The emergence of kissing
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Kissing is an ancient and popular way of showing love, and it is also a sweet enjoyment. The world Different nationalities in the world are happy to accept it. Kissing can give people a beautiful feeling of love. Only when lovers start kissing can they truly appreciate the sweet taste of love. Modern psychology tells people that 93% of women want their lover to kiss her, and men also like to kiss the woman they love. Therefore, kissing is the most common need and desire between men and women. Kissing is also accompanied by the psychological and emotional experience of passionate and sincere love and joy, which helps to produce positive emotions such as harmony and joy.
So, how did kissing come about? There are roughly the following opinions.
Instinct theory
Professor Fergal Haring, a Swiss doctor of psychology and researcher at the Institute of Anatomy, believes that humans have all survival instincts that are higher than those of other animals. Humans have responses that mammals don't need to learn. Such as sucking behavior in infancy. Dan Kalinsky of the United States discovered that humans also have the instinct of birds to feed with their mouths. As early as the period of primitive humans, humans did not use bowls, chopsticks, spoons and dishes. Mothers used mouth-to-mouth methods to feed chewed food into their babies' mouths. In this process, they needed to cooperate with the pressure of the tongue and the movements of the mouth. This is very similar to how birds are fed. This evolution of instinctive maternal love is the origin of kissing. According to this point of view, kissing can be explained as follows: Because people all have instinctive genetic "codes" or "memories" of sucking practices as babies, they are self-taught in kissing. Desmond Miles explained this phenomenon: This method may seem unhygienic today, but as an instinct for feeding babies, humans have continued to use it for millions of years. This primitive instinctive kissing is obviously the origin of modern human kissing.
The theory of human legacy postures
The so-called legacy refers to the customs left over from previous generations. The "instinct theory" of kissing involves the sucking method and the mouth-to-mouth feeding method. In the process of human reproduction, it has been used as a traditional custom. Many experts and scholars who study human behavior in the West generally believe that "human heritage postures" are the origin of modern human kissing. Desmond Miles believes that the baby's sucking movement is the most important human gesture, and the desire for kisses is actually "a return to the mother's arms."
First of all, the comfort of breastfeeding leaves a lasting impression on our minds. The mother allows the baby to suck the nipple in an intimate way, so that the baby has a warm and soft thing in his mouth, and a sweet and warm liquid can be sucked out from it, so that the baby's tongue can taste the sweetness and his lips can feel the soft thing. This adds a basic sense of comfort to his life - a primitive act of intimacy.
Later in adult life, as people long to return to this intimacy, the original sucking behavior will appear in many guises or angles. And extends to many oral comforting actions, the most typical of which is kissing.
In fact, for lovers who are indulged in the lingering love, the baby-like behavior pattern not only does not disappear, but it regresses to the comfort of the mouth obtained when sucking the mother's breast. Wonderful feeling. It can be seen that this "reply" performance of human intimate physical contact behavior illustrates that the customary posture of sucking is the origin of kissing. For those who have been there and experienced this sense of "reply", it is easiest to accept the origin of this kiss.
Jealousy Theory
According to legend, wine was invented in ancient Italy, but it was very rare. Except for the male host, women are strictly prohibited from drinking alcohol. Women who violate the ban will be severely punished together with their husbands. Therefore, men at that time were wary when going out, fearing that their wives would be killed if they drank illegally at home. So the first thing I do when I come back from going out is to lean down and put my nose to my wife's mouth to smell if there is any lingering fragrance of secretly drinking. Over time, this lip-sniffing behavior developed into kissing.
Another legend is that in ancient times, when men went out hunting, they instinctively feared that their wives would be taken advantage of, and they would drink and have fun together. So, as soon as the man arrived at the house, he stuck his tongue into the woman's mouth to detect the smell of wine and other suspicious food. In the same way, to ensure her innocence, a woman will automatically open her mouth to let her husband smell her when he comes in. Families in some European and American countries have a ritual of kissing each other before a couple goes out and when they come back. It can be seen that this original custom has been passed down to this day and has been enduring for a long time.
