On the day I left, my colleague Chen Shuai sent me a wreath to see me off.
Naked resignation looks very chic, but in fact it needs to pay a heavy price. Leaving means giving up the big tree that once shaded you and opening up a new road of your own.
I feel nervous every day for 14 days after leaving my job. I am more worried about eating, sleeping and doing nothing after coming out than being uncertain about the future.
Until the last few days, I found a long-lost sense of satisfaction and accomplishment in the process of serving students, and I like this All In state very much.
I'm glad that I didn't mistake the platform for my own ability, but chose a road I like and walked bravely.
After leaving Shenzhen, I retired to Foshan, a second-tier city, and worked independently. From the offline point of view, it will indeed destroy many resources and opportunities.
But from the online point of view, I just changed my office and didn't have a fundamental impact on my business.
I used to think the face was important. I want to stay in the first-tier cities, and I want to mix with the cattle people in the first-tier cities.
Now that I am the owner of my own house, I find that the daily necessities, soy sauce, vinegar and tea are the real needs of an ordinary person.
Face is worthless, face can't afford to pay the mortgage, but the living expenses saved by retreating from the first line to the second line can pay the mortgage.
Some people want to pursue poetry and distance, while others quietly learn to bow to reality.
At this moment, I want to say to myself: "You who take a back seat are not losers."
Mix, the former product director of Netease, was forced to withdraw to her hometown for physical reasons, but she has always maintained an optimistic attitude.
She always said, now that I am back, I must stay at home and make a career.
So, while fighting the disease, she used her accumulated experience in Internet operation to promote her hometown.
Mix is like a fire, a fire that seems to burn forever. Every time I see her sharing in the community, it always makes people full of energy.
Yes, people with ideals can do well anywhere; People who have no desire in their hearts will never get help from mud.
If you are not in a first-tier city today, please don't feel anxious and depressed. Knowing what you want and doing it in a down-to-earth manner is the greatest success.
To do this, where people are actually less important, isn't it?
Before I left Shenzhen, I had a dinner chat with Mr. He Jia, the speech coach of cheung kong graduate school of business CEO class.
During the exchange, he asked a question that I still remember deeply: which will make you more excited, fame or profit?
My answer is the latter.
Of course, you can laugh at me for being secular, but if you have never been poor, you will not understand where the real core needs of ordinary people are.
I once met a classmate whose monthly salary was only 800 yuan. She said that she really wanted to study and change herself, but the tuition of a course would cost her half of her income.
Such students are not so much studying as living, and I generally don't teach them.
Their ultimate goal is not to study, but to gamble on the future with all their own. Once you can't meet their expectations in a short time, they will have the impulse to kill you.
This is human nature!
Money is not everything, but it can give people courage. When you make many important decisions, you don't need to worry too much about money. This is life, and vice versa.
Sometimes, I often ask myself in the middle of the night, what do you want?
I think what I want is the same as most: doing what I like and making money by the way.
Fortunately, something like this was discovered recently.
I am willing to share. I am willing to always practice the value behind the brand image of "giving money to others" to help a group of people who deserve help and go further with them by the way.
As Mr. Jingang, a student who runs a special training camp in a circle of friends, said, we are not stingy to find our own sincerity to help the right people.
The world is always fair. If you want something, you should strive for it!
You envy others for their leisure and money, but you don't know how many pits they stepped on, how much they suffered and how much they spent.
You envy the mermaid line exposed by other people's votes, but you probably won't remember that when you were lying on the sofa eating delicious candy and chasing a drama, others were sweating in the gym.
You envy those young and promising post-90 s, and you think they are gifted, but you probably don't know that they have a state called all seasons.
The more you envy others, the more anxious you are. The more you hide the goodness of others, the more you fail.
If you want to be one in a million, please choose a road you like and go on bravely.
A nanny often asks at home, "Teacher, what should I do to make money?" Can you teach me how to make money? "
I can understand the anxiety of these precious mothers. They want to make money, contribute to their families and have a sense of accomplishment and participation, but taking care of their children will fragment their time and make them unable to concentrate on things.
As outsiders, we can see clearly, but we are often at a loss. After all, you can't control other people's lives.
The only thing I can do is to persuade them to do less, do better and do something closer to money.
What do you mean by ordinary people? What is an excellent person?
Ordinary people just want to walk thousands of roads at night, get up during the day and take the old road. They think too much and do too little. No ideal, no goal, always change your trajectory and do whatever you want.
Excellent people, however, are determined to devote all their time and energy to the field they really love, and will never give up until they reach their goals.
Sometimes when things are done, money is naturally earned. The terrible thing is that some people will never know what they really want to do.
First of all, what's your hobby? Ask yourself what you really like to do.
Second, what skills do you have? What kind of problems can your skills solve?
Third, what are you willing to spend your prime time on?
Fourth, what resources do you have that will enable you to better accomplish what you want to do?
Take out a notebook and follow these four aspects to find the biggest intersection, that is, the road you may take in the future.
When the road is chosen, do everything you should do well according to the picture below. The compound interest of time will give you what you want.
The premise is:
You should have the courage to choose what you want, give up what you should give up and move forward bravely.
Finally, I want to find a way I like and live my life according to my own wishes.