The harm of puppy love-the communication between boys and girls in adolescent mental health education
Teaching purpose
Understand the definition of puppy love and the harm of puppy love; 2.
Let students intuitively realize the harm of puppy love by explaining and demonstrating individual cases; 3. Cultivate students to understand puppy love correctly, stay away from puppy love and develop positive heterosexual relations; 4.
Help students understand the meaning of puppy love, guide students to turn admiration into pure friendship, form a healthy concept of heterosexual communication, and use the "heterosexual effect" to constantly improve and improve themselves and successfully spend adolescence.
teaching emphases and difficulties
emphasis: understand the harm of puppy love and stay away from puppy love. Difficulties: form a healthy concept of heterosexual communication.
teaching forms and methods
activities such as telling, asking questions, cases, song appreciation, etc.?
Preparation of teaching AIDS
Collect some materials and cases about puppy love before class, and make teaching courseware. Multimedia
Teaching process
1. Topic introducer: At present, various problems caused by middle school students' love are quite serious, and families and education departments attach great importance to it. At present, the so-called "puppy love" of students has long gone beyond the category of "puppy love". If the "puppy love" of middle school students in the past still has some simple and hazy elements, then the love of middle school students now is mixed with many illegal activities such as fighting and fighting caused by jealousness and jealousy, and even involves serious social and moral problems. Puppy love among students in our school is also spreading! Today, we * * * get to know each other: (show the topic)
Second, teach the new lesson teacher:
Now let's review the definition of health (graphic) 1. Health = physical health+mental health+social adaptability
2. Spectrum diagram of mental health
Normal people: mental health, mental troubles. Next is the answer we are looking for; Question: What exactly is puppy love, students?
(1) the definition of puppy love: love refers to a kind of love between men and women after sexual maturity, which is a beautiful feeling between the two sexes. What is "puppy love"? There is no unified objective standard for different social systems, different times and even different people. According to the actual situation and social norms in China, middle school students fall in love as puppy love. The main reasons are as follows: First, the degree of self-reliance in economic life is not yet independent. The purpose of love is to combine the two sexes to get married, which requires economic independence and the ability to bear family responsibilities. Middle school students obviously do not have this condition. Second, the age of falling in love is far from the legal minimum age for marriage (23 years for men and 22 years for women). Love is the preparation for marriage. If the age of love is too far from the age of marriage and completely separated, it would be unnatural. Teacher: Do the students around you have puppy love? 1. Why do you have puppy love? ① Physiological reasons. ② Psychological reasons. ☆ ③ Social reasons. 2. Psychological changes in adolescence: (additional illustration) ⑴. Have independent consciousness, but have strong dependence; (2) Sometimes there are inexplicable melancholy and troubles, and they are unwilling to tell their parents and teachers; (3), sometimes there will be rebellious psychology; (4), like to make friends, curious about the opposite sex, eager to get the appreciation of the opposite sex. To this end, they will try their best to change themselves and improve themselves, which is also the best psychological environment for self-development, self-evaluation and self-improvement, and a good opportunity to overcome their own shortcomings and weaknesses.
(2) characteristics of puppy love: puppy love is pure and naive, and puppy love is sour and regrettable. The characteristics of middle school students' puppy love (1) The teenagers who have hazy puppy love are not clear about the development outcome of puppy love relationship. They are mainly eager to get in touch with the opposite sex alone, but they lack a clear understanding of how to form a family in the future, how to deal with the relationship between love and school, and how to distinguish friendship from love. ⑵ Contradictory Teenagers who have puppy love relationships are also full of contradictions. They want to get in touch with each other and are afraid of being discovered. Pleasure and pain coexist in the process of puppy love.
(3) Variant puppy love relationship is a kind of emotional relationship full of changes and extremely unstable. One-on-one puppy love relationship between teenagers lacks persistence and generally does not last long.
(4) There are obvious differences in puppy love behavior among different teenagers. In terms of behavior, some teenagers' puppy love behavior is very hidden, and they convey their feelings through letters, telephone calls, etc., but some teenagers are very open, and they are like a couple on many occasions. In the degree of relationship, the main activity of some teenagers who are in puppy love relationship is to chat together and exchange secret feelings. From the perspective of interpersonal relationship, it is not beyond the normal relationship. Most of them have a deep relationship, besides talking about feelings, they even have sex. 5] Concealment. Boys and girls who are puppy love generally don't reveal their inner secrets, especially to their parents and teachers. Sometimes I often keep my mouth shut about my close friends, brothers and sisters. On the one hand, puppy love has the concealment of love, because middle schools are afraid of incurring the opposition and reprimand of parents and teachers, and the ridicule and satire of classmates, friends, brothers and sisters. On the other hand, it is also related to the anxiety and "psychological atresia" caused by the impulse of boys and girls to have sex for the first time. [6] Excitement and impulsiveness. This feature of puppy love is related to the emotional characteristics of boys and girls. Adolescence is often referred to as an emotional "stormy" era. That is to say, in middle school students' period, passion is dominant, and their emotions are strong, unstable and impulsive. In line with this, middle school students who are puppy love often have a strong desire to be close to their lovers. Therefore, when they get along with each other, their words and deeds often show special excitement and impulsiveness. This feature of puppy love often produces irreparable consequences: some boys and girls often lose their minds because they are too excited and impulsive when they get along with each other, putting themselves completely under the control of passion, stealing forbidden fruits prematurely, leading to the deviant behavior of boys and girls.