Theory of Body Differentiation
In the "Symposium" of Plato's dialogues, Plato narrates his philosophical view of love through the mouths of the symposium participants. It also includes a philosophy about the origin of the kiss. Aristophanes, one of the Symposium members, favors the theory of body differentiation, which creates love between differentiated bodies. Falling in love is the attempt to reconnect the originally unified entities that were separated. According to myths and legends, humans used to be special animals that were "spherical" in shape, with four hands and four legs, two faces, and four ears. They were all extremely powerful and intelligent. Once, Zeus, the main god of Mount Olympus, discovered these rough-looking hermaphrodites, fearing that their growing strength would one day threaten the safety of the gods in the sky.
So, Zeus decided to split the human body in half. "Each half is eager to reunite with its other half." They "embrace each other, kiss each other, and long to grow together again."
Consciousness theory
Many physiologists believe that the mouth is the door of life and the lips are the door leaves. Even if a person is blind, deaf, or has a damaged nose, as long as he keeps his mouth open, not only will he be able to breathe, but he can also take in food to survive. So touching others with your lips is a direct expression of love and respect.
Some scholars also believe that kissing originated from sexual sadism and the habit of cannibalism in ancient times. This can also be classified as "consciousness theory." According to this theory, modern kissing is very close to cannibalism, but more refined. However, some people have also verified that kissing originated from the habit of early human survival consciousness. According to American Dan Kalinsky, cavemen often licked their friends' cheeks due to lack of salt, which gradually evolved into kissing.
Theory of Ownership
Eskimos will lick their belongings first, using this "kiss" as a charm to exclude others from getting involved. The reason for licking and sucking is that everyone's saliva has a unique smell, and the uncivilized sense of smell is extremely developed. Therefore, if you transfer your scent to the other person, they will know who the "famous flower" belongs to as soon as they smell it. Some people say that the deterioration of the sense of smell in civilized people is due to the intake of too much sugar. Uncivilized people do not eat much sugar, so their sense of smell can be compared with that of animals.
Medical theory
People in uncivilized times believed that illness, especially mental disorder, was caused by evil spirits getting into the body. Therefore, Eskimos, Indians, Paraguayans, Australian and South African indigenous people still kiss patients in the hope of sucking out evil spirits. This custom later evolved into a manifestation of mutual care, greetings and exchange of friendship.
The theory of nose-touching
Some people believe that kissing is related to the ancient habit of rubbing noses. The Dutch obstetrician and gynecologist Wilder mentioned in his book "Complete Marriage" written in 1726: "Japanese, Chinese, and Vietnamese do not kiss. They do not use their mouths, but touch frequently with their noses." Fergal Haring said in his "The Anatomy of Love": In addition to the above, Mongolians, Eskimos and even Burmese also have the custom of rubbing each other's noses. The so-called "sniffing" means that this custom is consistent with the sniffing of some animals. For example, in some tribes in Tibet, men and women do not say "kiss me" but "smell me". Therefore, many experts believe that there are three sense organs involved in the act of kissing: touch, taste, and smell. But for Caucasians, touch plays the biggest role. Compared with white people, yellow people have a greater sense of smell. Therefore, in the East and West, in different races, nations, countries, and regions, the origins of kissing may be divided into two categories: tactile type and olfactory type.
In fact, the Chinese already had the custom of kissing when the Europeans were chewing hair, drinking blood, and grinding their noses. Chinese cultural relics workers found a picture of a man and a woman kissing in a Han tomb at Longwang Temple in Juxian County, Shandong Province. Nowadays, many Chinese people think that kissing is a fashionable imitation of foreigners. Little do they know that this is a custom that has been practiced by their ancestors for a long time.
It can be seen that the statement about kissing involves various aspects such as people's sensory organs, psychological needs, physiological reactions and consciousness, and sexual needs. The emergence of kissing is a characteristic of the highly evolved development of society. It is a means of intimacy and a way of communicating feelings that expresses various contents based on the omission of specific emotions and spirits. It is a representative of the budding sexual civilization and a reflection of human beings' sexual instincts. Enrichment – ??Kissing itself can be helpful in promoting sexual passion. Usually, men and women can enhance emotional communication and integration through kissing. Nikoloson, an animal behaviorist at the State University of New York, recently put forward the latest insights into kissing: the fundamental purpose of kissing is to deliver addictive substances like anesthetics and to pursue natural chemical union with each other. The so-called "love" is actually an act of being obsessed with chemicals, especially the other person's sebum.
This is probably the latest explanation for people’s endless love for kissing!