Some time ago, a young man in Wuhan left a message on the Internet asking the government to allocate his girlfriend, which immediately caused an uproar on the Internet. Seeing the news, I couldn't help laughing. In reality, there will be more than one such boy. People often say that he is straight. This young man who asks for a girlfriend must be a serious straight man. In fact, most of the so-called straight men are science and engineering men. The characteristics of science and engineering men are usually calm, rational, realistic, emotionally stable and calm when things go wrong. They have their own understanding mode and way of thinking about love.
Liu Xinci is the idol of many science and engineering men, and his sci-fi creation with wide brain holes has captured the admiration of a large number of science and engineering men. The love story he described in "Three-body" can well represent the love view of science and engineering men. There are only two relatively complete love stories, namely, two generations of swordsmen, Luo Ji and Cheng Xin.
Luo Ji people set Gao Flyer as a double bachelor in astronomy and sociology, a cynical university professor. He first created a perfect girl according to his own imagination and dated the girl created by this imagination. Later, he entrusted Dashi (an unruly and superior policeman in the novel) to find an identical girl according to his own imagination. The language he uses is not a vivid description of the external image at all, but a series of stories that happened with a beautiful girl in his imagination. Then Mahayana marks the girl's age, education, height, family background and so on like a criminal, and then he can paint her exactly the same.
Later Mahavamsa took out the portrait and found a girl named Dai Yan, who lived with Luo Ji for five years as if she had completed a work task, and a child over one year old. No matter how many words are used in the book to describe their happy life together, I really can't imagine how this "happy" love exists aesthetically.
I remember many years ago, a science and engineering person once told me that he would count all the girls around him with a table, then classify them, and separate different characteristics in his own way, such as beauty, personality, education and so on, and give different scores. Every time I meet these people, I will add and subtract points for the people in the table with the details I find. According to his idea, after a long period of observation, he can pick out the one with the highest score among these people, then pursue it, and then hit it with one blow without wasting useless time and energy. This is essentially the same as Luo Ji's concretization and truthfulness (seeking in reality) of his imaginary lover.
I don't know the final result, how he ended his love and marriage. But what I can be sure of is that the girl who once appeared in his form must not be the one in the marriage. When he scored the highest score, the building should be empty.
As Mahavamsa said, every man's dream lover is roughly the same. The dream lovers of science and engineering men are usually: good-looking, slim, with a height of 1.6 meters (but not more than their own height), with a bachelor's degree (not low or high), artistic temperament and elegant aesthetic ability, and a good family background. They keep looking in reality, but they are always more and more disappointed. Not everyone has the resources to search the world like Luo Ji in the novel. So he began to help, laugh at himself and ask for a girlfriend.
I never understood how such a body could collide with a soul. Love should not be the union of two souls? Shouldn't love be accepted and tolerated because of love? Love should be to accept and tolerate each other's shortcomings and correct their own problems for each other in order to achieve a balance.