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? The Japanese film Farewell to the Dragon tells the story of an old father who bid farewell to his life. Although the story is lengthy, it is very touching.
? In the autumn of 2007, their mother Oboko's two daughters called to invite them to their father's 70th birthday party. The eldest daughter, Mary, is married to the United States, and the second daughter, Fu Mei, lives in Tokyo far from home. When the daughters came home, they learned that their father, the headmaster of a middle school, had been diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease six months ago. For this big family, my father's illness changed the life track of the family.
? Yaozi, the mother, has changed from an innocent teenage wife to a housewife who bears the burden of the family. With the development of her husband's illness, her burden became heavier and heavier. The second daughter, Fu Mei, must give up her dream and return to her hometown. Mamei, the eldest daughter living in the United States, has a growing contradiction with her husband because she cares about her father, and also alienated her son's education, leading to cracks in her family.
? The story is full of ups and downs. Father Dong Shengping always said that he would go home. Obsidian leads his daughter and bug back to their hometown with his father, but his father is still not familiar with his hometown.
? After coming back, one day, my father disappeared again. The family used the mobile phone with GPS to look for the missing Sheng Ping again. Shengping and unknown children are sitting on the merry-go-round in the amusement park. It turned out that he thought it was going to rain and rushed to the park to send umbrellas to his wife and children. In addition to her surprise, Yaozi recalled the past: when she and her daughter were playing in the amusement park, it was going to rain, and Shengping came to pick them up. I can't believe that a father who is usually so serious has such deep feelings for his wife and children under the cold appearance.
? Fu Mei's love life has not been very smooth. Later, she met her divorced classmate Dao Yan. When she wanted to develop this relationship wholeheartedly, she saw that Dao Yan had such deep feelings for her daughter and her relationship with her ex-wife was chaotic. Emotionally, she was devastated. In front of her father, she poured out her pain in tears. Unexpectedly, her less sensible father said to her, "Take your time ...". It turned out that in his father's heart, he was still wrapped in his deep love for his daughter. ...
? After seven long years, Dong Shengping finally passed away. The father of Alzheimer's disease brought profound changes to his family life in his last days. Mother completely lost her life, so tired that her retina fell off; The eldest daughter Martin has a tense relationship with her husband, and her son Bug dropped out of school because of rebellion. My second daughter, Fu Mei, is in her thirties and still single. Life is so hard!
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? When my mother died, my father was seventy years old and still strong. My father is the president of the sports association for the elderly in this city. He plays gateball occasionally and is also good at playing chess. He also likes playing cards and riding a bike.
? The change of father is a gradual process. All three children work in other places and are taken care of, but in any case, they are not as good as their mothers. I didn't pay attention to my diet and gained a lot of weight for a while. Results My blood pressure, blood lipid and blood sugar all developed in a bad direction. Two years after my mother died, my father had a sudden myocardial infarction and was rescued in time, which did not cause serious consequences, but he had a cardiac artery stent.
? After entering the age of eighty, the memory decline is very serious. Take it to the hospital for examination, saying that it is the normal functional degradation of the elderly, and it is not taken seriously. The old man went to bed early at night and got up at three or four in the morning. After getting up, they walk in the room for an hour or two, and then go out to go shopping. It's no fun wandering around, so I knock on the door of an old friend's house to chat. However, some old friends like to sleep late. Although some old friends get up early, they always knock on his door, and the rest of the family are not happy. Over time, it is not good to knock on other people's doors. My father changed his way and called my family. I often get a phone call from my father at four or five in the morning, and I am awakened in the early morning and unhappy. I chatted with the old man at first, but then I was unhappy.
? Father will be seriously ill in a year or two, and all three of us have to go home. My sister and brother came back slowly from other provinces. I am in another city and drive home for more than an hour. Basically, I went to the hospital and went to the ICU (intensive care unit).
? When you arrive in ICU, you don't need a family member to accompany you, but every patient must have a family member, sitting in the big room next to the ICU with a small bench. After a day or two, a nurse came out with a note and shouted, "someone's family, the toll station pays 50 thousand." You can't leave while waiting in the intensive care unit. Even if you go to the toilet, you should ask the family members of the patients next to you. Whose family am I? Please pay attention to it for me. If you call someone's name, let me know. In case you didn't hear the payment, the patient was quickly pushed out of bed.