⑺ Too much beautification and infatuation with each other. The idea of "beauty" runs through the puppy love of boys and girls. They often describe each other in diaries or love letters with the language of "everything is perfect" and "everything is beautiful", and beautify each other's manners, appearance, temperament and talents in their minds, thinking that everything in their friends of the opposite sex is impeccable. "Love me, love my dog", once you fall in love with someone, even the shortcomings of the other person seem to be beautiful. This is what people often say, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder".
being inseparable and moody. Middle school students who fall in puppy love arouse the feelings of love as strongly as young people. Although these puppy love boys and girls are not keen on learning, they are eager for class. In class, they can give each other a few more eyes and talk a few words. Even if they don't touch each other, they will feel that the other person's eyes are staring at themselves, and their hearts are more practical and stable. Teacher: Some students thought to themselves, "Can I fall in love?" Middle school students should not fall in love, why
students discuss the problem and then send representatives to make a conclusion.
(3) Reasons why middle school students can't fall in love early 1 Policy basis
The Handbook for Middle School Students clearly states that middle school students can't fall in love. Article 14 of Chapter 6 of the Detailed Rules for Adding and Subtracting Middle School Students' Ideological and Moral Evaluation puts forward that the moral evaluation of falling in love will be deducted 5 points. 2 psychological and physiological analysis
(1) Middle school students have not yet finalized their thinking. (2) Middle school students' thoughts are not yet mature. (3) Premature love can also cause psychopathy. 3 social perspective analysis (1) The economy is not yet independent.
(2) I haven't been oriented in my career. (4) The harm of puppy love 1. Puppy love harms your physical and mental health. When encountering twists and turns-emotional transfer, quarrel, separation, etc., puppy love is prone to extreme behaviors, such as double suicide, vicious revenge, running away from home, suffering from depression, etc. 2. Puppy love interferes greatly with learning and affects study and life. Some middle school students mistakenly believe that "as long as two people are like-minded, it will not affect their study" or "promote each other's study". However, from a medical point of view, it is almost impossible for puppy lovers to focus on love, their emotions are restrained by each other, and their physical and mental immaturity does not affect their study. The reason why many parents and teachers can find children's puppy love often begins with the decline of their academic performance. 3, prone to deviant behavior, puppy love occurs in the period of adolescent sexual agitation, and self-restraint is weak. It is possible to have involuntary sexual relations under a temporary sexual impulse, and it is more difficult to bear the serious consequences of pregnancy and abortion caused by this relationship. In some schools, some students even commit suicide and self-harm because of love and lovelorn. In some schools, some teenagers sometimes have sex because of puppy love and even rent a house outside without telling their parents.
According to the statistics of a city maternity hospital, in the past three or four years, 45% of unmarried young women went to the hospital for induced abortion and early pregnancy drug abortion, of which one quarter were girls aged 13 to 18. Especially after the summer vacation, the number of girls who come to the hospital for induced abortion will increase significantly. 4. Puppy love may lead to crime. According to the investigation results of relevant departments, middle school students involved in love prematurely will also bring social instability. The occurrence of social phenomena such as hooliganism, fighting and theft is largely related to students' puppy love. Middle school students are angry and unwilling to suffer easily, especially in front of their girlfriends, and they are even more unwilling to lose face. They often lose their minds because the other party said a rude word to their girlfriends and made an indecent move, and even fight with others to show their skills and even commit crimes. On the other hand, middle school students still need material consumption when they fall in love, but their economy depends on their parents or others, and they can't stand on their own feet. During a "marathon" love period from first love to marriage, they need a considerable sum of money. The little pocket money that parents can provide often can't meet the needs. In this way, it is easy for middle school students to go astray, induce the idea of stealing and robbing, and finally go to jail. There are countless examples like this, which is enough to arouse the vigilance of middle school students! ?
Third, * * * Let the students express their opinions by watching several real cases, and draw a conclusion: puppy love is a bitter fruit wrapped in sugar. Fourth, conclusion:
Always remember the youth, and it is even more unforgettable for the green classmates. Meeting is laughing, knowing each other is wonderful, laughing in youth, and wonderful in years.
Make use of the influence of Wang Guozhen's poems: Youth lets us meet, we let youth have no regrets, and let our friendship go on forever like Meeting is a Song … Be a healthy middle school student, grow up healthily and study happily! ! !