Wang Guozhen wrote in "Reaching Middle Age Hastily": "Middle age is somewhat similar to noon: dignified, deep and empty, it is a pole on the life curve."
Many people "quit" their lavish habits after they reach middle age. They become less and less courageous and less and less willing to spend money on themselves.
When people reach middle age and have money, they also become stingy. For what reason?
Middle age is an age where there is no time for work. There are classes to attend, the elderly to support, and children to take care of. Looking forward, there is no hope; looking back, there are all pursuers. Looking at other people's lives, I feel envious. Looking at my own balance, I dare not envy you.
When people reach middle age, they have learned to be silent, work silently, and live silently. They don’t even dare to shout loudly when they are in pain or tired, and they even talk quietly in their sleep at night.
When I was in high school, several buddies often talked about their parents together. Some parents were so stingy that they would wear a coat for ten years. Some parents only allowed the toilet to be flushed after urinating twice; some parents used Be sure to shred the toothpaste at both ends before buying a new one.
At that time, I always lamented whether parents were taught by the same teacher, otherwise how could they be so stingy all over the world?
It wasn’t until I reached middle age that I realized that I had become that kind of person. I couldn’t help but smile, smile, and shed tears.
The writer Spider said in "The Ten Deadly Sins": "Sometimes our eyes can see the universe, but we cannot see the most miserable world at the bottom of society."
When people reach middle age, I have experienced a lot and seen a lot, and it seems that my personality has changed. When I look at myself in the mirror, I don’t look much like before.
Some people have become bold. Others don’t dare to ask for a second-hand car that has been involved in a car accident. He dares to ask for it just for the sake of cheapness.
Some people have become vegetarians. When their children are not at home, there is no meat on the table.
Some people become diligent and have a second, third, or even fourth part-time job waiting for them after get off work.
After seeing how difficult life is, middle-aged people begin to become stingy. They don’t spend a penny on what they shouldn’t spend, spend as little as possible on what should be spent, save what they can, and save what they can’t and don’t waste it. .
The stinginess of middle-aged people hides their love for life and their good expectations for living.
There is a saying in northern Shaanxi: "It takes noon for fifty days." It means that at the age of fifty, like the sun after noon, it has reached the peak of life and is destined to get lower and lower, and eventually slowly slide down.
When a person reaches middle age, it is not too late. However, the real mid-life crisis is not that you have struggled for half your life and achieved nothing, but that you still have enough energy but don’t know where to go.
Someone told me that after you are 45 years old, you will know what your coffin will look like. This is not true at all. People of this age have achieved everything they should have in their careers, and have lived their lives as well as they should. If you are still not satisfied, then basically that will be the case.
When you reach middle age, you have to bow to life. If you don’t save money, life will make you gray with worry.
Five years after their divorce, my cousin and brother-in-law quietly remarried. This time there was no invitation or ceremony, and few relatives knew about it.
They divorced when they were 45 years old, which can be regarded as jumping on the trend of "children go to college and parents divorce". As their children graduated, got married, and started working, the old couple felt increasingly lonely. After a few blind dates, the two quietly "made do" together again.
My cousin said: "I have no choice, I can't find anything better, just make do with it!"
My brother-in-law said: "It costs too much to find something else, but this one costs nothing. Very good! ”
Who says money can’t buy happiness? The happiness of middle-aged people is measured by money. In this crisis-ridden age, faced with the embarrassment of having seniors and juniors, since you can't make more money, then spending less money is happiness, and you even have to be so "stingy" about finding a wife.
If stinginess can shine, the stinginess of middle-aged people can create another sun.
Gao Xiaosong said: In the second half of life, the only enemy left is yourself.
A few years ago, my uncle had liver cancer, and it was in the late stage when he was diagnosed.
I once went to the small hospital in that county to see him. The 1.8-meter-tall strong man was lying on the hospital bed as skinny as a stick, with almost no strength to speak.
My uncle is the village accountant. He has been proficient in calculating various accounts throughout his life, and he has already understood his own situation. When you start to feel pain, as long as you go to the hospital for a check-up, it should last ten or eight years.
But of his two children, the eldest is a girl, the younger son is still married, and his wife is sick and has never gone out to work. All the burden is on the uncle's body.
My uncle couldn't bear the thought of spending money to see a doctor, so he resisted not seeing a doctor.
Even now, he still doesn't use any medicines other than those covered by medical insurance, even though the effect is much better.
In the words of my uncle, there are plenty of places to spend money at home, so there is no need to waste too much on a bad life.
When people reach middle age, they are not timid, but they understand.
We learned how to be stingy, learned to wash a coat until it was loose and wear it, and packed the food we went to the hotel to take home and eat hot.
We learned how to be stingy. We fought for 20 cents and rice in the vegetable market, and the cosmetics on the dressing table were quietly replaced by Dabao.
We have learned to be stingy, holding on to every penny in our hands tightly, and not taking any cash with us when we go out. If we must bring it, we should put less money in our wallets and more money. How many layers of cloth should be wrapped...
When people reach middle age, they work hard to save money, because they cannot waste limited money on unnecessary things. They want to give the best rest of their lives to the best people, so that They have umbrellas when it rains and lights when it's dark, so they don't dare to say anything when they are sick or tired like themselves.
When people reach middle age, everyone is living hard in their own way. In order to be more stable, middle-aged people live a humble life.
They have no help and no light ahead. They can only walk step by step. They know their own sorrows and joys, but it is difficult for others to understand. The suffering cannot be described, the pain cannot be described, God will not pity, the earth cannot complain, I can only bear it silently.
Every middle-aged person lives like a wordless monument. Not a single word can be seen, only the vicissitudes of time that cannot be hidden, flowing silently in the wind and rain.
When people reach middle age, they are deeply in love and tired. Every stingy effort is a silent effort not to give up, and it is also the most affectionate confession of the years.
Being middle-aged is not easy, and it must be "picked" and cherished.