Husband and wife, men in their fifties, are at ease. They don't look like farmers, but more like a rural primary school principal. A woman in her early thirties, Sister Chuan. The couple's life is to keep bees and collect honey, and go wherever there are flowers.
Beekeepers love each other very much.
Asked how they met, he said they met bees in Xinfan, and she said the rice in the north was delicious, so she followed.
Is it that simple? Maybe he took a fancy to his good temper and liked such a quiet and peaceful character; I like this funny life of running around.
Men are really good to women. When the woman came home, he asked her to bring 2000 yuan, and she bought many gifts to give away, so she returned to Xinfan beautifully.
This article was written in 1990. At that time, a beekeeper took out 2000 yuan to let the woman go home and have a good time. This person is really willing. In this will, he knows more.
Because of love, I know.
Women are good to men. The woman said that her husband was kind to her and she was considerate to her husband. She feels that there is nothing wrong with her choice, and she is very satisfied and has no regrets.
Because they are satisfied and have no regrets, in their married life, two people will reduce many contradictions and live more harmoniously.
A "satisfaction" and a "no regret" are women's greatest wealth and happiness in marriage.
Women know how to love themselves.
The woman cut green garlic on the chopping board and the pot boiled. She put a handful of dried noodles in the pot, but before long, the dried noodles were cooked. She fished the noodles in a bowl, added seasoning, sprinkled green garlic, and scooped half a spoonful of watercress in the bowl, one for each person. She eats watercress.
Sichuan girls love to eat spicy food since childhood, and their personality is also more pungent. She cooks noodles and divides them into two bowls. She likes watercress, so she adds it to the bowl.
She didn't directly add watercress to her noodles because men didn't like it, and she didn't eat it herself, nor because she loved it. But one person, one bowl, one bowl plus, one bowl without.
Take care of each other and don't wronged yourself.
This wisdom, in reality, is beyond the reach of many women, including myself.
When a woman really falls in love with someone, she will be like a moth to the fire, even if she wronged herself, sacrificing herself to please each other, or for family harmony and the overall situation.
This kind of sacrifice is as small as buying the other person's favorite dishes, as big as watching movies and choosing the theme that men like to watch, and as big as living a husband-and-wife life in a way that men like, whether they want children or not, they also have to listen to men, and they all need men's permission to dress up and meet people.
Two bowls of noodles, one person and a half spoonfuls of douban, eat by yourself to see the independence and wisdom of women in marriage.
Women are sober in marriage.
The woman then went to the beekeeper's eldest son's house to pick up his eldest son's children.
"She brought back a four-year-old child, and she took him to ganjiakou shopping mall to buy clothes, shoes, biscuits and candied haws. The boy is playing with chickens pecking rice on the bed. She leaned back on the bed and hooked him a red wool hat with a crochet. She loves this child very much. This kind of love is completely non-utilitarian, neither to please her husband nor to have a good relationship with her husband's eldest son. Is a very kind and beautiful heart. The child called her grandma and grandma smiled. "
This passage touched me in particular. This woman is independent and kind-hearted.
She loves children from the heart, does not please her husband, and does not want to improve a family relationship. She just loves children. Such love has no purpose and no utility, and love is love.
When two people get married, it is actually the combination of two families. There are too many relationships that need to be balanced, getting along with family members and the degree of guarantee between them.
How can we devote ourselves to love and withdraw from independent thinking?
Whether husband and wife get along, family get along, and children get along, they can all love from the heart, not be utilitarian, not please anyone, and not have a good relationship, all of which test whether a woman is awake.
Obviously, women are sober and wise.
Happiness is like drinking water. Life is not for others, but for yourself.
When you meet a person who is kind to you, you will be satisfied without regret, love him well, and love him and his family without any utilitarian heart, but you don't need to please him or lose yourself in order to improve family relations.
How do women love themselves in marriage? Even when I cook noodles, I know that I like spicy food, and I know that the other person doesn't eat spicy food. Cook a pot of noodles, divide it into two bowls, and add a spoonful of bean paste to your bowl, that's all.
Ordinary, insignificant, often the best.
Asked the beekeeper if jujube honey was the best, he said Vitex negundo honey was the best.
He said that he was surprised that Vitex negundo was a humble thing, and I had never seen Vitex negundo blossom, but I didn't think Vitex negundo nectar was the best honey.
What kind of life is the best? What kind of marriage is the happiest? Do you have to have a big house and a big car to live a happy life? Not necessarily.
Like beekeepers, their lives are unremarkable, but they are in love, and their lives are happy and sweet, like thorns.
I have always liked Wang Zengqi's articles. The Heart of Human Plants is a necessary book for my bedside. Every night before going to bed, I always turn it over, and I can read any paragraph I start reading.
Reading, there is always a feeling of spring breeze, falling asleep with his words, and even in his dreams, there are flowers.
For example, the article begins: "Acacia flowers in Yuyuantan are in full bloom, like a heavy snow, dazzling white."
In a blooming locust tree forest, several beekeepers came slowly towards us. Where there are flowers in full bloom, there are people, bees and life.
At the end of the article: the beekeeper got on the bus, the truck drove away, and the Sophora japonica in Yuyuantan fell. People are gone.
The beginning and the end echo each other. In the rotation of the four seasons, man and nature live in harmony.
Zhang Jiuling, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, said, "Is there nothing that needs transplanting more than other natural flowers? ! "
I think Mr. Wang Zengmao probably knows this poem best. The title "Heart of Plants on Earth" should also come from this poem.
This Lao Wang has a peach blossom garden in his heart. As he said: I want to tell others about the beautiful things in life, the real things, the beauty of people and the poetry of people, so that people's experiences can be nourished and their beliefs in life can be improved.
People always have to love, and living is meaningful. Mobilize the essence of your life, put all your eggs in one basket and forge yourself into your own sword. This is life.
In everyone's heart, there is a peach blossom garden.