What is a confidante?

It's not just friendship, but it's not love. Beauty, besides physical desire, must be the best among women. Must be a wise confidant among men, who can fully understand each other's intimate, sincere and tacit friends. Unveiling the confidante, the exact explanation is just a female confidante-a female friend who is spiritually independent, spiritually equal, and can be profound. It is not only an emotional trash can to pour out troubles, but also a bird's nest tired of looking for a home after being injured in the outside world. Same-sex confidantes are still hard to find, and confidantes are naturally treasures among treasures, which need to be maintained with heart and affection. In front of her, you don't have to be as brave as in front of same-sex friends, let alone hypocritical. It depends on your taste and needs. She can be kind, smart, sharp and even vulgar, but she must be considerate-she can understand what you want and give appropriate advice and suggestions to tidy you up and comfort you. Love is short, but friendship is eternal. She can make you feel something deeper and more shocking than sex. In marriage and love, she can be your pillow person, such as Fubowa to Sartre. She is not only a lifelong companion, but also a confidant who understands and supports each other academically, so that she can truly compare with Qi Fei in her marriage career. This kind of confidante is welcome, which can not only make fate a gift, but also know how to find and learn to cherish it. In fact, sometimes, at a certain stage of life, our spouse will always be our bosom friend. How many people can grow up with us and know us better than everyone else? I didn't realize the value of this, often after I completely lost it. This is why some people have become better friends with their original partners although their marriage has disintegrated-all we can do is to communicate with each other and give each other trust, care, consideration and understanding in a humane sense when the heat of love gradually disappears. A woman who can understand and care about herself in this way is certainly worthy of being called a confidante. In marriage, each other's shortcomings are often exposed because they are too close, so they also lose their good desire to communicate with each other. Because of this, the distance between heart and heart is getting farther and farther, and the possibility of knowing each other and seeking each other is lost. Only an experienced and mature mind can understand the way to turn the closest person into a confidante. For married friends, the opposite sex other than spouse can become friends, and the starting point is the same as love or same-sex friendship. She is often an insider when you are young and ignorant. At that time, everyone was like brothers and sisters, and there was no difference. Over time, they grew up and separated, and they gradually realized the value of simple friendship between teenagers and the rarity of witnesses who knew how to accompany you to grow up. After the baptism of time and the overlap of space, the re-collision sparks can easily make the two sides become very tacit friends. This feeling is so deep that everyone doesn't want to lose it, let alone have it. Before there is a clear definition, they already have each other's sincerity, which is not as simple and easy to express as affection, friendship and love. This kind of young innocence is not suitable for easily trying to develop into love, because people often miss only their young feelings, not their attraction as the opposite sex. Perhaps, the change of the world will change each other's life trajectory and destiny, but it can be like this all my life. In the dull days of 365 and 365, someone silently waited for each other's happiness, and when I finally looked back, I felt that the other party had witnessed every step of my growth, smiling silently, or that it was a kind of happiness in itself. She can also be just a friend who doesn't see each other often. She knows each other on the road, in the workplace and even through the Internet. She is completely open-minded, and may meet and hate each other late, but she always stays at this stage. She can understand each other and give spiritual support in all aspects, but she is determined not to cross the line. It can be someone you once loved deeply, but both sides decided to give up completely for various reasons. The infatuation in the minds of many teenagers can be exchanged for a calm but knowing smile that completely releases each other's thoughts. She may love you more than before, but she has made up her mind not to get involved in your life. At this time, to be your confidante is to love you deeply, just want to keep a proper distance forever, and be a person who makes you feel that her wisdom and beauty are like a trickle and endless. Such a precious relationship needs reason to control the state and does not need to involve too emotional topics. Goodbye is just to gain an extraordinary friendship. How can you be willing to lose a close friend you have known for many years for some insufficient reasons? People are not vegetation, and over time they may be born of love. Naturally, we should pay attention to keeping a safe distance between time and space. If it is beyond the scope of spiritual life, each other obviously feels the need to go beyond friendship. If there is any passionate contact or dialogue, then the confidant is no longer just a confidant. How to define it depends on the development of things. To be a man's confidante, even if you fall in love with him, you must have the determination to cut off your affection; A man with a confidante should be rational and wise, and ensure that friendship will not change his confidence in love. Both sides are relatively calm and are not afraid of their spouses' understanding. Then the confidante and heterosexual friendship outside marriage can be another wonderful motivation for you to improve yourself. How to judge whether the other party is a confidante or an extramarital affair? Know yourself better than yourself and ask yourself if your body needs her as much as your spirit. Is your desire to be close to each other beyond your rational control? Love is love and friendship is friendship. It is the responsibility of every adult to dare to love and hate, dare to act boldly and dare not deceive others under the banner of friendship.