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Some time ago, I had dinner with a friend whom I hadn’t seen for a long time. We often meet up every now and then to get together, but he seemed to have disappeared some time ago and never appeared in our presence. In front of our eyes, he often appeared in WeChat Moments and even stopped posting in WeChat Moments. He had been "missing" for more than two months.
Fortunately, I received his blessing text message on the Mid-Autumn Festival, and I knew his whereabouts for sure. The period when he "missed" was also a very busy period for me, and he called me the day before yesterday. Come over, I hurried out to keep my appointment.
In the coffee shop, we chose a corner seat and sat down. He was still the same, but he looked much more haggard and thinner than before. After seeing him, my first question was Curious to know what happened to him recently, I joked that his diving skills had improved.
He smiled bitterly, sighed, and told me that he left his previous company, resigned and decided to go overseas. He invested in and opened an Italian restaurant with another buddy. Before resigning, he was actually an advertiser. The company's project manager has always done a good job, and his monthly salary has always been the kind that I envy and hate. I am quite surprised that he would do this.
Moreover, their company’s parties often invite celebrities. After all, he has been in the advertising industry for many years and has some connections. I said you can work and do business at the same time. There is no need to resign. Let's go to war in such a big way.
But he said, how could it be so easy? The investment in the catering industry often does not have as fast a return rate as other industries. The initial investment is not only economical, but also energetic. Every detail must be considered. The company When you are busy working in meetings all day long, where do you have so much energy to take care of your own business? So it’s better to just get down to business and do this thing well.
He said that he has always had a dream of opening a restaurant. It is a very happy thing to watch many people come to eat in his restaurant. He has been working towards this idea and finally After a few years, he had the money and could do what he wanted to do.
The reason why I haven’t seen him during this period is also due to business matters. He is busy with various preliminary planning of the restaurant. He even designed the design of the store himself, as well as the selection of ingredients, etc. He and his partners completed it together. These small and tedious things almost consumed most of his energy and time, and the circle of friends seemed to be useless.
When a person is really busy, you can tell by not posting on Moments.
He didn’t sleep for several days in a row because of this restaurant. It was inevitable that he would lose weight. When I went to visit his restaurant, I couldn’t help but want to give him a thumbs up. Because hard work really pays off, but if you don’t work hard, you won’t even get a chance to pay back. The store has a nice appearance, and there are a lot of customers coming. He said happily, if you want to accomplish something, you can’t do anything. It is impossible for you to be skinny, but seeing everything in front of you and thinking about the difficulties in the past are all worth it.
Yes, sitting back and enjoying the results simply cannot become a reality in this world.
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I like to be close to people who exude positive energy. As the saying goes, those who are close to red are red and those who are close to ink are black. Some positive things are often conveyed in the official account. Some people think It’s too chicken soup. First of all, I don’t think chicken soup is wrong or bad. It also has its value. Otherwise, not so many people would complain about it. Secondly, I didn’t deliberately write about chicken soup. I just I want to say something that can be of some value, or at least give readers some inspiring thoughts.
Of course life is not all beautiful, it also has a dark side, but if a person always stares at the darkness, then everything in front of him is black, just like if a person always stares at the chrysanthemum, then There must be chrysanthemums everywhere in front of him. We can enjoy reading dark stories, but we cannot bring them into reality to face life, otherwise life will be too painful and too hopeless.
There are not so many things that go smoothly in the adult world. Smooth sailing is rare. Most people’s lives are ups and downs, and they go through ups and downs. How to face those things? Things are critical.
I once heard a saying: Knowing the world but not being worldly is the kindest maturity. What I want to say is: Facing life optimistically is the ability of a strong person. Even face life with positive pessimism.
I have encountered people in my life who have very strong negative energy, so strong that I want to rebound.
The boyfriend of a best friend of mine is this kind of person. The two of them opened a clothing store. When the business first started, it was almost the woman who maintained it. How should I put it, the clothing store is not big. They are available online and offline. They are the kind facing the street, 50 square meters. The location and customer flow are pretty good. I have been going there often for a while.
