Thinking because of the unintentional words of others;
Lose one's temper because something is wrong.
The position of the heart is so big that it is difficult to be happy if it is occupied by too many troubles.
Wang Anshi said, "If you love yourself, you can also love others." .
Learn to love yourself before you can really love others.
Learn to make yourself happy, so as not to be disturbed by the outside world and live up to the rest of your life.
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Don't be too sensible and easily wronged.
In the TV series "Qingpingle", Queen Cao made many people feel distressed.
On the wedding night, I didn't even go to see Queen Cao, leaving her alone. Queen Cao not only didn't blame him, but also wisely prepared breakfast for him the next morning.
Queen Cao has caught a cold and hasn't recovered for several days. This is the time when she needs comfort and care most, but she didn't tell Song Renzong, fearing that he would be distracted, but she just worked hard alone.
On one occasion, I borrowed a courtesy from Queen Cao because of my love.
At that time, the ceremonial symbol of the queen's authority, in the face of insolence, Queen Cao generously lent ceremonial, just for the harmony of the harem, and did not want to be embarrassed.
She was left out and didn't care; Be wronged and keep quiet. So generous and decent, he won the praise of all the ministers in the DPRK, but only wronged himself.
Xu Zhimo once said: "Foolish people like to give their hearts, and they may be cheated, but they may not get others." "
In life, there are always such silly people, no matter who they are passionate about, they are sincere.
Over time, your kindness and gentleness have become cowardice in the eyes of others.
So if you think too much about others, you often can't get real happiness.
Sensible people are always used to "pretending", and behind everything they do for others, there are actually too many grievances and sorrows hidden.
Always take care of other people's feelings and concerns, the result is often to fulfill others, but only to wronged themselves.
Always take care of this and that, but who will take care of you?
Don't carry all the difficulties by yourself, and don't swallow all the grievances by yourself.
Learn to take care of your feelings for the rest of your life Say when you are tired, and explain when you are embarrassed.
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Don't think too much, you get tired easily.
Lin Daiyu in A Dream of Red Mansions is brilliant and charming, but she is a typical "over-thinking".
She always thinks for a long time because of a casual sentence from others; Because someone else's careless move affected the mood of the whole day.
Once, Daiyu heard a woman swear: "You worthless woman, what are you, to spoil things in this garden?"
In fact, the woman is scolding her granddaughter, but the sensitive Lin Daiyu suspects that the other party is scolding herself and thinks that she is in the way here.
So, Daiyu, who returned to her room, cried sadly and fainted, and her condition worsened.
On another occasion, Daiyu overheard a conversation between xiren and Baoyu.
Aroma said, "Did you give all you have to others?"
Baoyu said, "Yes, they are all from me."
When Daiyu heard this, she was very angry when she thought that the sachet she gave Baoyu was also given to others.
He asked Baoyu again, "Did you give them the purse I gave you? If you want my things again, I won't give them to you. "
Before Baoyu could explain, she was so angry and annoyed that she cut the sachet that Baoyu had bothered her to make.
It was a misunderstanding, but Daiyu became angry from embarrassment and was in a bad mood to the extreme.
If you think too much, your heart will be tired and people will be tired.
There is a saying in the Book of the New Tang Dynasty: "There is nothing in the world, and much ado about nothing."
In fact, life is like a blink of an eye. All causes and effects have their own arrangements, whether it is a blessing or a curse.
Sometimes, mental fatigue, physical fatigue and human fatigue are all caused by thinking too much. Unreasonable guesses are often asking for trouble.
Life is short, relax, troubles will stay away and happiness will come.
As the Zen poem in "No Gate Pass" said: "It is a good time to mind your own business."
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Don't be angry all the time, it will affect your mood.
"Xunzi" said: "I can't get rid of anger, and I can't be happy."
There will always be unpleasant things in life. If you often worry about it, it will only increase your troubles and affect your life.
I have seen such a story on the Internet:
Once, Harris, a famous writer, and his good friend bought a newspaper at a roadside newsstand. The stall owner looked indifferent and never said hello to them.
Harris saw the vendor's indifference and didn't want to talk to him. But my friend smiled and said "thank you" to the vendor.
After leaving, Harris asked curiously, "Does this guy have a bad attitude?"
The friend said, "He is always like this, and everyone who knows him knows it."
Harris asked again, "Then why are you so polite to him? I didn't see you angry either? "
The friend said, "I decide my mood." Why should I let him decide my behavior? And affect my mood? "
It is the stupidest behavior to punish yourself with other people's mistakes.
It is wise not to be influenced by others.
Angry things are inevitable in life. If you fly into a rage, your decision will be affected.
People who are often angry are also suffering.
There is a saying in the song "Kuanxin Ballad": "At sunrise, the East China Sea will set in the West Mountain, and one day you will be angry and happy. When something goes wrong, people are comfortable and their hearts are comfortable. "
No matter what happens and who you meet, it is the wisdom of life to learn to resolve the anger in your heart.
In life, we often encounter many things that make our emotions out of control. Losing your temper is instinct, and repression is skill.
Napoleon once said, "A man who can control his emotions is greater than a general who can win an ideal city."
It is a great ability not to be influenced by bad emotions when something goes wrong.
As the saying goes, "When dealing with kind people, there are fewer disputes and more smiling friends."
Only by having an optimistic attitude and giving yourself a reason to be happy every day can we feel happy.
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It is better to please yourself than to please others.
I saw a couplet on the Internet:
"Part I: Don't guess, don't be satisfied."
"Bottom line: It's hard to understand and look down upon."
In the final analysis, life is mood.
At present, we are tired because there are too many things to control our mood, human sentiment, weather changes, ability and money. ...
Sometimes some trivial things can make your heart roll and suffer.
Don't compromise yourself to cater to others;
Don't let your heart be exhausted because you think too much;
Don't ruin your mood because of a little thing.
No matter how big this year is, it will disappear next year.
Sometimes we can't change the reality, so we have to change ourselves and adjust our mentality appropriately.
Never mind, don't think too much, and don't be too sensible. You will find that life is really beautiful and comfortable.
Life is short, life is not easy, learn to make yourself happy, and happiness will come to you naturally.