderate and appropriate adolescent education can not only enable students to correctly understand their own physiological changes, but also enable students to form healthy psychological quality and good moral cultivation, and know how to take care of themselves, care for themselves, love themselves, respect themselves and strengthen themselves. Only when they acquire scientific sexual knowledge can they dispel their mystery about sex and effectively resist what they may be interested in from abnormal channels? Pseudoscience? , to overcome abnormal knowledge. Only in this way can we effectively prevent it? Puppy love? 、? Sexual crimes? Wait for questions.
Strengthen ideal education and carry out various activities:
Students with ideals and enterprising spirit tend to concentrate on their studies and will not show excessive enthusiasm for the opposite sex. Under the control of strong reason, it usually doesn't happen? Puppy love? Yes Middle school students can only form a sound self-awareness and personality in normal communication (including heterosexual communication) and group activities, so we are not opposed to the communication and pure friendship between boys and girls. It is worth noting that students who are withdrawn tend to have morbid psychology instead of seeing the opposite sex. Shame? The thing is to have a proud heart for the opposite sex. Similarly, a student who is tired of group activities is often a manifestation of bad psychology. To this end, we guide them to have normal heterosexual communication, overcome psychological barriers and form a healthy psychology; Actively organize group activities, so that you can improve your personality in group activities. We can also cultivate students' various interests and hobbies by carrying out colorful extracurricular activities, so that their energy can be reflected in activities and their emotions can be sublimated in hobbies.
Pay attention to persuasion methods and improve education level;
Treat? Puppy love? From the perspective of understanding, caring and helping students, according to their different psychological characteristics, we can find a breakthrough in education, make the best use of the situation and adopt the best method to get twice the result with half the effort. Sometimes, an apt metaphor and a few thoughtful words will play a special role. A few years ago, two class cadres appeared in the liberal arts class taught by the author. Puppy love? Phenomenon, affecting learning. In view of their love for poetry, I was inspired by a teacher and quietly called them to the office one day after school. Small talk? Give them a poem by Wang Guozhen (the favorite pop poet of middle school students at that time): Untitled? He and she/just walked together/became a composition topic/what the classmates did first/what the teacher did later/what the parents did last/three more articles in the world/one less beautiful woman in the world. ? A few days later, they all said in their weekly diary that we should correctly distinguish friendship from love and strike while the iron is hot. I had a long talk with them that day, moved by emotion, and reasoned with them, and finally got them out? Puppy love? Misunderstanding. This poem is the key to the soul.