My best friend is a very capable girl who does many things by herself. As for him, he sits in the store all day, playing games on the computer, and doesn’t even say hello to customers who come into the store. The girl went to greet the guests. Sometimes when everyone gets together, he always complains more than he is grateful. There are good times and bad times in business. When business is not good, his mood will rise. He blames everything and everyone like a resentful woman, blaming himself for not having enough. A rich father without a great background cannot give his girl a better life.
If I hear such words too much, my ears will grow calluses. I guess I will get depression if I stay with him any longer. He always brings his unhappiness to the people around him, and most of the time he has a kind of He is in a dull and depressing state. I don’t know what my best friend sees in him. Whenever I see him, I see the dark cloud above his head, lightning and thunderstorm, all flowing down. A person with a negative energy aura is like a black hole. , can suck people into it.
Isn’t life like this? Nothing goes smoothly everywhere. You have to learn to see the good side before you can continue to struggle. If life is too perfect, you will lose a lot of fun.
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Watch the movie "Red Killifish", which tells the story of Tachikawa Tanharu's growth experience as a student of rakugo master Tachikawa Tanshi, as well as the life of Tachikawa Tanshi's master and apprentice. Every bit of it and the emotional story between master and apprentice. There is a passage in it that is so good that I can’t help but want to share it:
“If you don’t work hard, you will criticize the other person’s shortcomings in an attempt to lower the other person’s status and make the other person stand on the same level as you. It’s just jealousy. All you need to do is take action to catch up and surpass the other person, but people often can’t do this because jealousy is effortless.”
You’re so right! When you are jealous of other people's success, have you ever thought about how much hard work and effort others have put in behind the scenes?
Xue Zhiqian, a well-known joker on Weibo, has become very popular this year. When many people were baffled by his rise to fame, I was also "encouraged" by others and paid attention to this " "Prince Duan", after watching some of his variety shows online and interviews on "Very Quiet Distance", I found out that he had been in the music industry for ten years, and after "Serious Snow", he fell silent and only started this year. Emerge.
He had been hiding in an economic company for a long time, sinking to the point where he almost quit the entertainment industry. With no chance to perform, it was like a death sentence for an artist. Xue Zhiqian decided to survive first and then fulfill his ideals. He put aside the idea of ??becoming a singer for several years. Because life was not easy, he made a living by writing jokes. This became his livelihood during the most difficult period.
Opening a hotpot restaurant, selling clothes, and writing jokes all have only one purpose in the end, which is to let everyone hear his singing. The album that he put all his efforts into will make me click on it and listen to it. ; What does a person who has insisted on a dream for ten years rely on to support him? This kind of willpower and spirit is really touching. If this is a gorgeous turn of a joker, it is better to say that it is a person who persists in his dream. A triumphant comeback for man.
Of course, not only successful people have those sad past events. In fact, everyone has had this experience. When others see you taking the first place in the exam, when you are admitted to a university, Every now and then, when you drive a nice car, when you write a novel, when you get a project at the company, you hear those screeching sounds.
He thinks that you got the first place in the exam without any effort. He will not think about how many brain cells you consumed and how many long nights you spent to solve a problem; When you work hard to get into a university or obtain a certificate, he will think that you are lucky; when you write a novel, he will not know how many pounds you browsed through the library before writing the novel. information; he will also not think that you have performed well in the company recently and your boss gave you a salary increase and promotion because of how many days and nights you worked overtime and how many times you got sick...
He is all Why do you think you are so comfortable today because you have never suffered since you were born, not even a cold wind in winter blew.
Actually, I just want to say that thinking about the problem this way is really: Too young! Too simple! Too naive!
When we see others succeed or do well, there is no need to be jealous of anyone. The first thing to think about is why I am not like him. Jealousy often arises because a link is missing from the thinking level, and one does not think about why the other person behaves this way.
Success is really not that easy in this world. Behind those glamorous things must be a lot of effort and even a price. Only those who can withstand these tests and experience those hardships can truly achieve success. Come to the true scripture and embark on the road to success.
How can there be so many easy things in this world? ***Mianzhi!