The issue of puppy love has been discussed for many years, but what is the result of the discussion? I thought of Wang Xiaochun's words in the handbook of diagnosis and treatment of problem students:
Things have reached such a point that the so-called adolescent education has almost become synonymous with the prevention of puppy love education. The education of drought resistance and love is simplified as sex education; Sex education is simplified as sex education. Adolescent education has shrunk all the way, getting narrower and narrower, and entering a dead end.
We attack puppy love, often from the social influence and bad social atmosphere. When we can solve the problem of puppy love, we should start with students' physiological factors and talk about sexual knowledge. In fact, the prevention of puppy love should focus on healthy emotional education, self-esteem education and happiness education, which can be linked with social influence. I quite agree with what Mr. Wang Xiaochun said. Love education, adolescent education, sex education, etc. It is compatible and overlapping, but its connotation and extension are not the same. It is impossible to realize this.
Nowadays, the most popular saying about puppy love is to oppose banning students and advocate rational persuasion. This statement is of course correct. The key is how do we guide it? The common practice is nothing more than preaching. For example, it is a pity that students in love always think that those bad consequences are special cases and will not be so unlucky. Or the main task of using students is to learn to inspire students. Unfortunately, students are in adolescence and are easily tempted by the goddess of love. Many times, it is not our students who find love, but love who finds our students and temporarily controls them; So, some people try to please students by over-affirming the rationality of puppy love? Students are already familiar with these things. Although it can't be completely wrong, it often can't solve the substantive problem.
In my opinion, there is only one way to really solve the problem, that is, to know love, explore love, understand what pure and noble love is, and finally let us have awe of love.
Fromm said in The Art of Love: Is love an art? If love is an art, it requires people who want to master this art to have the knowledge and make efforts.
Love is obviously an art. However, how much effort have we made to master this art? Although everyone thinks that love is very important, it directly affects our happiness index; Although we pursue love, watch love movies and listen to all kinds of boring love songs, many people just listen, watch, envy, yearn and wait, but they don't know that people could have learned to love. At this point, I can't help but say realistically that all subjects of compulsory education are ahead (what students learn now can only be used in the future, so they are ahead), but love education is lagging behind. Even if students get married, they still don't understand what love is.
This is really a regrettable thing.
Balacels said: People who know nothing love nothing. He who can't do anything knows nothing. People who know nothing are worthless. But people who know more can have love, knowledge and vision? The deeper you know about a thing, the more you like it. If someone thinks that all fruits are ripe with strawberries, he knows nothing about grapes.
I hope my students are knowledgeable, discerning and know more. Once I realized the importance of love in everyone's life, I began to discuss with my students what is really mature love. I know that all education is to provide knowledge reserves, otherwise I will hate books when I use them. My approach is to design a class meeting with the theme of love education first, and then write letters to the students, and tell the love stories of teachers around me.
"I fall in love with students" * * has eight units, of which the love education class meeting from unit 1 to unit 4 is a series, and there are twelve in one * * *, which are progressive at different levels.
The overall title of Unit 1 is Understanding Love. The first class meeting was adapted into a script by Sukhomlinski's Letter to My Daughter, in which poems such as The Wedding of Figaro, Why Flowers Are So Red, Blue Scarf, and Lin's April Day on Earth were added, so that students can feel the nobility of love in music and poetry, realize the greatness of love and understand that love contains loyalty and love. And influenced by poetry and music.
There will be a flowering tree in the second class. Through stories and sketches, teachers and students realize that the highest state of love is to pay or not to pay. The true meaning of giving is not sacrifice, but the highest expression of strength. As Fromm said: By what? Here? , I can experience my strength, my? Rich? , mine? Vigor? , mine? Love? Ability.
The third class meeting in this unit is the love between leaves and trees. Taking an online essay with pictures as the introduction, teachers and students can develop rich associations together and understand the roles of love, responsibility, respect and understanding in singing, recitation and discussion. Understand that if there is no respect and responsibility between lovers, love can easily become control or slavery. At the end of the class meeting, we came to a conclusion that respect should not be regarded as fear. As Fromm said:? Respect for others is not fear of each other. Respect is trying to make each other grow and develop themselves. ? So, respect is never deprived?
The fourth class meeting is a further understanding and summary of the above three class meetings. We use the love of Lu You, Tang Wan and Zhao Shicheng to further explore what kind of love is mature love.