? After leaving the ICU and transferring to the general ward, it is time to test the physical strength of relatives. From transfusion to eating, brushing, changing clothes and going to the toilet, every job is very tiring. Although you can hire a nurse, it is difficult to work without a nurse. Nurses will fall asleep at night and old people will kick quilts. Nurses don't care, they can only care for themselves. Until my father was discharged from the hospital, we seemed to have a serious illness.
? After 85 years old, my father's memory and cognition have basically disappeared. Sometimes he does not know us, but he knows his grandson. You can't tell which one of his memories was kept and which one was lost. One year in Tomb-Sweeping Day, I visited the grave at the monument and went home. I told my father that he looked at me doubtfully, as if he didn't understand what I was saying. I remembered that one of his comrades died in the liberation of Xiamen, so I asked him if he remembered. He said that he remembered that it was the instructor of their 3rd Battalion who died when Xiamen was liberated. Where did he come from in Jiangsu? I was so happy that I told the names of several of his comrades one by one. He remembers everything. He remembers what his position is and where he comes from. This is absolutely correct.
I'm glad my father's memory has come back! When my sister came back the next day, I told her the news, and then I asked my father where his comrade-in-arms were from. My father looked at me doubtfully and didn't answer. I asked him the name of his comrade-in-arms, but he didn't respond at all. He just looked at me blankly, and his memory was lost again. ...
? The difference between caring for the elderly and caring for the baby is that the baby grows up day by day, and caring for the baby is hope; The old people are getting old day by day, and it is a loss to take care of them.
? My father grew old day by day, his hair was unkempt, and then he was incontinent. I want to help him put on the old man's diaper, but he wants to tear it off again. The whole room smells like shit. Until one day, he gave up. ...
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? After my father left, I became an old man in my family. In the past, our brothers and sisters would come back from all over the country to celebrate the New Year with their father. Now only my family is at home for the New Year.
? I have retired for several years, and my temples are gradually frosted. But the biggest change in feelings is the decline in memory. Former colleagues and old comrades-in-arms, who used to be familiar with them, often can't remember their names and do things carelessly.
? I ran to watch TV for an hour or two while the soup was boiling in the pot. After watching TV, I remembered the soup in the pot. I ran to the kitchen to have a look. The soup is gone and the bottom of the pot is burnt black. I put the faucet on the vegetable field and watered it. I want to go to the bathroom. Drive to the supermarket to buy food after convenience. After buying the vegetables, I remembered that the tap was not turned off. I ran all the way home to turn off the tap. When I saw the vegetable field turned into a fish pond, the vegetables turned into aquatic plants.
? Once my wife and friends went out for dinner and told me to pick up the children at night. On the way, I met my friends and invited them to have tea. After tea, I said, let's have dinner together and invited four or five friends to have a drink together. It's so enjoyable! It's already eight or nine o'clock in the evening after drinking, and I have to drag myself to sing. It suddenly occurred to me to pick up the children. Oh, no! Take a taxi back.
? Pushing the door open with trepidation, the child has fallen asleep, and his wife looks smelly. I asked with a smile, "Did you have a good time?" Wife? A pink fist: "Still socializing? The child cried and called you home without eating. What the hell are you doing? Don't answer the phone! "
? Take out your mobile phone and see, more than a dozen missed calls! Only by sincerely reviewing and doing housework for a few days can we make up for my wife's mental loss.
? One day I suddenly remembered, can Alzheimer's disease be inherited? Search on Baidu immediately, and it can be inherited.
? Usually I like Xu Zhimo's poem best: "I left quietly, just as I came quietly, waving my sleeves and not taking away a cloud ..."
? I liked this poem when I was young, but I just liked its literary talent and meaning. But today, reciting this poem again has practical significance, and my heart echoes with the poem.
? Life is an express train. People keep getting on and off. When people are old, should we consider getting off the bus before we realize it?
? Tagore's poem is intoxicating: "Life is as beautiful as summer flowers and death is as beautiful as autumn leaves." Life is a train. When you get off the bus, there is no need to cling to love. Life can't be as gorgeous as summer flowers, and walking quietly like autumn leaves is also a good destination. ...