In fact, to be honest, I feel more and more that modern mothers are not very competent. This "ability" does not mean that mothers do not love their children, but that most modern young people have their own children when their children are still very naive. Now the incompetence of mom and dad can be said to be the product of social progress, and it can also be said to be a desalination of human independence consciousness! I remember one time when I took a taxi with my children, I met a particularly embarrassing thing. I sat in the front row with my children. At that time, Xin Xin was only a little over 1 year old. Actually, I protected Xinxin with my hands. Just left a little, I was taught a lesson by the taxi driver: "How did you become a mother? You took the bus so carelessly and held the child so tightly! " Then he sighed and said, "If you are so careless, you can take care of your children as a child?" Alas, I am speechless. According to my own temper, I was supposed to scold the driver, but I still laughed it off. I wanted to get off at that time, because that feeling made me feel ashamed. On the one hand, I think the driver said this for my own good, and it's not good for the child to hit anywhere, but I'm just a little angry, and the child won't let me hug him because of curiosity, so I just protect the child lightly.
In fact, which mother doesn't love her children? Why did she say "poverty spreads the wind"? According to my understanding, it is probably a deformed love caused by different ways of love! Gorky once said: When it comes to love, this is what hens do! Not only love your children, but also know how to love them!
Indeed, loving children is also an art, and it is also the knowledge that our mothers should study seriously! Nowadays, I often see many children who are obsessed with the internet in the news. Is it because these children are not loved and hurt? I don't know that such a child is not lacking in love, but lacking the correct love from the family! Most of them are only children now. Even my generation, not an only child, grew up spoiled. Children who grow up in such an environment do not know how to love themselves, let alone their parents and people around them. This is a very sad social problem! Now I like to go to the book market once in a while to read books about how to educate children and books that children can read by themselves. I read many books on how to cultivate children to know love in the book market. I think such a book is very good!
How should young mothers love their children now? How can children learn to love others? Everyone knows that a newborn child can be compared to a blank sheet of paper, and whether the content on the blank sheet is beautiful or not is closely related to the mother, and is inseparable from the love, environment and everything given by the mother! I remember when I was a child, my father asked me to recite The Amethyst. So I bought this book for my daughter now. Although my daughter still can't understand the meaning, just as I often tell her to recite Tang poems intentionally or unintentionally, I think she will understand it one day. I believe this sentence very much, and it is not the first time to mention it; People on earth are good at living. Since the child is still learning English, our mother began to wonder what the child really wants to express. Children have their own language and ideas. As the child grows up, his self-awareness becomes stronger and stronger, just as his daughter often expresses dissatisfaction with me now: "Don't hit me ... I don't hate it ... Hehe, the child is growing up day by day, listening to the innocence of the child. When children grow up one day, the problems parents encounter are also increasing. You should look for and find problems in changing things, and you can't stay the same. The attitude towards a one-year-old child should never be applied to a three-year-old child. Although the result will not be seen for a while, I think this truth is like the truth of "survival of the fittest". If you can't understand children's psychology, you will certainly encounter many problems when educating children. Especially in several key stages of children's development, it is easy to cause abnormal psychological development of children, and may go to extremes. They prefer solitude to sociability, so it is easy for children to go astray! Therefore, mothers must first understand their children, respect their children and truly love their children!
After truly letting children feel the love from their families, we should also teach them how to love others. Many children nowadays "only know how to love themselves, but not others". In fact, children have a kind heart when they are very young. I remember that Xinxin once saw a little sister skating and wrestling and cut her foot. On one side, Yan Yan looked at her mother changing the dressing for her sister with a sad face. Sometimes my sister cries very sadly, and Xinxin feels very painful. This situation makes us all feel very funny, but we feel a little sigh for her daughter's sympathy. After all, the child's heart is pure! If you can make your child feel your love for her, I think she will also learn how to love others. Mothers are children's first teachers and the most important people, so we should set an example and teach children how to love others in daily life. For example, there is often a crawling person (lame) on the road in front of our shop. When Xinxin saw it for the first time, she stared at it and shouted, "Look at mom, look at mom ..." So I told Xinxin that that person was very poor. He has no legs and can't walk, so he can only crawl. Later, Yan Yan stopped asking me to see it every time she saw it. She just looked at it silently for a while until it was out of sight. I think it is very important to teach children how to love others. We don't want our children to be children who feed themselves fish and give their mothers fish heads in the future!