Tolstoy's world outlook changed greatly in his later years and fell into self-disorder. At this time, his wife added fuel to the fire and knelt down and begged her husband to read the poems and essays written for her by Tuo Weng in his early years in order to find back the sweetness of that year. Tuo Weng couldn't wait to pull out his hair, and finally ran away from home and died in a cold station.
My readers and sisters often complain to me that my husband always "works overtime" or "socializes" when he doesn't go home. Even when I get home, I don't do housework or take children. It's not a game or a play, so you get impatient after a few words. When I am in a hurry, I say, I don't fucking make money, and your mother eats fart! It's too noisy, I can't see the ghost ...
Sisters wonder: What's the matter? Together? We agreed to share? We agreed not to get angry all our lives. Some sisters probably study Chinese. The word "home" means that there are pigs at home and women are pig heads!
These are all emotions. Calm analysis, men don't go home for a reason.
Article 1: Aesthetic fatigue
Men and women should know that even golden couples touch their right hands with their left hands after a long time. It is often reported on the Internet that one of the star couples is cheating, or both of them are cheating. This is not uncommon. In human nature, what you can't get is golden jade, but what you have is sediment. Many mistresses and mistresses don't understand this and think that their emotions are full of vitality. In fact, if they leave, they will have another ball, which is nothing more than repeating the rhythm of life of "freshness-depreciation-indifference". Men, in particular, are adventurous animals. After exploring risks with women, it is difficult to find new stimuli, and the "evidence-based" mentality is deeply rooted. Unless the other half encounters a powerful suitor to create a new crisis and form a provocation, he will launch an emotional defense battle because of jealousy.
Article 2: Subjective and external attributes
Men are outside and women have genes inside. Genes will not keep up with the pace of social changes quickly, it is lagging behind. Although many women earn as much as men now, men still like to toss about outside. Except some areas such as Shanghai, where men take part in housework, most areas of China are still female housekeepers. Under this concept, if a man always rushes home after work, it is easy to be regarded as a "wonderful work" by colleagues and friends. In the third and third regions, if a man has no "influence" outside, he is easily regarded as a "loser", so even if he has nothing to do, he must show a "busy outside" attitude to maintain his important social image.
Article 3: Freedom consciousness
Except Wei Xiaobao, who likes to push women in Jin Yong's works, few male literary images are submerged in powder. Literature is a study of human beings and a projection of real life. Columbus and Magellan can endure the risk and loneliness of exploring the ocean, but it is difficult to kill time in a quiet yard. Men are independent and free at heart, unwilling to be controlled, and have the desire to explore and take risks (although not necessarily put into action). In most cases, freedom and responsibility are hard to distinguish, and subconsciously they are tired of boring and repetitive life. Therefore, men like games and antagonistic activities (such as ball games), hoping to make up for the disappointments in life through spiritual experience. This is why men are obsessed with games or movies.
Article 4: Unwilling to change.
Many women try to change their "enterprising" husbands, and as a result, they either break their heads or break up in discord. More often, they choose not to go home or go home late. Men's self-esteem is inversely proportional to their achievements-the more successful men are, the less they appear to have "face" because their hearts are no longer fragile; The more people who have accomplished nothing, the more they respect face, lest others look down on him. Under this psychological effect, men choose to escape. More often, they look for three friends and four friends outside to drown their sorrows and support their empty and fragile hearts by speaking loudly. The cause of the violent man is also based on this. The last shot was because he could no longer express his helplessness and anger in any way and refused to change with indifference or fist equipment.
Article 5: Emotional Transfer
Love can be transferred by telephone, so can the feelings of husband and wife. When a man is loved too much or neglected too much at home, he will seek emotional balance outside. In the emotional vacuum without family chores and worries of his wife and children, it is easy to have narcissistic emotional illusions, just like Tao Yuanming's paradise, clean and clear. This is a man's poison. There are also some men who have some secret hobbies. When their wives are unsatisfied, they will inevitably have a strong demand search signal. Once they find the "right person", they will be as passionate as moths to a fire. Once a man falls into the emotional transfer mode, he will not move forward freely like a dangerous boat crossing a gorge. Where can he consider destroying a reef and a dangerous beach?
To sum up, we can easily find that men who don't go home are not really bad people, but a concentrated expression of complex psychology. Women should understand that this is a life behavior caused by gender differences, and should not criticize, accuse and complain all day according to their own ideas. Smart woman, managing marriage and family with ease;
1. Always strive to cultivate your body and mind and ensure that your face will not age too fast.
2. Try to do your major well, and never rely on a man's heart.
3. Respect and understand men's hobbies and establish family rules to restrain men's excessive behavior.
4. Try to improve yourself without asking your husband to change, so that your spouse can truly feel that if you don't stand up, you may be dumped.
5. By controlling emotions, take the initiative to prompt the risk of extramarital affairs. If the spouse goes her own way, she will cut off her feelings and find a beautiful marriage.
Life is not easy. You are a smart woman.