First of all, you ask how to close your heart, which shows that you don't know the purpose of closing your heart.
In today's society, why do some people get excellent grades while others are ordinary? In fact, they are not IQ at all, but self-control. Look at people with good grades (LZ gives too little information because they don't know the situation of LZ). In fact, they feel relaxed. They just do their homework every day, and they are a little more careful in class. They don't have to do too many tutorials when they go home, but their grades are getting better. Why? Because many people are reading novels, visiting Weibo and posting when doing their homework, and then scribbling down their homework, or copying homework in the morning, and sleeping in class the next day, thinking about their own worries. In this way, you may not see anything for a day or two, but after one year, two years and three years, the gap between students will gradually widen. This is why in the same class, the scores of the entrance examination are the same, but the scores are quite different.
In fact, students whose grades are average or temporarily backward have no opinion of those who have good grades. They just know a little more than themselves, but they don't know that these two little knowledge points are missing. They miss 1 knowledge point 365 times 3= 1095 knowledge points every day. What a terrible thing it is and how long it will take to make up for it. These knowledge points are ultimately reflected in the merits of grades, but also in IQ. In fact, scientists have confirmed that IQ can be cultivated. In my opinion, IQ is actually the degree of knowledge accumulation. You have accumulated more knowledge, high natural IQ and good grades.
So the first thing I want LZ to understand is? Self-control = being able to concentrate on what you want to do = accumulating more knowledge than others = getting higher IQ = success.
So anyone who wants to do anything can succeed as long as he dares to think, which is why Portman, the star of the Oscar-winning film Black Swan, can master four languages and graduated from the psychology department of Harvard University. She was not much smarter or better than us at first, but the gap between her and us can't be shortened in a day or two. Conclusion: LZ can be equally excellent.
When we know the importance of self-control, we need to know how to cultivate our own self-control
The following is my experience:
Be clear about your goal, it doesn't need to be big or small. Think about what you really want, such as LZ. You just want to accept your heart now, which can also be one of your goals, and it must be from the heart, not for others to see.
Think about the effect of this goal after completion or the consequences of not completing it. For example, if LZ can't accept his heart, then he will spend a semester in such a muddle. He didn't learn well or play well. My head is in a daze every day and I can't do anything. Then at this moment, others study one hour more than you and listen to one lesson more carefully than you. Everything else is excellent. What about you?
Well, after doing these two seemingly empty practices well, after finding yourself a little flustered, regretful and longing, proceed to the next concrete method of accepting the heart.
Take out your homework and start doing it. You will find that you are always thinking about things, or want to look at your mobile phone and go out for a stroll. My method is: slap yourself in the face and smoke hard. As long as your thoughts wander and you feel something is wrong, slap yourself. Of course, this method is only effective for people who really want to change themselves (I believe LZ really wants to change themselves), so I force myself to think nothing but concentrate on my homework. Look at those people with good grades. They never dream of doing their homework. Only in this way can you do your homework purely.
In the process of doing homework, we are often bored and don't think about anything, just don't want to do it. At this time, my solution is to solve the problem. For example, when I get a physics problem, I first force myself to read it in a very short time and make sketches, such as "smooth slope" and "magnetic lines are perpendicular to the slope". Then, after checking, write with a pen in your hand. First, thinking: what knowledge points should be tested in this question, what aspects should be started from, and which entry point should be found ... Clear up the idea of answering the whole question, and then order yourself to complete the answer quickly (so that it is not easy to get distracted in the writing process). The same is true of Chinese test questions, such as poetry appreciation. Ask yourself to come up with the answer to this question first, and then start to grasp the key words ... In fact, every question has its own method, and you will gradually find that it is actually very interesting to do.
After finishing our homework, we began to talk about the important thing: class. Tell yourself first in class: If I stay in a daze again, I can't do my homework, and I will only stay in a daze in the next class. Then I recall the feeling of being in a daze (class is really uncomfortable, and you will feel refreshed after a class), and I want to get rid of it so that I can take this class seriously.
Force yourself to follow the teacher in class: following the teacher lies in that when the teacher talks about a new lesson, the teacher begins to organize the knowledge framework in his mind while talking. Don't just sit there and take notes, but think about how the teacher moves from one part to the next. Take biology as an example: in the class of nucleic acid, we first know that nucleic acid plays an important role in biological genetic variation and protein synthesis, and then we think that since we know its function, we must know its position, so that after studying its basic unit structure, we can study its structure and establish a DNA model. You see, this is a teacher's thinking in class, and then you are moved by this class and listen.
When the teacher commented on the lecture, he told himself that this was another breakthrough in progress, and then he must follow the teacher's calculation, so as to have an effect.
These are the main points of accepting the heart. When you finish, you will love learning, life and the future.
Come on LZ
If there are any questions? You can ask me, but it may take me a long time to reply. I seldom surf the Internet.